Jerry, I think that line you used-"The greatest things that we do, are out of love" Is a great line. Sounds like a song there. I also think what you and your wife did for your neighbor was a wonderful thing and very kind. Yours and Ebbie's stories welled my eyes!
Gern, I think my story is similar to yours although my Dad is still living on his own. It has been a few years but I decided not to make a move that took me far away from my parents. My Mom died suddenly, leaving Dad on his own. Me being the closest child, I am here for him now, even when he considers me a pain in the butt when I'm always checking in on him! I know he appreciates the fact that I am here and close. I've had to get him into the hospital on three different occasions now, so I know he is grateful that I am around. I am not boasting or want congradulations, I just decided, I will bloom where I am planted. As long as my dad is still living, I choose to be here for him if he needs me. I will also take him into my home if it comes to that.