The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #54172   Message #837732
Posted By: wysiwyg
30-Nov-02 - 11:35 AM
Thread Name: BS: bullying advice
Subject: RE: BS: bullying advice
I have not read the thread, so if the following has not already been posted--

Ask your son what HE thinks needs to happen, and keep listening as he vents and gets at his own excellent assessment of the situation. Then back him up in pursuit of THAT, continually asking (as he refines it over time), what he needs from you in order to bring about a change. You have to furninsh the confidence that change can come about, because he doesn't have much yet, so you may need a support person yourself who is not involved, to have a place to vent your own discouragement and fear for him.

He needs to know that you believe in him and that you have values that can be brought to bear in this.

~Susan