Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death

Subject: Obit: Frug's Bro.
From: Frug
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 07:56 PM

Mudcatters...................My brother Paul died today aged 46. An airline pilot and a talented musician. We played together in bands. This just 2 years after the death of my other brother Martin who died aged 48. We will give Paul the same send off that we gave to Martin with appropriate home grown music......................please think of us and sing for us. We are planning his funeral to be a celebration of his life which included playing in bands as well as active service in the RAF in the Falklands and the Gulf (neither of which he glamorised) He was a great family man and leaves 2 young children one of whom has a birthday on Friday and Paul would have been 48 next week. I am bereft. I have lost my bro and my best friend. He died whilst speaking to Beth, his wife, on the phone. He was an Instructor/Examiner for Easy jet and a BALPA rep. Thoughts and cuddles appreciated..............Any suggestions for appropriate songs for the funeral appreciated.............We've got I'll Fly Away and When September Ends...................Thanks

Frank

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: bobad
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 07:58 PM

That's way too young - you have my sympathies.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: GUEST,meself
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 08:07 PM

Two brothers, too young ... our sympathies ...

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: SINSULL
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 08:22 PM

So sorry, Frank. Losing both has to be very hard. Look after his family and yourself.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: catspaw49
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 08:31 PM

I am sorry Frank. Nothing to be said can ease the pain you must be feeling. Please take good care of yourself. My best thoughts to your entire family.

Spaw

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: M.Ted
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 08:57 PM

My own brother passed away, only a few months ago, so I know what you're feeling. Your brother was a soldier, a teacher, and a musician--so he gave a lot of himself for others--and a loving and caring father--all that lives on--not every life leaves so much--

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Sorcha
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 09:01 PM

Have a good cry in private if necessary, and remember the good times.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: kendall
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 09:07 PM

There are no words, just know we care.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Peace
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 10:07 PM

My sincere condolences, Frank. I am sorry, man. Truly.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Amos
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 10:22 PM

Frank:

I add my voice to the condolences. Please keep breathing and find your way through.

How did this happen?

A

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: katlaughing
Date: 09 Apr 07 - 11:41 PM

Some days I just wonder, "isn't there enough sadness in the world, already?" I know it's the nature of life, but this seems such a tragedy. My sincere sympathies to you and your family. We will be sending good thoughts of Peace and Comfort to you all.

kat

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: open mike
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 12:05 AM

hugs
and strength for all of you.
and best wishes to his family.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 02:12 AM

Sorry to hear it, Frug. My sympathies to you and your family.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 03:29 AM

I'm really sorry to hear this sad news.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: fat B****rd
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 03:31 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. Please accept my best regards and condolences. Charlie.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: bfdk
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 04:49 AM

Sorry to hear about your loss, Frank. Kind thoughts heading your way from Denmark. Take care of yourself and your family in the tough days ahead.

Best wishes,

Bente

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: jacqui.c
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 07:17 AM

So sorry Frank. Life just seems so unfair sometimes. Just remember we're here if you need to vent.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: skipy
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 07:49 AM

I am so sorry that this thread is here.
Be strong,
Skipy

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Frug
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 02:27 PM

Thank you all for kind thoughts and your messages of support. We are currently wrangling with the red tape to get his body returned to the UK so that we can make all the necessary arrangements. It is heartbreaking talking to his youngest son who keeps saying "it might be a bad mistake Uncle Frank" We are unsure of how to plan the funeral as there will be a lot of pressure/demand for a big affair perhaps even military as he had remained on the reserve list. One thing is certain is that we will sing him out big style. When we buried my other brother Martin 2 years ago he went out to a Dropkick Murphy song..The Torch......Foggy Mountain Cock- Up (my own version of a better known tune!!) The time of you life - Greenday and May You Never the John Martyn classic. We hope to do justice to Paul in the same way with some other classics........

Luv you all

Frank

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Big Mick
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 02:33 PM

Wow. This is a lot to bear in 2 years. But what strikes me is the appearance of a close family, that loved to sing together. And the manner in which you approach this ..... it just speaks volumes. Yours must be a pretty amazing family. I hope, Frank, that when you feel as though you can handle it, you will come back and share stories of you, Paul, and Martin. Let us hear their voices and come to know them, and you, a bit.

