The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #54172   Message #837335
Posted By: NicoleC
29-Nov-02 - 02:59 PM
Thread Name: BS: bullying advice
Subject: RE: BS: bullying advice
Ireland, I'm glad your son is talking to you about this! The only "bully" in this situation seems to be the teacher -- s/he lets one student off but not the other. You son seems to be handling himself pretty well, although retaliation doesn't help.

I don't know what does help. I was bullied as a kid and I dealt with it by fading into the background and becoming invisible. Withdrawing from society is not the solution either; I've spent a lot of years trying to break those habits. I don't know if it was true or not when adults told me it was my fault I was being bullied, but I do know it wasn't a very productive way to handle the situation to make me feel personally responsible for the bad behavior of others.

It sounds like the teacher either needs to get some training on handling discipline, or s/he needs to find another career. Like Eric says, lodging formal complaints with his/her supervisors may be the best course of action.

I think it might help to discuss conflict resolution strategies with your son. History has plenty of conflicts to learn from.