Something for the back of the mind -

I have had two separate young male acquaintances who were invited to have "just for fun" sex, and in both cases the females involved deliberately arranged to become pregnant.

In one case, it was because "the bio-clock" was running down. In the second, it was the hope that becoming pregnant would "secure a relationship."

Both mothers immediately assured the guys that they intended to raise the children themselves and "didn't want any support" and that the guys would not be "obligated."

In both cases there were occasions for application for "assistance," and in both cases the state agencies demanded and obtained identification of the fathers, obtained court orders for paternity tests, and applied financial "attachments" to the rest of their lives - including, in both cases, massive amounts of "back child support." The mothers were not given a choice in the matter.

Both of the females were "fruit cakes." Neither of the guys considered their "one night partner" a candidate for any kind of long term relationship. (Although in both cases, they were long-term acquantances.)

In any relationship there is the possiblity of "hidden agendas." Such agendas are most likely, and least likely to be revealed when you deal with "fruitcake" personalities (male or female).

Enjoy fair, honest, and pleasing relations(hips) with people where you can - but be very cautious with unknown or unstable personalities.

John