Until then, know that their are many here that will include you and your family in their prayers, kind thoughts, and healing energies. Whatever comfort that we can give, as letters on a monitor, we surely will feel privileged to provide.

All the best,

Mick

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: SylviaN
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 03:18 PM

Hugs and more hugs.

Sylvia

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Ebbie
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 03:23 PM

Sincere condolences to you and to his young'uns. These are heartbreaking times.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Wesley S
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 03:32 PM

Here's a song that we do often. It's been recorded by the Stanley Bros, Flatt & Scruggs and others. We got it off of "The Three Pickers" CD and DVD. Earl Scruggs, Doc Watson and Ricky Scaggs.

WHO WILL SING FOR ME ?

Oft I sing for my friends
When death's cold hand I see
When I reach my journey's end
Who will sing one song for me

I wonder (I wonder) who
Will sing (will sing) for me
When I'm called to cross that silent sea
Who will sing for me

When friends shall gather round
And look down on me
Will they turn and walk away
Or will they sing one song for me

So I'll sing til the end
Contented I will be
Assured that some friends
Will sing one song for me

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: katlaughing
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 04:04 PM

From an old posting of Joe Offer's about Rick Fielding's "This One's the Dreamer" CD, all three of the following songs would be good, imo:

To Quote Joe:

Rick wrote a gospel song for the CD, and he did a good job of it. He calls it "Sing with the Angels":

    I'm gonna sing with the angels
    When my time comes around
    This earth is just rehearsal
    For when I'm heaven bound
    I'll be well prepared to take my place
    with harmony and rhyme
    And sing with the angels when it's time.

I have a soft spot in my heart for those inspiring anthems that pluck at your heart strings. Rick's got two of those on his album. One is Rick Speyer's "There Comes a Time":

    There is light at the end of the tunnel,
    There is always hope in the face of despair
    There is freedom at the end of the struggle,
    Hold on to your dream if you find it out there
    There is peace in the song of the wild wood,
    Love is best when it blooms on its own
    there's a road that beckons us to follow,
    Always a trail that leads us back home.

The last song on the album is another anthem, "When We Gather Once More," by Rick Fielding and Holmes Hooke, which has a nice chorus and a terrific last verse:

    Be well, be safe, be kind, be strong
    For the times will test us sore
    And to gladden our hearts,
    Our bodies, our souls
    Oh, be here when we gather once more.
    Oh, be here when we gather once more.

    Now if I find a resting place
    Before I'm back this way
    Or if the road be just too long
    And my feet have turned to clay
    If from tonight you do recall
    Just one line from this song
    Then even if our roads do end,
    This song will travel on.

kat here, again. I'll see if I can find the LYR ADD threads for those and refresh them in case you want one of them. If you don't have the CD, I am sure we could get the tunes to you, too, via email.

Good thoughts and condolences,

kat

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: katlaughing
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 04:16 PM

Here ya go:

Sing with the angels;

cant' find the lyrics to Rick Speyer's "There Comes a time." Maybe someone else has them, or I can get them off the CD if you want them.

Chords and some of the words for the last song are HERE.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Frug
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 06:09 PM

Thank you for the lyrics and song suggestions everyone......particularly the Rick Fielding stuff.............Kat the tunes would be great if you can ([e-mail])...............we do dots and ear !! Big Mick will post some memories funny and sad when the hurt dies down...........
Can't tell you how much this is helping !!

Thanks

Frank

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: katlaughing
Date: 10 Apr 07 - 07:35 PM

I will do my best to get them on the PC and off to you by tomorrow, Frank. Glad you liked them.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: mouldy
Date: 11 Apr 07 - 06:42 AM

What an awful shock for you all!

My sincerest condolences go out to you, and especially to your brother's wife and children. I hope you will have him home soon, so that you can make your arrangements: I know how frustrating the wait for news can be.
When someone has died away from home, it all seems so unreal, especially when they are not meant to be around at the time, anyway.

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Andrea

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Apr 07 - 02:46 PM

Andrea, you are an incredible inspiration; so kind and giving in the wake of your own recent loss.

