Obit: My heart is broken-Mick**Update-Apr 29, 2011

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: maeve
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 02:29 AM

Ciara's Friend

Lord of the heavens and of Earth
Let the lovelight of this youngling,
This dear child, friend, joy-bringer,
Shine
Lighting the dark around us
Like stars, fireflies,
Shimmering Northern Lights.

May the thought of her in years to come
Bring comfort more than grief
To those who remain behind, let it bring
Light;
That the darkest hours be brightened
Lightened, gentled, turned from sorrow
Into wonder of wonders, joy

That she was here and alive,
A song once begun, sung now in a different
Lovely mode, by a multitude of voices;
Celebrated
In a hundred harmonies of hallelujah
That those who love her here can tell
Of her bright life, shining still in their hearts.

maeve

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Bert
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 03:11 AM

Love and prayers, our thoughts are with you.

I know how you must have loved that friend as your own. Hug Ciara for all of us here.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: alanabit
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 03:21 AM

I'll be thinking of you Mick and the other bereaved family. The girl you all lost is beyond pain now and I am sure she will wish for you all to be comforted. I'll be valuing those around me just that little bit more today.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 05:06 AM

Mick I know what a lovely warm person you are, and how you share it with those around you, so let me return some of that love and affection. I was sorry I am to hear of this accident, and what a scare it must have given you and Mary Lou. Give Ciara a hug from me when she isn't too sore to be hugged. She will heal physically, but mentally it will stay with her for a long time, so keep taking care of her even after the bruises go away.

John 'G'

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Megan L
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 05:07 AM

Keeping her and both families in our thoughts and prayers

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: semi-submersible
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 05:16 AM

Caring thoughts from British Columbia to Ciara and all of you in both families. Language can't express much, can it?

What to offer Ciara as she adjusts to this changed world? My mom told me once, "You do have the strength. You're descended from survivors." It stuck with me, and helped.

Might-have-beens, not the actual loss, hurt the worst. Good, life-giving memories break the if-only... cycle.

Young leaves wind-torn, old leaves care-worn
Tumbling, crumbling into memory, form
Soil to feed next season's growth again

We can only guess how much of our road we will share with a fellow traveller. Thank you, Mick, for sharing both gifts with us: grieving and warning.
-Maureen-

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Susanne (skw)
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 05:53 AM

Mick - can't think of anything that hasn't been said before. Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you and your daughter, her friend who is at peace, and her family in their grief.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: fat B****rd
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 05:56 AM

I'm so sorry to read this, Mick. I'm thinking of you and yours. Best regards from Charlie.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Eye Lander
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 05:56 AM

We cannot begin to imagine what you, your family, and your daughter's friends family are going though. But our thoughts are with you.

Jillie and Andy (Miskin Man)

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: SussexCarole
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 06:20 AM

Mick   We're both so sorry to hear this tragic news. Our thoughts and love are with you and everyone else involved.

Andrew & Carole xxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Cats
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 06:24 AM

Mick, This is just so terrible for all concerned. Huge hugs to you, all your family and the fmily of the young girl. We'll light a candle to help guide the girl over the rainbow bridge to the Summerlands.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Morticia
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 06:29 AM

Hugs to you, to Ciara and to the poor girls family. I wish there were something wise or comforting I could say to you right now, but know that we love you and are thinking of you. As you have said to me and to others looking for comfort over the years, listen for her voice, she will be there in the hearts and minds of others.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Brakn
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 06:41 AM

Mick, my condolences.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: RangerSteve
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 06:43 AM

I've never been very good at conveying my thoughts in situations like this, but my thoughts are with you.

Steve

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,beachcomber
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 07:38 AM

What a terrible shock for all concerned. I sincerely hope that the family of that youngster may be able to take some modicum of comfort also from this thread which will, I am certain, continue to grow.
I've been on to Mudcat (and off) for a few years without ever feeling part of it's "inner core" but the strange thing is that I almost feel that I am acquainted with you Mick, having read your many, knowledgable posts on so many topics over that time.
Best wishes mate.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Anne Lister
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 07:40 AM

Mick, how awful for you and for those around you. Here's another virtual hug and thoughts for you all. Words can't help - this isn't a rational time - but I hope you can all draw some strength and comfort from the love sent by friends.

