Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-Apr 29, 2011

Subject: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Big Mick
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 06:52 PM

The most precious thing on this earth is our children. My daughter and one of her closest friends were on the way to my brother's today and were involved in an auto accident. The other little girl, whom I loved, did not make it. My daughter, who was driving, is going to be OK. She has a lacerated spleen, and is very sore, but will recover physically. We will have much work to do with her to help her through this, but her big heart is going to be hurt. All prayers, thoughts, whatever you do at this time, will be gratefully accepted.

I am beyond grief for this girls family. I have always told these kids that they are all my kids. That has been made real by this loss beyond what I can describe. I am not sure how I will come out of this. I ache for this wonderful girl's family, and I cannot stop my tears for them. I don't know how I will face them, but I must. We must. We must honor her life, and what a special friend she was to my Ciara.

Hold your children. Tell them today, right this damn minute, how very precious they are to you. Live and love with them like they might be gone tomorrow.

I am sorry for the ramble, but my world is upside down. I just thought my friends here ...... hell, I don't know what I thought. I can deal with problems that I can grab hold of and wrestle to the ground. I have no idea what to do with this.

Just give us some thoughts and prayers ...... please.

Mick

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: open mike
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 06:55 PM

((((((mick))))))
holding you and your family and the girl's family in my heart...

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Bonnie Shaljean
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 06:57 PM

Oh my God, Mick, there's nothing I can say except that thoughts, prayers, wishes, beams of love and strength are flying your way from here, and from every other point on the compass I am sure. Thinking of you all and grieving for this terrible loss -

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Jeanie
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 06:57 PM

Mick: Love and prayers coming over to you all right now from Essex, England.

- jeanie

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Leadfingers
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:01 PM

Same from me Mick !! Not enough Words !!

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Linda Kelly
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:09 PM

There is a lot of love on this planet and its coming right at you-be strong.We are all thinking of you. Linda x

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Learaí na Láibe
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:10 PM

What a terrible tragedy.

What we hear about and read about and hope it doesn't happen to us........

Nothing I can say to help but I can feel a little of your pain through cyberspace.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,heric
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:12 PM

How to face such a test - I surely don't know. I know you can do it, though. You have to push through it. There are no options.

You will do this and I wish you strength in the interim.

Dan

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Jeri
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:15 PM

I don't have any words, but you have my sympathy and hugs.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: gnu
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:19 PM

Oh my. I have no words. Only tears, thoughts and prayers.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: DebC
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:21 PM

Oh Mick! I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you, your family and the other girl's family are in my thoughts.

Deb Cowan

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Charley Noble
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:26 PM

Mick-

I can not begin to imagine your pain but I wish you and your family well, and the other grieving family.

Charley Noble

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:26 PM

I am so sorry, Mick.

Every time my kids leave it's with an "I love you," a hug, and a kiss, and a silent wish that they return again, healthy and happy. It's all we can do.

Maggie

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Azizi
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:30 PM

This is just absolutely awful.

Mick, you're right that we have to let those we love know it because we never know when it might be the last time we see them in this life.

Count me among those here who are sending lots of positive vibrations to the girl's family, and your daughter Ciara, and to you also.


Your daughter may want to look into groups in your area that can help her work through her grief at the loss of her very good friend. Those groups can also help her with the feelings of guilt that she may be feeling even though she shouldn't be guilty. I hope that she connects with these groups or connects with a counselor for the same reasons if she feels that she needs one.

As to how you face the girl's family, you face them being real.

Maybe you all need to cry together and talk about how much life really sucks and how you feel that you have also lost a member of your family. I trust your instincts. Just be yourself.

And please give your daughter a BIG hug from us.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: catspaw49
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:31 PM

You know my best thoughts are all yours and to all of your friends so deeply affected by this tragedy. Ciara has strong genes and a strong family but let her know how much we all here who have watched her grow are sending our best to her as well.

