'Falling' in love says a lot. Today,I'd much rather be clear headed. Falling in love to me was the stage when I and my partner were eagerly feeding each other the information and feedback that made us feel understood and valued at that moment beyond what anyone but ourselves had ever thought about ourselves.

I imagine that stage is fairly indispensable, (how else can one become interested in proceeding further?) but it isn't actually love itself.

On the other hand, I'm probably missing the point!