Gargoyle, I am sure you mean well but I have not TOLD my daughter what to do since she was 14 or so;she is her own woman and has been living away from home for three years now. I was merely expressing the fact that I would miss her, since visits will be reduced by her being at such a distance.

Further to that, I cannot follow Spaw or anyone else's advice, it is indeed her decision. I am merely using my kind and knowledgable friends in the States to get some real background to inform her decision, particularly as it would be an expensive and time consuming task to visit in person.

Thanks for all your help everyone, I have posted her a link and hopefully, it will help....information is power or so they tell me.