Tough times dear friend and words are never enough, just all that we have.........One of those many times here that I wish the'Cat were also geographical so we could all be together in times like these. You know that we are all with you in the ways we can be.......You, me, all of us I am sure wish we could hop in our cars, drive across town, and be together.

I am so sorry Mick............Much Love

Pat

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Mrrzy
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:35 PM

How horrible, Mick! Please lean on us as much as you can! Love,
-Mrr

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: katlaughing
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:41 PM

Oh Mickdarlin'...I can hardly see for the tears. So, so sorry this happened. Please know there is a lot of love coming your way from all of us, esp. to Ciara and her friend's family. May we please have her friend's first name to include a more personal prayer?

The job of being a parent is full of joy and sorrow. Sometimes one seems to outweigh the other. May you and your family, as well as that of Ciara's friend, find some small comfort in sharing the grief and in knowing there are many, many of us who love you and send our best thoughts.

Much love,

Kat & Rog, Rue & Morgan

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: SINSULL
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:44 PM

Mick,
Thre are no words. I will keep your wonderful family in my prayers.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Alice
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:49 PM

OH, god, Mick, I'm so sad to read this.
Take care of yourself.
Alice

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: jacqui.c
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:49 PM

Oh Mick, words aren't enough. I agree with Spaw.

You have our phone number. If we can do anything or even if you just need to talk we are here.

Please give Ciara a hug from me and let her know that she is in our thoughts here in Maine.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Bobert
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:52 PM

My heart goes out to you, your family, your daughter, her friend and her friend's family...

There are days when I think that God, at the end of the day, wishes He had a God to pray to and to promise to do better tomorrow...

My deepest regrets for this loss and prayers for God to grace you, your family and your duaghter's friend's family with His love, comfort and peace...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: McGrath of Harlow
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:55 PM

It's little comfort in a time like this, but you know there are people all round the world who'll be thinking of you and Ciara. Thank you for letting us know about this, Mick.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Mrs.Duck
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:57 PM

We are with you in spirit , Mick. This is going to be a hard time not only for the girl's family but especially for Ciara. Our hearts go out to you all.
Jane and Geoff

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: skipy
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 07:58 PM

All of the above Mick, give her a hug from me, & lean on "us lot" as much as you need to.
Skipy

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: SharonA
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 08:01 PM

Mick, I'm terribly sorry to hear this tragic news. My heart goes out to you and your family and to this poor girl's family. My thoughts are with you all.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,DonMeixner
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 08:17 PM

There are no words I can add Mick. I have enough room in my heart for your family as well.

Don

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Dave Swan
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 08:28 PM

Damn. My love to everyone involved. Check your PMs.

D

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: curmudgeon
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 08:38 PM

The words just won't come together yet, but our thoughts are with all of you - Tom and Linn

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Bee
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 08:46 PM

Mick, how terrible! I am so sorry, and will be thinking of you and your daughter and both families.

This has been a huge fear for me recently, while my much loved niece went through her graduation events, so it is close to my heart how dreadful you all are feeling.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: open mike
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 09:14 PM

how gracious and generous of you to think of others at a time like this
and share advice about letting the ones you love know it.
your advice is well taken...thanks for the reminder.

Shower the people you love with love
tell them the way that you feel....

---James Taylor

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Wesley S
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 09:17 PM

So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and all the families involved. Take care.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 09:36 PM

Oh, dearest Mick, you and your daughter and all involved are in my heart and prayers tonight. There are no words.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Ebbie
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 09:50 PM

I am so sorry. One of those things no one knows how to cope with but has to anyway. I would add to what Open Mike said: Tell and show everyone what you feel, acknowledge that they feel the same, give extra helpings of love to your daughter...

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Colin Randall
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 10:07 PM

Mick

Your appalling tragedy immediately made me think guiltily of my own loved ones, from whom I am separated by thousands of miles, and of two recent life-threatening incidents on the road on the same day but which - in the random way of these things - ended with no more than relief and shaking heads.

