One thing I have noticed is that people talk about repeated relationship breakups. I am of the opinion that we are not designed (or did not evolve if you prefer) to handle numerous problems of this sort...Certainly one broken heart when we are 15 and perhaps another later on and perhaps a loss through death...but multiple people walking out on us...I don't think most of us are capable of it. (I'm either very fortunate or very careful because I haven't had too much of that and I would far rather be a spinster than a revolving door). I think we need to rethink this whole "relationship" thing and, without imposing it on others, decide if we want serial relationships and serial broken hearts or the clear-cut distinction between marriage and perhaps nothing at all. (This is generic rambling and not related to the specific situation...I know this one was hopefully heading toward marriage). And screen really carefully to know that you and the other are on the same wavelength as this, and don't believe for a minute that a "relationship" will somehow grow into a marriage. It may and it may not. mg