Agreed Steve. Not everything fits. However i have taken a certain comfort from the fact that behaviour and reaction to situations that was beginning to make life difficult not just for me but for those who were close to me was explicable, and understood. I don't say to people "Oh by the way I've got Aspergers" I don't believe I have, but on the scale of one to a hundred with Autism being 80-100 and Aspergers 60-80 I think many creative people would put themselves between 50 to 60.
I had a marvellous moment recently when staying with another singer/musician who could be classed as eccentric. We went out together with a group of people and both made for the "Gunfighter" seat. This is the seat at the furthest edge of a group, generally against a wall so there is no one behind, and facing the rest of the room.We found we both were obsessed with getting this seat in any room or gathering and eventually he thought I was more obsessed than he was and let me have the seat. On the outside looking in. This marvellous man also admitted to an obsession when parking the car. The more spaces available the less his chance of picking one. He would drive from one empty space to another until he felt comfortable with where he was. This could take a considerable time.Plus a hugely understanding wife. His wife and mine had a great time exchanging stories of such difficult eccentricities in their husbands.