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Thread #59526 Message #949389
Posted By: NicoleC
09-May-03 - 12:01 PM
Thread Name: BS: When do you become a grownup? (Study)
Subject: RE: BS: When do you become a grownup? (Study)
Well I thought the "study" (which was more of an opinion poll) was hardly a revelation. Sorry, but getting married and/or having kids doesn't make you an adult, it simply means you got married and/or had kids. I know some great parents; but I also know wothers who can't take responsibility for their own emotional and mental well-being, let alone others. And plenty of people get married looking for someone to take care of them -- which is an abdication of responsibility, not a sign of it.
Many folks are grown up by the time they get married, etc. But many more aren't! Being an adult is as much about your mental and emotional state as it is a social contract, and no social event is going to be able to judge that.
I thought some of the other items -- like moving out of your parent's house and being financially self-supporting were more appropriate gauges of one's ability to grow up and cut the cord from the parents and living a life as an individual. When your parents don't have to take care of you any more, isn't that the best sign that childhood is over?