Spaw, if that's what Kendall's really like, does that mean I shouldn't invite him to use my new septic?! I thought he was pretty nice!

More seriously, what a nice way to start the day--emails, PM's, & more posts to this thread. I can't tell you how much this is helping me! I will save this, read it when the kids are away at school, & develop some new friendships from it, I'm sure!

Trevor, thanks for reminding me what I thought I would & should be doing here. I hope it will happen in the future. Right now, it just seems awfully scary. I'm glad this thread allowed you to share. Sounds like you are doing great!

I'm wondering if we should start another thread on middle-aged concerns about relationship? It seems like there are several of us who are really doubting ourselves.

Dave, I would never presume to use the capital letters. My bbc comes from my initials. Folks who've been on Mudcat for a long time know me, though I usually lurk more these days than post.

best to all,

Barbara