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Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008)
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 17 Jun 09 - 06:14 PM Who is Joe Offer? What's wrog here? why the need for naming? can't grief be both public and private? public in its sentiment? private in its details? what is the purpose of this site??? I thought this site was set up for Roger. I thought it was about tributes/ statements/ anything [nice] about Roger. Why no anonymous posting? Some people are posting memories - and some people are being voyeurs. Why?
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 24 Apr 09 - 06:03 PM Still thinking of you sweetheart. Heard mention of friends going to Switzerland. I remember your reaction to Gruyere. The scene was stunning - sunshine and gliders - the cheese factory - and the amazingly different experience of the mount - cold - winter - ice. When we climbed the hill to the town, the beauty of it overcame your senses and you cried.I shared your emotion. And then - the Giger museum! Unexpected. What a find!What a day!I'll never forget it. One of the best days of my life. And yours - I know. We had woderful times :) Miss you
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 17 Mar 09 - 08:27 PM One of the most beautiful things I read on here was from 'our Nita' who said - and I quote: "smiles still sit on synapses waiting to be catapulted into consciousness…" words so highly relevant and so highly evocative they made me laugh and cry at the same time. They're just so completely fitting for Roger. I often hold on to that sentiment. I would imagine that other people do so too. Time has a strange way of always seeming to belong to the future and then suddenly sneaking in to the past. Today seemed to be a long way away - and now it's been and gone. (It's 00.09 the day after the date of Roger's funeral) A year ago, everyone, I think, was shocked, stunned, horrified by the sudden turn of events. Today marks the first full anniversary of Roger's life - everything else (Easter/ father's day/ birthday/ Xmas/ etc.) has been revisited. And now - there remains the future - and 'Nita's words'. I think she was extremely intuitive and exceptionally wise when she used those words for Roger. For each and every one of us "smiles still sit on synapses waiting to be catapulted into consciousness..." I look forward to every single smile from every single memory - and I think we all do. Everyone knows who 'Nita' is - but I take my hat off to you lady. (if that's not rude!) :) I think you have written the most beautiful tribute to Roger that I could imagine. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Shirley Date: 17 Mar 09 - 05:48 PM With thanks to Ben Harper - and Martin ..... This could be the last time I see you So forgive me for holding you close This could be the last time I see you So of this moment I will make the most This could be the last time I see you But if you keep me in your heart Together we shall be eternal If you believe we shall never part The stones from enemies These wounds will mend But I cannot survive The roses from my friends 'lil sis xxxxxxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,KARA Date: 17 Mar 09 - 07:38 AM GONE, BUT NEVER FOGOTTEN, MY AUNTY WOJA XXXXX |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,AR Date: 14 Mar 09 - 03:13 PM We recalled him on the forum here http://www.scunny.co.uk/forums/index.php Al |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 13 Mar 09 - 08:40 PM I keep trying. But words just keep faiilng me |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Shirley Date: 09 Mar 09 - 05:30 PM Woj - Love and miss you S xxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 09 Mar 09 - 08:07 AM I wish I was as good with words as you always were, to be quite honest this is extremely difficult for me because I feel as though I should have said something more meaningful on here earlier, but i couldn't find the words, and I still haven't. I just hope that you know I always loved you, no matter what happened, I thought about you everyday, and I still continue to do so. I wish things could have been easier for you, I wish I'd been there to attempt to make things easier for you. Despite the large length of time we spent apart that I grew used to, I now feel as though I have lost a part of myself. Today is a difficult day; I can't believe it's been a year. I've found myself listening to Springsteen a fair bit, you say it doesn't matter if i don't remember, I don't but I hope it comes to me one day x |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Rockhen Date: 08 Mar 09 - 08:25 PM If I upset anyone for saying this, I am sorry because I really mean no offence. This is maybe a bit emotional but it is meant from the heart. Tomorrow, well, it is actually today, now, is my birthday, no big deal really, but I was devastated last year that this was the date,if any, you had to go, Woja. A year later, I do miss you and have done a lot over the last few months. I know I did not know you like many others did but I will remember you this year, and every year to come...not just with sadness but also with huge affection, love and gratitude that I had the chance to know you just for a short while. I will remember the daft verbal verbal silliness we shared, the brilliant times playing music together with others and you being a true individual, one of a kind. I will remember you singing Beautiful Day and mucking up the timing so we got the giggles at you and ended up winging it to fit round you. I will remember recording on your songs and the gentle teasing you did to put everyone at ease. I will remember the time at Swigs when you got angry that musicians were being treated with little respect and you stood up in their defence. The Teddy bear post-it war, the piano versus strings joking followed by you sticking up for me and defending me to others for wanting to play my piano. I do not put you on a pedestal, I just would like to see you sitting right next to me and everyone else, still. Thank you for letting me know you for a short while and I will be drinking to you, it may be only an orange juice but I will be thinking of you and those who miss you so much. If there is a door and a heaven they will have let you in by now, cos you always made the knocking last for ages until every, guitarist, mandolin player, comb and paper enthusiast had a go doing a 'turn'! My