Doggone it Rick, there you go again ... starting another good thread! My first wife and I were married for 26 years. After five years of no children we adopted our now 38 year old son. He was 5 weeks old at the time of placement. After the adoption, and one surgery, we had two more children. We raised our oldest son with the knowledge that he was adopted. Our adoption experience was so good that my wife has made a full career of adoption work herself (she's damned good at it). At the age of 16, our son discovered quite a bit of information about his birth parents that none of us, especially him, were prepared for. It happened through an unfortunate accident. No one is to blame. Shit happens. This really sent him into a tailspin and he's not fully recovered yet. Though my first wife and I are divorced, our family is very intact and tight and we are all good friends. In fact, and this makes me smile a lot, all three of my now grown children live together. And they all love "Bride Judy" very much. My point is that these adoption issues, such as: who were my birth parents; and especially, why did they give me up ... are HUGE issues. I really don't think it's possible for someone to fully understand the impact unless it's YOU. I mean that. It's good to be able to help bring contact, and information and closure, but the process can be hell. Thanks again for opening this subject! Chers, Bob