BS: I've got a brother!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: SINSULL
Date: 08 Jul 07 - 12:28 AM

Enjoy the moment, skipy. I can't imagine growing up without brothers, cousins, aunts, uncles. grandparents etc. I had a huge extended family as did most of my friends. You have been given a wonderful gift. Treasure it.
Mary

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: TRUBRIT
Date: 08 Jul 07 - 12:14 AM

Skipy -- what wonderful news.....I don't know you personally but I do soooooo remember putting pennies in the Barnardo's boxes when I was a child....I am so happy for you and your family.....

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 05:57 PM

Thanks Peace, we are moving fwd. slowly. Way to go.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 05:56 PM

"e" the missing e
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 05:51 PM

I was shocked when I saw theirs, only because the human brain puts together pictures, so they looked totally differant to what I (my brain) expected. There is nothing out of the normal about any of them, but those I thought where fat are thin etc. etc.
The brain is a strange piece of kit as we all know!
Back in 1976 I was walking down a street in Valletta Malta (lived there for 3 years) there was a woman walking along in the other direction on the other side, I felt an amazingly strong attraction to her (no, not on that way! trust me on this one) I thought "thats my mother", I walked about 20 paces, stopped and looked back, she had also stopped & was looking my way, we observed each other for a while (felt like age) & them we both walked on. Who knows it may pan out that she was out ther on holiday! Not likely but scary!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 05:27 PM

Skipy, this is indeed wonderful news. Do you think that they'll be shocked when they see your picture? I can't imagine that they would be -- family's family after all.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Peace
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 12:55 PM

The news is wonderful, Skipy. I am very very happy for you.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 07:04 AM

NO! It will come as a shock! So will send them something in Monday post!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 06:06 AM

Skipy, do they know what you look like?

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 06:01 AM

Hi all, just received a packet of photos! know what they look like now!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: GUEST,Donna
Date: 28 Apr 07 - 04:24 AM

Hi Mr Guest, just wanted you to know that I think your recent news is just great and to be able to share it with so many warm and genuine people is just fab!! Hope you enjoyed your few jars down the pub last night by the way!!

x

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Bee
Date: 25 Apr 07 - 07:31 AM

Skipy, sounds like you will be 'swimming' in family now. ;-)

Beer, how interesting about your Bro-in-law being a Butterbox Baby. Just a few years ago, some poor person from the US was attempting to get DNA results from one of the buried infants who may have been kin to them (I forget the details, but it may have been one of the mothers), but alas, nothing could be found.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Apr 07 - 12:18 AM

Beer, thank you for telling us your story. I had never heard of the Butterbox Babies before. What an incredible story. I've got tears running down my face just thinking of those babies and their families being separated and also feeling joy at some of the reunions. Incredible.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 07:08 PM

Strange that 5 would all fail to respond, so try again!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Donuel
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 06:45 PM

I've dreamed about finding parts of my family like you have, what a wonderful gift!


Well what do you do when they will not respond after sending letters and tapes to 5 half siblings?

Should I assume their current mother made an edict? or that they decided that this guy is after dad's estate? or life is complicated enough, screw this guy?

I don't think I should stalk my own family albeit a family without contact.

ps I would be the eldest.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 05:41 PM

Beer, WOW, just read it! one hell of a story!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Beer
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 05:26 PM

Very very happy for you Skippy. You'll be living in some what of a dream for a while.
   Not to take away from your story Skippy but I would like to share what happened to my brother in law about 3 years ago. He was a surviver of the famous "Butter Box Babies" legend that came out of Nova Scotia (If you Google B. B. Babies you will get the story. Want to keep this short as possible.). He now has 2 brothers one living in British Columbia and another one who moved to Quebec about 10 years ago from Ottawa.
Here's the strange but true incident which took place.
Danny was living in Ottawa at the time and was doing small time repairs in electricity, carpentry, plumbing and so on. My sister was working in a government position. On visiting one of his favorite clients he learned that his clients father had just passed away so Danny offered him his condolence. Turns out he was offering his sympathies to his brother and biological father.
How about that for a shocker.........

