It appears I spoke a bit too soon. I got her down for a chat and we talked abit about our insecurities. LIke how she goes into self protection mode and so goes into a shell to prevent herself from being hurt, mainly because she has bbeen hurt so bad before.
Then we talked about my own insecurities, to make her understand that she is not the only one who has been hurt badly in the past...
Then we talked about other things and I said that I could be there in a few months if we work together. She made me promise to accept her help. So everything is cool now.