Joe, this is not the victim's problem, it's the bully & anyone that allows this to continue, aware of it or not, once pointed out it's everyone's problem but the victim's. There's not one reason in the world that should force the victim to become part of some bully's recovery. This should be handled by the schools or like it was handled in my neighorhood when i was a kid, the bully was shunned until they stood corrected but I don't think there are many of those types of neighborhoods anymore. It still takes a village to raise protect a child. Would you ask the child victim of sexual abuse to try & work it out with their attacker or try to understand why they've been raped & why the attacker did this to them (IT'S NOT THEIR FAULT) or explaine why it was partly their fault & what they could do to prevent this from happening to them again & again & again. Joe I don't mean to yell but this behavior is CRIMINAL it's child abuse by another child. Barry