BS: Paltalk stalkers

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Jan 01 - 01:42 PM

Sorry, harpgirl, I read your post above and thought you were being sarcastic about some of us wanting a closed room...I read it to mean you thought we were being a bit "xenophobic."

I am not going to post to this one anymore. It will work out, whatever way, but it will have to do so without me. I'll stop in when I can and have the energy.

thanks,

kat

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: harpgirl
Date: 25 Jan 01 - 01:43 PM

...while I'm on the subject let me just say that I find it very difficult to warm up to strangers, aggressive men, and overly friendly people. Too many rapes I guess, unfortunately...(please,no sympathy required)

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: harpgirl
Date: 25 Jan 01 - 01:46 PM

...geez, kat...I didn't even get that you thought I was being sarcastic...I was just confused...but I did good on my answer though, don't ya think!

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: GUEST,B.H.
Date: 25 Jan 01 - 03:44 PM

I am hoping that atleast all of the female Mudcatters have gotten to read this so they know what to do in instance of predators on Pal Talk and elsewhere. The males may need the information also though I doubt they are subject to the same types of situations. Thanks to all who have helped to clear the matter and inform us of means to stop such abuse.

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: Jon Freeman
Date: 26 Jan 01 - 02:23 AM

Seeing as the subject of bouning has cropped up again, I ask that admins of my room read the Paltalk Permanent Group Amin Guidelines and pay particular attention to the bit that says. "Pick your coadmins wisely because you are responsible for their actions as well as your own. Violations of these guidelines by you or your coadmins will cause the loss of your room and the ability to create new groups in the future."

In this instance, I can understand anger and I have talked to Paltalk about an issue that is not mentioned here but please remember that it is not for us to adopt something like a bounce on sight policy unless it has been confirmed as acceptable usage of admin rights by Paltalk and that the ultimate price that I could pay is loosing the room because of hot-headed actions by a co-admin.

Please just take this as a gentle reminder that there are rules not set by any of us in place that need to be followed and not as a criticism of any admin in the room - I believe everyone does an EXCELLENT job and have no complaints - I am just a little selfish and get nervous at times when I think someone elses action could effect me.

Jon

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: Katcina
Date: 26 Jan 01 - 03:12 AM

Jon, that is why I mentioned earlier that Pal Talk not only keeps track of people that are bounced, they also keep track of those doing the bouncing and the rooms that it occurs in.

Which is also why it is best if stalkers are handled by their intended victims. Ultimately they are the only ones that can stop it anyway. Remember people, you are only a victim if you allow yourself to be one.

I try not to bounce anyone if I can help it because it not only reflects on me it also reflects on the room I am in, whether it be my own of someone elses.

If anyone finds another person to be a disruptive factor in their enjoyment, all they have to do is to right click on their name in the room list and left click on ignore. They will no longer see any of their text nor hear any of their sounds at the mic.

Hopefully we will seldom have such incidents in Mudcats. It has, so far, had the least number of problem characters of any room that I have been in, including my own. I thoroughly enjoy my time in Mudcats and want everyone else to do the same.

Katcina

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: Jon Freeman
Date: 26 Jan 01 - 03:31 AM

Kat, I honestly believe that the Mudcat room is a friendly and welcoming room and that we do have very few problems.

I think it is ony fair to point out, as we both have, that some thought needs to go into whatever actions need to be taken when something goes wrong.

I think I do have a difference of opinion with you on one issue though. I will happily take an inividual(s)'s problem to PalTalk admin from something starting within this room - I sort of feel a responsibility that anyone joining in there should simply be able to enjoy themselves and put other problems to me to sort out. To some degree, this has to be down to each admin in a room and I don't think there is a right or wrong - just that maybe the room owner does carry that little bit more responsibility.

Jon

Subject: RE: BS: Paltalk stalkers
From: GUEST,B.H.
Date: 28 Jan 01 - 12:22 AM

Thank you again for the helpful information!