Nicole- I agree with you about HMOs paying for fertility payments but not birth control. It surely might make some difference. I also think that invitro fertilization is unacceptable killing of embryos. A human life is a human life is a human life, to me. If you scroll back, you'll see I'm fairly consistent on this point.

Adoption? Absolutely. As I have never had any trouble getting pregnant : ) (see references to my three sons under age 5) and as it costs somewhere in the neighborhood of $30,000 to adopt in NYS, I opted for the easier method of conceiving babies with my hubby. I have a friend, however, who has not had such an easy time of it. After realizing she and her husband could not conceive without spending scads of money and doing lots of questionable things, they decided to spend the same scads of money by rescuing some babies who were unwanted. These "anti-choice" friends of mine are white, for your reference.

They adopted 2 babies who were born to crack addicted mothers. Are these kids blonde-haired and blue-eyed? Nope. They are not. Plus, they screamed almost constantly for the first 3 years of their lives. Then my friends tried to adopt again, but $60,000 later, after adopting the "kids no one wanted" (social services said) they were running a little low on cash.

They found that with $20,000 they could adopt a little girl, disabled, from Thailand. So they did.

Before you say, "Must be nice to be so rich..." my friends are not. He works a job that brings in about $35,000 annually and she stays home with the kids. They have a small apartment and drive an old car and live very, very humbly. How'd they afford it? They're in debt up to their eyeballs.

Please don't flame me about them being exceptions to the rule. I have several friends who've adopted these abandoned babies "of color" as someone here put it. Amongst the pro-life people I know, these people are the rule. I think, again, the problem is coming down to how pro-life people are portrayed in mass media.

I also think, since someone brought it up, that adoption is much too difficult in this country. There is a church somewhere out on the west coast that is pushing the theory that adoption should be free of charge to people who can provide a good home. I think that is a fantastic idea. I'd love to be the Old Woman in a Shoe. Problem is, if I'm doling out thirty grand to put an adoption through, I won't be able to feed the munchkin.