No, here's what's wrong. As much as I hate to remember or restate this fact, here it is: My five year old daughter, in kindergarten, with a real rainbow of races in her class, told me about one boy pulling one girl's pigtails (or some such event.) I said: "Maybe he has a crush on her." She said: "No. A tan boy couldn't have a crush on a brown girl." This really blew my mind. Shet gets NONE of that kind of thinking from her home environment. I may be white, but no: None of that. And she was cared for for three years by a black woman, whom she loved and still loves. She said to me that one black girl in her class "is the nicest person I have ever met." Her best friend in her class is a very dark native american.

There is something very innate about this problem. It is not purely a cultural development.