PoppaGator,
I agree with you on all counts above. Which is why I looked for a teacher first and only came here secondly, hoping I could convey my problems articulately. Long run, maybe the way to go for me is to get my paws on a video. Tho I am going to a birthday blowout contra dance this weekend where there will be many musicians. I'll try to tap into their knowledge to see if they can help me.

Thanx to everyone who has given ideas and opinions so far.

Homeless.