I'm sorry about your 'friend', Kendall. Danged. I find myself in the position of just staying away for now from some family- they know where I stand, and they're welcome to discuss it/me amongst themselves- but I don't want the hassle and frayed tempers. To me it's apparent they refuse to look at facts that mandate a certain conclusion; while they, I believe, would say that it's all gossip and that loyalty in their book (implying, unlike in mine)is an essential quality. (Ya can't win.)