I think youre all rather missing the point. Marriage was brought about To provide society with the means to control people. This is why politicians are still banging on about "family values". Iv been married for a long time ,and as I near the great finishing line,Iv come to realise that life is short and should be packed with as many new experiences as possible. I know couples who have melded together and become quite insulated from life, living in their own safe little world. (Darby + Joan).I feel our Traditional music is full of song s about people who lived life on the edge. Free as the air, and taking their pleasures where they could.....That should be the ideal not some mouldy compromise.    Ake..