Anne

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Waddon Pete
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 07:55 AM

Mick, just to let you know that I, too, am thinking of you all at this sad and difficult time. A wave of love from Suffolk, England.

Peter

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: nutty
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 08:29 AM

The unfairness of life is always difficult to fathom.

Torn between wanting to give thanks for a daughters survival while mourning anothers loss must be one of the hardest things to bear.

My thoughts are with you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: bankley
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 09:00 AM

I don't really know you, we've never met.... but I've heard from a reliable source that you're a good man.... please accept my condolences.... life is so precious...

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Jean(eanjay)
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 09:04 AM

I am so sorry to hear this.

Thoughts and prayers sent from North Yorkshire.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: George Papavgeris
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 09:16 AM

Lots of love to you both, big fella, and to the other girl's family too. It's tough, really tough, what you're going through and I am sure I cannot even fully comprehend it. But I am thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Peace
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 09:29 AM

Mick,

I wish . . . .

Bruce

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: lady penelope
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 09:33 AM

Mick - it makes my heart sore to hear this news. We'll be thinking of you and yours. Peace be with you.

Penny.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Severn
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 09:51 AM

As someone who has lost a stepdaughter and an "adopted family member", who we actually took in for a while, at various times, while I can say I'll never be able to fully understand the effects of your grief and that of your family and that of the girl who died, I have felt high-magnitude grief and have seen its effects on myself those around me.

Be strong, finding strength within yourselves and reach out and find it from what other human and spiritual sources are available as needed. Keep a knowledge of what the others are going through in order to get through it on a family as well as an individual level. My thoughts are with you as well.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Janie
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 10:17 AM

Mick,

May each of you know you are surrounded by light, love and mercy in the midst of such shocking loss and grief.

Like all the others have said, I'm holding all of you close in my heart.

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: skarpi
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 10:29 AM

well what can I say , big hugs and love to Ciara and you both , tell her that, her Icelandic friend is thinkin of her .

Mick , one year ago my doughter went through difficult time when she
lost her boyfriend in a car accitent, and was goin to take her own live
but we manage to hold on to her and help her through it.

I gave her everthing I have from my heart so I know what you goin
through.

what you said about the children is true , tell them that you love them and give them a hug whenever you have a change , you may have them today and
not tomorrow as we say here in Iceland .

So again Mick be strong this is goin to take time .
Lots of love and hugs to all of you , and I am sorry to hear about the other girl , may god be with you all .

All the best Skarpi Iceland .

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 10:51 AM

I've never met any of the people involved in this tragedy, but I'm crying, too.

adding my love & condolences to those expressed by the Mudcat community, to your Mick & both your families

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Keith A of Hertford
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 10:53 AM

Thoughts and prayers Mick.
I have a daughter and can imgine how it must be.
The next few days will be the worst, and I will be thinking of you and yours.
Be strong for them,
keith.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GEST
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 10:54 AM

Mick ~

I grieve with you. Twenty-one years ago my 21-year-old son was a passenger in a vehicle driven by his uncle. The car failed a curve and went over a cliff along California's coast highway. They say he lived all night, but was so badly injured that he had no way of living or knowing that his uncle had already died in the plunge. I still feel the agony of that phone call.

Four years ago, my granddaughter was thrown from a pickup truck in which her boy friend was killed. She suffered major head trauma and will never be the same. Today she sits in a federal penitentiary for parole violations she may never comprehend.

Your post has brought these tragic memories vividly back to me. Be strong for your daughter. Make sure she gets sound post-traumatic stress counseling. She will need your love and counseling more than you or anyone else will ever know. Make sure she knows you will do all that it takes to help her into the future. Do not let her fall prey to misguided concepts from her peers. Let her know you are her friend and best ally.

May you and your daughter both find peace through love and kindness.

