In life you have to make choices. It is not possibly to have your cake and eat it. It is not possible to be 'one of the lads' if you also wish to exert power and pass your personal judgement upon them.

Can those with the power, make their choice please?

To make their personal comments and express their opinions in the threads with all of us, or to place little coloured personal comments, after taking action or when passing judgement upon us.

Perhaps possibly the very best choice they can make is to do neither but to go away and leave the rest of us to it?