Frank, I just emailed you the track.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Jim Lad
Date: 11 Apr 07 - 05:46 PM

With deepest sorrow for your loss.
You will be in my prayers tonight.
God Bless.
Jim

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: GUEST,Frug - How proud can any dad be??
Date: 12 Apr 07 - 01:53 PM

Friends.............my youngest son (18) sat up all last night and wrote this song for my dear departed brother..........it has a wonderful tune. Perhaps when the dust settles I will post a link to a performance of it. ( Kat..........I didn't receive your email could you try again please [e-mail])

Frank

Sky Commander

Here's to you Sky Commander, locking your course
And although you're leaving, I'll see you once more
And it's hard to believe, but we'll carry on and be strong

I cannot explain why, but we'll salute goodbye
And I guess its fitting, you've took to the skies
And you don't need machines now
Because you've grown wings of your own

Here's to you sky commander, a tear in my eye
I just don't want to miss you tonight
And it's far too clichéd to say you live in our hearts
So I'll just say live on in this song and these chords
Because they express my remorse

Here's to you sky commander, a tear in my eye
I just don't want to miss you tonight
And it's far too clichéd to say you live in our hearts
So I'll just say live on in this song and these chords

Here's to you Sky Commander, the day came too soon
You're alive in your children, and alive in this tune
And it's no consolation, but somehow I know you'll be proud

And I know that you'll like it, up there in the clouds
'Cause the loss isn't yours, it's most definitely ours
Because we'll miss you in heaven, at least now we'll know you'll be safe.

Here's to you sky commander, a tear in my eye
I just don't want to miss you tonight
And it's far too clichéd to say you live in our hearts
So I'll just say live on in this song and these chords
Because they express my remorse

Here's to you sky commander, a tear in my eye
We just don't want to miss you tonight
And it's far too clichéd to say you live in our hearts
So I'll just say live on in this song and these chords

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Partridge
Date: 12 Apr 07 - 02:59 PM

So sorry Frug, the song is beautiful.

"Here's to you sky commander, a tear in my eye"

and in mine too,

love

Pat xxx

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Hawker
Date: 12 Apr 07 - 04:08 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss, love to you and all your family - and Pauls.
Kindest thoughts
Lucy

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: sapper82
Date: 12 Apr 07 - 04:35 PM

Heyup Frank.
You must be going through hell at the moment and all I can do is offer my sympathy. It seems so inadequate, but keep a grip on things and I hope things get better.

Bob

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: katlaughing
Date: 12 Apr 07 - 08:13 PM

Frank, sorry for the delay. I couldn't find the file this morning and then I was with my grandson all day. Just found it and have emailed it. The first time the file was in the wrong format. I hope it reaches you in time to be of service. It should play fine in RealPlayer, etc.

Thinking of you and your family,

kat

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: GUEST,SimonF
Date: 16 Apr 07 - 05:20 AM

Frank, I just heard the bad news on the old boys network.

I'm totally gutted, Paul was a lovely bloke to fly and work with.

Suddenly the world is a poorer place.

Simon aka 'Bozo'

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Hillheader
Date: 16 Apr 07 - 06:36 AM

Thoughts and prayers.

I hope that time will make the gap between the tears grow longer.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: Frug
Date: 16 Apr 07 - 01:41 PM

Simon F(Bozo)...............thanks for your thoughts. I think we met a number of years ago possibly Northolt?? If its the time I remember then it was a Quiz for the squadron based there......??

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: GUEST,SimonF
Date: 17 Apr 07 - 04:33 AM

Ah, yes - the Al Dory "Font of all knowledge" trophy quiz

Remember it well :-)

Call me sometime
01538 303 900

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: alanabit
Date: 17 Apr 07 - 01:33 PM

I am very sorry to hear this. It is particularly sad when there is a whole family, which includes young children left behind. You will be in my thoughts too.

Subject: RE: Obit: Frug's Bro.untimely death
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 23 Apr 07 - 09:03 AM

Many thanks for all the expressions of sympathy received. The funeral service is Wednesday afternoon. We now know what happened to Paul. He died as a result of a massive blood clot and take some comfort in knowing that as he died instantly he did not suffer. I will post some memories of my brother over the next week or so..................keep thinking of us.

Frank xx