Get someone to show you how to hold them, Peter--Find a restaurant with Flamenco dancers, call for a reservation and go. Ask one of them to show you how to hold them, and how to get them to speak. While your at it, strike up a conversation with the guitar player(he/she plays the same rhythm patterns that the dancers use, both with their feet and with the castanets).

you'll learn some music, and it will do you good to get out--