life is richer for having known you, Woja. Excuse the sniffling and soggy keys, but I am smiling also at the memories of you that I will remember particularly at this time. Thank you for being you xxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 08 Mar 09 - 03:08 PM Tomorrow... a year. You were such a brilliant man but the world was too difficult for you. I have lit (lighted?) candles for you, Roger, in every church, in every place that I have been to since your passing and I have charged others to do the same. You will not be forgotten. Your family will never forget you. I will never forget you. Tomorrow is going to be a hard day for all of us. Goodnight sweety |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Shirley (woja's sister) Date: 09 Feb 09 - 06:54 PM If only to confirm Tim's message earlier, this thread isn't that private as we all have access - I suppose it's just about how often it's accessed! I know that you hoped your thoughts would be "safe" - but I can assure that it is good (woja would have used a better word!)to hear how much my biggest Bro meant to you. I'm sorry you've not felt able to be in touch before hand; I miss my biggest Bro so much - he was an inspiration Keep in touch, S xx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 05 Feb 09 - 03:15 PM Thank you :) |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 03 Feb 09 - 06:45 PM Howdy stranger. Everytime you post on this thread it jumps up into the top of the list so we do notice. Just wanted to let you know so you realised its not as private as you may have thought. I miss Woj loads as I know do many others. Some people knew him many years and some like me only for a short while. I wish you peace and hope you find comfort in you rthoughts of better times with him. MY e mail is j.leaning1@ntlworld.com If you want to mail feel free. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 03 Feb 09 - 04:55 PM Hello Tim I really didn't think that anyone else would still be posting here. It's lovely that you are still looking after Roger. My feelings were - and still are - too complex and too private for public annunciation. That's why I didn't post anything earler. I don't think that we have ever met, but I would love the oppportunity to speak to you at sometime in the future, if we should ever meet, about the man that we both knew. I think about him every day. I miss him. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 31 Jan 09 - 08:04 PM Ahmen |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 31 Jan 09 - 07:21 PM Shantih shantih shantih These words I dedicate to you Roger. It was the poem that brought us together, but I could never have seen then how relevant these words would become. I couldn't respond earlier. We were angry with each other.Love sometimes does that. But now that no-one will read this thread - I wish you peace. I have my memories. Sleep well darling. X |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Rockhen Date: 13 Apr 08 - 06:36 PM Hi Sheila, I THINK it is the acoustic night on the 29th April, which is the 'quiet' one without PA. I will send the Tap number to Shirley on myspace, or it is in the book, I think. Really sorry I can't PM you on here but it doesn't let you send PMs to guests. I rang the Tap the other day and they said there wasn't anything on Tuesday 22nd but I'd feel happier if you checked with the pub, in case it has changed. Love to you all and maybe see you there if you go. xx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Woja's Mum Date: 13 Apr 08 - 03:31 PM (1) Thanx for your message, Greenie. Seeya soon, eh? (2) Can anyone confirm the actual date of this month's Open Mic, please? According to the CDs, it should be "last Tuesday", i.e. 29th April. But the reason I am querying is that I had a date to come to the October 2007 Open Mic. when Woja should have been hosting, but he went missing before that happened. The date then was 23rd October for Open Mic, but that WASN'T the last Tuesday. So, if April's is going to be on 22nd (not 29th) I'll need to know fairly quickly so that arrangements can be made. Ta, ever so. Sheila. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,steve green Date: 11 Apr 08 - 09:45 PM its been a long time since the party and the room is in a mess tim seems to have missed me an i'v bin out me shed, so i've missed me too. theres no need for pretences , now another old queen has gone. why dont you cut your hair ? I stuck a banto warryer up my nose. you shitty shoe bastard. love youloads miss you forever xxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 04 Apr 08 - 01:18 PM Thank you Mrs much apreciated Take care |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Sheila Date: 03 Apr 08 - 02:58 PM Message for Tim. Contact details for Steve Green were sent to you by first-class post today and should be with you tomorrow, Friday 4th. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 30 Mar 08 - 05:10 PM Does anyone have Steve Greens contact details please? |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Shirley Date: 27 Mar 08 - 06:43 PM My big brother was a great man. I know that now. My biggest regret is that Roger didn't know just how great a man he was to others, and how much of an influence he had on people's lives. I know, though, that he will continue to influence people's lives for years to come, and in that I take enormous comfort. I know that Mum and, more importantly perhaps, Natasha will do so in the days, months, and years to come. L&P S xxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Rockhen Date: 25 Mar 08 - 07:10 AM I have read this thread many times and it is very moving and touching to learn who Woja was, to so many people. Thank you for allowing us to share your knowledge of him. Jim's poem was very astute about Woja being very complex. xx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 25 Mar 08 - 06:40 AM one week in and I was smitten, how could you not be.... dads opener to mum was "he's a bit older than our Nita" ever loyal, mum replied "our Nita's no spring chicken herself" they saw past the numbers, obviously… as I smiled at mums maternal insight…! of course there were sad times, but smiles still sit on synapses waiting to be catapulted into consciousness…... drifting off to sleep being read Rumpole (voices and all), e-mail acrostics, jokes about how the sun almost made Ross House look like a piece of architecture and fab halloumi food...
