The Turtles International club has a membership test consisting of questions that sound like they have dirty answers, but don't.

e.g. What's a four-letter word for intercourse? TALK.

The problem with not talking about it first, is the unspoken assumptions that get made. Casual sex can be a wonderful thing IF that's really what you want and you understand that's what you're getting.

A year ago, I had a fling that I hoped and prayed was more than a fling. It wasn't. I'm still all broken up over it. I'm a man, she's a woman, we're both in our 30s. Haven't I learned anything by now?

'Then he took out his penknife, it was both long and sharp...'

Sam