Well, I agree with the last part of Spaw's remark, at least...a backed-up septic tank is not a good way to start your stay in a new home!

It already sounds as if you are less overwhelmed, coping better, can see a little farther ahead. I've lived in the (very rural) country now for over 30 years, but up until 2 yrs ago always with a man who was the epitome of resourceful, could do everything from butchering a hog to running new wiring. A crack shot, he killed all desperate varmints, was able to sew up minor dog cuts with skill and aplomb and was good in an emergency. When he died unexpectedly I was not only bereft but panicked. What would I do if a rabid skunk arrived at the door (as one had a few years ago), not even knowing which end of a gun to point? How would I manage when a(nother) piece of our old shack crumbled away?

In the past couple of years I've gotten answers to all my panicky questions. Shortly after John died a huge rattlesnake appeared in the back yard. In desperation I called a neighbor, but by the time he got here with his gun the snake had sloped off. When the snake reappeared in the front yard the next morning, not 10 ft from the house I realized I was going to hve to deal with it myself...and I did, with a hoe, screaming the entire time. I've had plumbing problems (inc. the backed up septic scenario), electrical problems, have had to deal with new fencing, a hearth under the wood stove (and getting all my own firewood). And have found that a lot of what seemed insurmountable can be attacked with a phone, a phonebook and a checkbook. The longer you are in the area the more connected you will be...and the more connected the more easily you will be able to find good service people.

Hang in there, Barbara...I think you are doing a splendid job already. Feel free to PM me if you want to complain, whine or wail like a banshee...I've done them all and boy does it feel good!

Nancy