Dear Mudcat Forum,

I've read your posts for years and I guess I never really believed any of them. I never thought it would happen to me but then I met Rhonda at a folk festival. She said she was "into free expression"..



Naw! Don't do it, Shakey Joe. Take it from a guy who's been with a "bit of a fruitcake" or two in his time. You'll regret it later. Casual sex doesn't work out unless you're off on vacation far from home and will never see her again. It's not just her attitude towards it; it's also yours. How will you feel seeing her with someone else afterwards?

Sex, like money, changes everything. In both cases, if your heart ain't in it, you're better off playing with your instrument alone.

And just because you think it's all discussed and worked out honestly and openly ahead of time, that won't mean Jack Schitt afterwards. Once you've planked each other, all bets are off, man. Somebody's getting hurt, if there's no ongoing relationship.

Dating sucks. But it's how we meet and get together with those we're meant to. Sex is the best way to spend your time, but it gets a whole lot better with time spent with the same person. You know that, right?

But maybe you'll just have to piss on the `lectric fence for yourself and see...