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 24 Mar 08 - 03:32 PM Thank you, Phyllis, and for the email elaborating on Aus.Poet C.J.Dennis. I am curious to know more about this poet. You may not know that poetry was one of Roger's great loves, especially T.S.Eliot. What a pity that you didn't meet Woja whilst you were in UK, but you did the next best thing in meeting Martin and getting him to sign one of his discs. You have been a great source of strength to me in these sad days. Much love, Sheila. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Guest, Phyllis, cousin transplanted to Austr Date: 24 Mar 08 - 05:33 AM How regrettable that I never knew Roger face to face, but how dear to me are his precious Mum Sheila, sister Shirley, brother Martin, and their families, and knowing them and their love for Roger brings him closer to me than mere blood relationship, and I have a great sense of loss, but no delusion that it is but a poor shadow of the loss for you whose lives he has shared. Since Roger's deliverance from the pain and prospect of its merely being prolonged by the only possible treatments, the words of Australian poet C.J.Dennis have constantly revisited my mind... "Now is the healing, quiet hour that fills This gay, green world with peace and grateful rest.... Now... The dear, soft darkness comes." Vale, dear cousin, and as others have so movingly said, Sleep Well. Phyllis. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 21 Mar 08 - 09:30 AM XXX |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Sheila Date: 19 Mar 08 - 02:56 PM Just to let you all know that the bucket collection in aid of Shelter raised £318.43p on the day of his funeral. You probably realise that the rather odd amount is due to people at the Tap & Spile reception putting their change from drinks into the bucket. This money is, of course, in addition to any sent direct to Shelter by post or internet. I have no idea whether or not Woja ever sought help from them. I simply wanted to give that organisation some support in his name to help ensure that it can continue to be AVAILABLE to other homeless persons in their time of need. Heartfelt thanks to everyone who contributed so generously. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Sheila Date: 18 Mar 08 - 06:11 PM A special word to J.a.b. I have just seen your wonderful poem, and it has touched my heart. He did tell me how much it mattered to him that you put your precious little daughter into his arms at a time when he wasn't the flavour of the month. Yesterday you were inconsolable. I do really want you to be feeling better today, now that you have expressed your heartfelt feelings. You are a lovely lady and a loving big sister to my granddaughter. I believe that Roger would want us to be together in every sense of the word, and don't forget that I know quite a lot about how very much you had to cope with during those difficult years. I look forward to spending more time with you and am so very glad that all of us who loved him could be together to celebrate his life. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 17 Mar 08 - 07:35 PM Today I witnessed the strength and love of Woja's family and freinds. I had the tears I expected but I had more smiles at the many memories I have of the man. His neice and nephew,his mum and sister,and his brother all were magnificent in their pride and grief. Thank you for letting the rest of us be a part of it all Stay safe and be hippy. Love Tim |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,martinC Date: 17 Mar 08 - 07:11 PM today we said goodbye to my dear bro thanks to everyone who came, from far and wide, friends and (extended) family. it was of great comfort to me, to be with so many people who cared for roger, and i'm sure shirley, my mum and the rest of our family would echo that. i think we said our farewells the best way we could, and now we must keep him here in our memories. thanks again it really touched me martin |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST Date: 16 Mar 08 - 09:57 PM i'm sorry it took me so long to write, after all we've been through i thought it right, for you were my father when i needed you so, and now that you're gone i need you to know, i loved you roger, my father, my friend, I hope you found happiness at the end, from one of the people that knew your pain, i hope in the future we'll meet again! i wish i had known you these last few years, all my love J.a.b |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Ian Date: 15 Mar 08 - 09:13 PM How do i remember Woja?Fag in one hand and a pint in the other with his legs rapped round each other.He had strong opinions on most things and spoke up about them.He gave so much to others in the way he encouraged us all.When i had doubts about the music i was doing he would be there with the right words to push me on.Goodnight mate and we will keep music live everywhere we can just as you would have wanted. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Rockhen Date: 15 Mar 08 - 07:29 PM I couldn't get the link that Shirley mentions, to work, but it was maybe my computer, just in case, here it is again, I hope this is right, Shirley... Shelter |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 15 Mar 08 - 10:16 AM Hi youse two He realy did enjoy his visits to your lovely Folk club. He came and supported me when i ended up solo at Faldinworth live too. Jen was too ill to travel or play so I was really pleased he wanted to come out there. I was still getting me leg pulled about the lost capo incident in the summer last year. Got a lot of memories of Woj,doing stuff and being there. He seemed to know quite a few of the performers at Faldingworth from earlier times. Take care |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Travelling Audience Date: 15 Mar 08 - 09:29 AM We've only met Woja a couple of times with Tim & Jen at GFC and he was such a friendly chap...R.I.P. Geoff & Mo. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Sheila (Woja's Mum) Date: 15 Mar 08 - 01:10 AM Just want to thank all the contributors to this site. Your messages are a great comfort to us now that the heavy tasks of making arrangements and contacting everyone are, at last, leaving us a few minutes to breathe and prepare ourselves for Monday. He will be hosting his biggest open mic/acoustic ever! |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: Tim Leaning Date: 14 Mar 08 - 07:58 PM From Jen, Woga was a star who shone bright to hide his own dark demons, yet he lit up the lives of all who knew him and will be sorely missed by all of us. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Trev and Angie Date: 14 Mar 08 - 06:29 PM Woja....you were a very special guy and we had many happy times, we loved you dearly and will miss you God Bless you Love Light and Peace xxxx Sleep tight xxxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Kara (Roger's neice) Date: 14 Mar 08 - 10:59 AM To the best 'Auntie' in the world - I miss you and I am just sooo sorry you never got to meet your great nephew Oscar. Sleep well xxxx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Danielle Carroll Date: 14 Mar 08 - 10:24 AM To my beautiful friend Roger I dedicate this poem Beautiful Dreamer a poem by Stephen Foster Beautiful dreamer, wake unto me, Starlight and dewdrops are waiting for thee; Sounds of the rude world heard in the day, Lull'd by the moonlight have all pass'd away! Beautiful dreamer, queen of my song, List while I woo thee with soft melody; Gone are the cares of life's busy throng. Beautiful dreamer, awake unto me! Beautiful dreamer, awake unto me! Beautiful dreamer, out on the sea, Mermaids are chaunting the wild lorelie; Over the streamlet vapors are borne, Waiting to fade at the bright coming morn. Beautiful dreamer, beam on my heart, E'en as the morn on the streamlet and sea; Then will all clouds of sorrow depart, Beautiful dreamer, awake unto me! |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 200 From: GUEST,Jim White Date: 14 Mar 08 - 07:48 AM WOJA From Jim White Don't fit me in a box Give me a clinical description Don't categorize me And give me one of your prescriptions. I'm far too complex To be labelled with just one name To many molecules Make up my precious brain. I'm me and that is all A man of many pieces A super human being At the top of his species. So don't categorize me Take me for what I am Someone full of life A complicated man |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,martinC Date: 13 Mar 08 - 04:16 PM just want to add my thanks to all who have contributed here hope to see some of you on monday martin |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,john sills Date: 13 Mar 08 - 11:21 AM Only the good die young Rog - you were the best of us. |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Kenny Date: 13 Mar 08 - 07:00 AM We all played for you at the Tap & Spile last night Woja Friends that could'nt make it would all have been thinking of you It seemed to us you were there listening and smiling away like you did...enjoying everyone... Love all your musical mates..and friends.. We'll all be with you again Monday mate... Sleep well.. xx |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 200 From: GUEST,Jim White Date: 13 Mar 08 - 04:26 AM He was larger than life. A flamboyant friend to all. His enthusiasm for his music rubbed off on all of us . As the song says' "You don't know what you've got till it's gone!" We certainly don't. A gentleman, a great muscian, a friend. Lost from us. But I have your CD's my friend, you won't be far away. Jim |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,His Mum Date: 12 Mar 08 - 10:26 PM Look, I shall be 80 next year. This morning I couldn't spare the time to put my lipstick on because at present it goes all over my face and I have to start again. Yes, I am grieving the loss of my dear first-born child, but I am so heartened by all the loving messages that are coming from people I have not yet met, although I believe I know every inch of the way from my home to Hull and Grimsby hospitals, and only wish I had either been born with wings or that every other road user would get out of the ****ing way and let Woja's brother-in-law drive without having to use French expletives to get me wherever he is taking me on a particular day. Roll on Monday when I and Roger's family can meet all the wonderful people who have been so important to him throughout his troubled years. I love you all, and promise there will be some treats for you on the day. Bring a tissue. With love, Woja's Mum |
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Subject: RE: Obit: Roger Coult, Woja the Hippy (9 March 2008) From: GUEST,Jeanette Date: 12 Mar 08 - 04:21 PM Glad I spoke to you on Saturday Sweet Dreams xxx |
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