Naemanson, you hit my hot button by your gross generalization separating all singles into 2 possible categories. Yes, there is an urge to merge. But couplehood only happens when two people choose each other. From comments in this thread there seem to be a lot of people may have followed the urge more than their heads & have some regrets.

I would never assume they are permanantly single by choice. They are single now because they have not attained that mutual choice needed for couplehood. It may be because the one they want doesn't want them, or the reverse. It may be because there's no one they now know that they are interested in. Not actively looking does not me not open the the possibility.

I know & have known too many people who would like to be coupled & are not for whatever reason to say something stupid like that they choose to be single. Yes, there are people who have actively chosen singleness. But there are probably at least as many, if not more who are in the state of just not having chosen (or been chosen) for whatever reason.

Hopefully what we would all do is look for a people to have a relationships with, not states to be in.