The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #59526   Message #953707
Posted By: *daylia*
16-May-03 - 09:21 AM
Thread Name: BS: When do you become a grownup? (Study)
Subject: RE: BS: When do you become a grownup? (Study)
From the study being discussed:

"Interesting tidbit
While those who are younger than 30 are the least likely to rank being married or having children as important criteria for being an adult, those who are older and married rate these as more important. "This probably reflects in large part a shift in values across generations away from traditional family values," Smith told Reuters."


Now I'm wondering if the said difference in attitudes toward maturity and marriage/parenthood really reflects a "shift in values across the generations"? Or are there certain "grown-up" qualities -- like delayed gratification, patience, selflessness, fidelity -- that are more likely to be "called to action" and developed more fully within people who choose marriage and parenthood?

It's just that I've often noticed subtle personality differences between the "family types" and the "perpetual singles" among my friends and acquaintances, though I've never quite been able to put my finger on exactly what it is that's different. Always thought it had to be due to more than just the fact that perpetual singles are more likely to get enough sleep, don't have as many financial pressures etc. Hmmmmmmm

daylia

PS -- Amos, of course I didn't mean that anyone should "go about becoming destitute or broken, in order to provide others an opportunity for generosity. "

I was trying to point out that the less fortunate do provide the rest of us with very valuable opportunities to exercise the finer qualities of human nature. And they are also living examples/proof of the economic/social conditions which sorely need "fixing" within the culture at large -- like poverty and unemployment, alcoholism/drug addiction, ethnic/class discrimination, family breakdown etc.

If recognized as the social "barometers" that they really are, the destitute can be seen as providing an important -- if unpleasant -- "service" indeed. But please understand - I'm certainly not calling for more homelessness and poverty by saying that!