Gee, I think I may have said something incorrectly... re visitors... he only wants certain vistors. His buddies. No relatives who are not buddies, especially any ex-relatives... hey, he holds a grudge... it's his choice. And, no relatives he loves near the end... no sisters, brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles, none - not near the end.

Yes, being with someone when they pass can be a very loving and beautiful experience. I was with my father when he passed. The details are not pretty but the fact is that I was there and I spoke to him and I believe he heard me. I cannot imagine the pain and loneliness of passing alone... no physical or mental pain could be worse. I hope I can be there for my buddy.