Jim, unless I misunderstood the following statement (context is sometimes difficult to assess here), I think it points out what your statements imply to me:
....These girls needed someone to remind them of all the good in their lives,not someone to offer an impossible operation..and a promise of meeting Allah in the holy land...
That statement implied to me that you were almost sneering at the faith that these women had in their God. But that was the basis, it seems to me, of their decision. Their absolute belief in their afterlife and redemption allowed them accept the risk as being not much of a risk at all. You seem to imply that that is ridiculous and makes their value system foolish. The only thing that is important is living in this world. That is why you are coming off the way you are here. Many of us do not fear death, in fact we consider it as just one more waypoint in the journey. Death is only a consideration as to how we live. It is but one more factor to weigh.
I would hope that I would be as fearless, and faithful, to my beliefs the next time I am staring into the breach. I have often said that I see heroes every day. These two women were very heroic. God be good to them.
Live your life by your values, sir. Just don't condemn others who do the same.