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Thread #54172   Message #837841
Posted By: katlaughing
30-Nov-02 - 03:16 PM
Thread Name: BS: bullying advice
Subject: RE: BS: bullying advice
Just to clarify: by "victim-head" I did not mean the person has done anything on a conscious level, or that they have deliberately gone looking for abuse. I do not believe in blaming a targetperson, BUT I do believe we must watch our body language and what attitude/personality we project, esp. when around bullies. If we think of ourselves as at the mercy of the bullies, with no recourse or helpful action, THEN we have placed ourselves in a vicitm-head status, allowing the bully all of the power. That doesn't mean we should be abused, just to learn more self-confidence in ourselves and our body language, etc.