You know, I hear people say that friendship and sex don't work, but I don't get it, I agree with Dave Bryant up there, I think nothing works better. Usually the ambitions for something grander than friendship are an alibi for commiting to something far less--some sort of narcissistic-projection disease of one's brain. I think people must mean "friendship" and sex don't work--somebody has to want something else in there, that messes it up.

I've been having casual sex for more than twenty years with my best friend--it was only serious a couple of times, 8 years ago, and six.

SJ, good luck, and remember, most likely you're just lumber and drywall and stuff, so she can build her own guy. Nothing wrong with a little remodeling, for most of us. But for ambitious projects I recommend women get a guy in high school. That's not sarcasm, it's my life.