He has since met relatives across Canada.
life can be strange and wonderful.
All the best to you Skippy in your new adventure.
Beer (adrien)

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: FolkTDG
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 04:51 PM

Good luck Skipy! Hope it all works out for you and your family!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 04:23 PM

So, the phone rang tonight & it was one of my sisters! We had a great little chat, she says she has "so much" to tell me about! We have been invited to Belfast the same weekend that my brother is going over, so there will be 4 of us together!
Slight snag though! it my be the weekend of folkforms! ironic or what!
We'll see how it pans out.
WMP - GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: WiggyMagPye
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 01:52 PM

PS. For anyone else who might be looking, I contacted my local state representatives office for help in finding the birth certificate of my (deceased) father who was adopted (it's his family who I am looking for). I had no idea where to begin so maybe that will be of use to someone else out there.

WMP

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: WiggyMagPye
Date: 24 Apr 07 - 01:51 PM

Hello Skipy,
    I want you to know that because you posted here (which got me thinking about my birth family) and some prodding from Peace, I wrote a few emails and found that I will most likely be able to get a copy of my father's birth certificate (he was adopted but no idea about his birth family). I am excited at the prospect and a bit overwhelmed, teary even. I thought there was absolutely no hope in finding them. I know this is a small step but it might lead to something important and help me along in my search. I'm so glad that you found your brother (and sisters!) and that you shared it here with us!

WMP

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 22 Apr 07 - 05:18 PM

WMP,nothing planned yet, hope to send a few photos & a couples of pages this week.
Thanx for asking, will keep the cat imforned.
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Rasener
Date: 22 Apr 07 - 09:21 AM

Good luck Skipy. You are doing a great job with MS.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: WiggyMagPye
Date: 22 Apr 07 - 08:59 AM

Hey Skipy,

   When will you meet your siblings? Do you have any ideas about what you want to say or know? I wonder if you will see a family resemblance? I am so excited for you!

WMP

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: old girl 1
Date: 21 Apr 07 - 07:05 PM

Great news Dave Hope everything works out well keep us posted, See you at Grove Rose & Dave

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: JennieG
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 10:03 PM

My father walked out on my mother 35 years ago - my brothers and I had all left home by then, 2 of us were married, and although we weren't small children any more it was still a tremendous shock. He moved around other parts of Oz and eventually remarried, but we are pretty sure there are no more of us; the new wife was over 60 when they married. We found out 5 years ago that he died in 1991.

However he obviously didn't tell the new wife that he had been married to my mother for over 25 years, and that he had 3 children by her. The information on his death certificate says no previous marriages and no children. That means that whoever gave the information for the certificate (usually the remaining spouse) knew nothing of his past, or of the cheating and gambling that had gone on before he left - all of which came out afterwards. One would think that in a country town everyone knew everyone else's business but not so in this case!

I have wondered that, if I am not named on my father's death certificate, does this mean I don't really exist? (pinches arm - yep, it hurts so I must be alive)

Cheers
JennieG

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 08:48 PM

Dear Peace,

Thank you kindly for the offer however I have met with a dead end. My father was adopted during a time when it was all hush hush. To make matters worse, he was adopted by a physician, often done behind closed doors amongst doctors with no records being kept. I do, however, appreciate the offer and if you think you can help overcome that dead end, I may indeed write to you.

WMP

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Peace
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 08:04 PM

"Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 05:37 PM

I've dreamed about finding parts of my family like you have, what a wonderful gift!

WMP"



If you are a member, and you could use some advice as to how to start going about that, message me.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 07:12 PM

WMP, go for it, it's a lot of work, but trust me just for the moment you meet it's worth it.
Who knows where it will go from here for me, only time can tell.
Skipy.
P.S. Thanks to all of you for your support, it means a lot to me.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 05:37 PM

I've dreamed about finding parts of my family like you have, what a wonderful gift!

WMP

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 05:26 PM

That is just too kewl, Skipy! Have fun and be sure to keep your heart surrounded by your friends' love and care...it will be reflected back to you, I am sure, by your new sibs. OH, and here's to KATE!!!