I offer a stranger's sympathy and solidarity, and the hope that all of you can somehow triumph over the grief, physical and emotional scars and feelings of helplessness.

Bon courage.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Maryrrf
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 10:13 PM

Oh Mick I am so sorry to hear this. It must be horrible for everyone. My son had a good friend who was killed in an automobile accident. My son almost rode home with that group from a party but just by the grace of god, he didn't. My heart goes out to everyone who was involved in the incident.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: KathWestra
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 10:34 PM

Dear Mick, I'm so very sorry. Sending much love and light to you, Mary Lou, and Ciara. Check your PMs. Love, Kath

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Amos
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 10:35 PM

Forgive Clara, and forgive yourself, and the child who did not make it out of the wreck. Hugs to you, man. And more.


A

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Beer
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 10:44 PM

This is a tough one Mick. Real rough and so little to say. Peace (Bruce)may miss this thread as he is incognito (on the road recording and getting ready for a festival)most of the time but I will relay your grief to him as I'm sure he would want to know. You have a tough ride ahead and your daughter and love ones will need you. If I could give you some strength I would.
Love ya.
Adrien

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: ClaireBear
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 11:00 PM

I am so sorry for your grief and loss. Hugs from California, and I will be praying for you and yours.

Claire

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,heric
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 11:16 PM

I don't know if this speaks to you in your circumstances, but I learned this "Sailor's Prayer" of Rod MacDonald on mudcat, and printed out this excerpt to hang on my wall when circumstances warranted it:

Though my sails be torn and tattered and my mast be turned about
Let the night wind chill me to my very soul
Though the spray might sting my eyes and the stars no light provide
Give me just another morning light to hold

For I will not lie me down, this rain a raging
I will not lie me down in such a storm
And if this night be unblessed I shall not take my rest
Until I reach another shore


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You will take your daughter there. There is no doubt. It's just that you have to do it.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Rapparee
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 11:31 PM

Jaysus, Mick.

This is beyond awful, beyond tragic. I don't know what to say other than the usual platitudes.

But if I can do anything, don't hesitate to ask. You know that.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Texas Guest
Date: 05 Jul 08 - 11:35 PM

Big Mick - prayers, kind thoughts and hugs go out to you and yours. May you all weather this storm with peace, resolution and understanding. May God be with you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Nancy King
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:02 AM

Mick, what a terrible thing to happen to your family and your friends. Just know that all of you are in our thoughts.

Nancy

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Genie
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:15 AM

Oh, how I wish I had words to help ease your pain and the grief of Ciara and of her friend's family, Mick.   Obviously, I don't, but please let me add my care, love and prayers to those that have been extended above.   My heart goes out to all of you, and God be with you all.

{{{{{{{{{{{{Mick, Ciara, and her friend's family}}}}}}}}}}

Genie

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: katlaughing
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:28 AM

Mick, it's Buddhist and if you follow the link and read what it says, it might not seem just the right mantra to help, but this Medicine Buddha Mantra on youtube has been very helpful for a number of folks. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, but at some point, perhaps it will help to quiet broken hearts and bring some peace.

Next time Morgan and I chant it together we will keep you in our hearts and thoughts.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Donuel
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:58 AM

God Mick All I feel right now is deep sympathy for the children and all the parents.   IF there is something we all can do together to make this memory a more merciful and caring moment for everyone involved, please be bold enough to let it happen. It may be the customary rituals of bereavment or a door that suddenly opens to a more meaningful world. All that is certain is that this will one day be a powerful memory.

Please allow everyone who feels the need to help or grieve to do so in the ways they know best.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Gerry
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:31 AM

Mick, my condolences. I wish you and yours strength in the coming days.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: oggie
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:34 AM

Mick

My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours

Steve

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Marion
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:48 AM

What a terrible thing to happen. Love and sympathy to you and your family.

Marion

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Skivee
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 02:15 AM

I'm so sorry to hear the terrible news.
I can only wish that your daughter recovers quickly. How very sad for her friend's family.