...difficult to give a coherent answer without some more info, kat. What are the actual problems and what are the temporary but not really good solutions as opposed to the solutions that are instant fixes?

   Good sex goes a long way to make people feel better and that's not usually a bad idea if it's safe.... A bowl of ice cream might only be bad for a diabetic....eliciting mutual support is always a good idea...good sleep, a good diet, exercise and hydration go a long way in making physical problems better...even though I'm a therapist I like the natural solutions to problems as much as the hocus pocus...harpy