Russ, you are absolutely right. At least, it fits my experience. And the experience of some close friends of mine, whose band broke up, leaving bad feelings all around. Three of the four members got sick and tired of dealing with the one who answered every difference of opinion, every question of taste, every intuitive feeling, with an argument based on music theory. She won almost every battle, owing to her tenacity and her superior knowledge, but lost the war, because nobody wanted to play with her any more. Sad but true.