I had a friend whose father travelled a lot for work. She found out, many, many years after he died, that he had a whole other family, at the same time he was married and living with her mom and her! Her mom was in her 80's when they found out. They went out to visit the other family and have seen them several times since. I can't remember if the other wife was alive or if it was just the kids, but it turned out very positive for them.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Ebbie
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 05:24 PM

Congratulations on your successful search, Skipy- and the very best of luck to you.

On the light side: My husband and I had a daughter before we divorced. Several years later he and his second wife had a baby boy and my daughter lorded it over her sibling-less cousin that she "has a baby brother'.

Her cousin one day approached her mother and asked desperately: "Mommy, are you sure I don't have a baby brother someplace?"

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: fat B****rd
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 03:06 PM

I'm happy for you, Skipy. Be lucky. Al the best from Charlie.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: open mike
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 01:15 PM

good news..hope you all get along well
and have good times ahead..i presume
you missed out on meeting the brother
who has now passed...make the best of
the time you all have now!!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Rapparee
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 12:58 PM

It's better to find your sibs when they're adults, I think. MY siblings used to beat me up and hit me on the head and things when we were kids. They haven't done any of that in the last, oh, twenty or thirty years....

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Donuel
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 12:26 PM

Best of luck to you.

When I found out I had 3 half brothers and 2 half sisters I sent a video tape of my childhooed photos and a biographical letter.

Not one answered.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Mrrzy
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 11:39 AM

That's just great, Skipy! Amazing - adult siblings without childhood memories - how can you push people's buttons when you weren't around to install them?

Best of everything! Enjoy!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 10:51 AM

It's great to hear some good news.

Wishing you lots of happy times to come.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: *daylia*
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 08:27 AM

Oh Happy days, Skipy -- sounds like this has been a long time coming!    :-)   

All the best to you and yours,

daylia

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: jacqui.c
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 08:24 AM

Good for you Skipy, and Roger. How wonderful to have the chance to get to know more of your family in adulthood.

I wish you many happy family reunions.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: bubblyrat
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 07:39 AM

Hey Skipy !! I know just how you feel !! My mother left my father when I was only a year old. She remarried, and I knew that she had had more children, but they were never told about me . But, when I started doing my family tree a few months ago, I discovered a niece, she told her dad, HE told his sister, the oldest one ( or so he thought !! ) of the family, she contacted me, and we all got in touch !! ( My lovely sisters Gloria & Colette, and my brother, Clifford ! ) I have now met, and hugged,all three of them, and Cliff"s wife, although I haven"t seen the girls' husbands, or anyone"s children yet.To suddenly go from being virtually alone ( all my lot, bar two, are dead ) to being a part, however small, of a big, loving ,family is ,as you now know, Skipy, the most AMAZING feeling !! Aren"t we both the lucky ones ?? !! .......Roger..

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: gnu
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 06:43 AM

Good for you, lad.

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: GUEST,Elfcall
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 05:52 AM

Skipy - that is brill.

My wife found her 'other' family at 32 years of age - not only did she have 4 other 1/2 siblings, but 4 more assorted uncles and aunties and more cousins than she could shake a stick at.

With every good wish that you find the happiness and contentment that she did.

Elf

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Leadfingers
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 05:28 AM

Great Stuff mate - And can I Thread Creep a tad ? If they are Belfast Area , why not get over to Portaferry in February for a meeting AND some music ?

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: skipy
Date: 20 Apr 07 - 04:55 AM

Thank you all for your comments, told my 2 pairs of best friends on the phone & then told my other "family"! you guys!
Skipy

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 19 Apr 07 - 11:32 PM

Great story! I hope the reunions work out well for you.

SRS

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 19 Apr 07 - 10:21 PM

Wow - good luck skipy!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Metchosin
Date: 19 Apr 07 - 10:13 PM

Wow skipy! Hope this turns out really well for all!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Bee
Date: 19 Apr 07 - 09:43 PM

Very cool. Hope it turns out great!

Subject: RE: BS: I've got a brother!
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Apr 07 - 09:19 PM

I found out I had two brothers and a sister -- had to live with them growing up, too. It must be really neat to discover sibs you never knew you had! Instant family.

Maybe your MS group has been doing some good for your half-sister -- now that would be really cool!