GEST

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Ron Davies
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 11:00 AM

Words can't convey. So sorry to hear this.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Rapparee
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 11:07 AM

Mick, get counseling. For you and your daughter. Do it as soon as you can. It's gonna be more PTSD, and you know what that can do.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 11:45 AM

There are no words that any of us can say, or advice that any of us can give, adequate for the situation. With all you were already going through, this new horror must be almost impossible to bear. I am incredibly thankful that it happened at a time when you were home and available to be with Ciara and give her the love and support she needs, while getting the love and support you need.

Rapaire is right - this is a time when counseling is absolutely called for, for everyone concerned. And others are right, too - we, your friends, are thinking about you and sending you our care. We are not grieving like you are grieving, but nevertheless we do grieve with you.

Call me anytime, friend. You know that you can.

Warmly,
Dan

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 11:46 AM

Heartfelt thoughts and prayers for both families from the Harris family.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Bill D
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 11:55 AM

.........I can only be one more voice added to all those above. No amount of condolences can change what happens, but perhaps knowing how many people care and are thinking of you and the families will buoy you through it a bit.

Take care of your daughter....and when you can bear it, go play that low whistle in a quiet place.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,suzi
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:02 PM

So very sorry Mick... Love and blessings to you all. Suzi... x

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Neil D
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:16 PM

One of the worst unavoidable facts of life is when horrible things happen to good people, and these sudden, shocking tragedies are the worst. The best that anyone can do in these circumstances is to try, somehow, to muster up the strength from within that will be so sorely needed by those around you. I echo what everyone else has posted here and only hope our mere words can in some small way help you to find that strength.
                                              Neil Devore

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Dave Roberts
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:17 PM

Deepest sympathy.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Guy WOlff On Lap top
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:23 PM

Mick I am so sorry to read the above . Nothing comes close to this kind of thing . Back to one breath at a time . Put some music into the air if you can . The air around you will need it . Tons of good wishes . Guy Wolff

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: LilyFestre
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:33 PM

((((((((((((((Mick)))))))))))

Love & Prayers to your family.

Michelle

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: kendall
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:50 PM

I'm not often at a loss for words, but this is one of those times my friend. So, all I can think of at the moment is a line from Hank Williams:..."for it's written that the greatest men never get to big to cry" (from Men with broken hearts).

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Geordie-Peorgie
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 12:58 PM

You came to the right place, Mick!

Everyone of us who reads this will wrap you, and yours, in our love and protection.

Worlds apart, but we're here for you buddy!

BFG

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Art Thieme
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:04 PM

Oh, Mick, I'm so sorry. At this very moment our son Chris, his wife, Kat and our 2 granddaughters and our very NEW grandson, 2 weeks old-- Byron Sky Thieme, are driving here from the Chicago area. I'm in tears reading of your anguish, and your daughters pain and the grief of all of you. If empathy is at all a part of our being at this stage of evolution, you have all the sincere feelings of sorrow and grief I am capable of. And love, too, to hold you all!

Art

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: BB
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:10 PM

Mick, I feel for you so much, and I know nothing can take away your pain. I understand, too, your feelings for your daughter's friend - we have an 'adopted' daughter too who we care for as much as our own.

It may not help now, but perhaps in the future, a slightly adapted version of a song which has helped us through in the past:

        THE LEAF

As I was a-walking one morning at ease,
A-viewing the leaves as they fell from the trees,
All in full motion appearing to be:
Those that had withered, they fell from the tree.

        What's the life of a man any more than a leaf?
        A man has his seasons so why should he grieve?
        Although through this life we appear fine and gay,
        Like a leaf we must wither and soon fade away.

If you had seen the leaves just a few days ago,
How beautiful and bright they did all seem to grow;
A frost came upon them and withered them all;
A storm came along them and down they did fall.

When age or affliction upon us do call,
Like a leaf we must wither and down we must fall;
Some taken early, so soon to depart,
But as we remember, they live in our hearts.

You're very much in my thoughts.

Love,
Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:50 PM

Mick my sincerest condolences to all for such a great loss. I can feel your pain and grief and your are all in my thoughts.

Frank

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,old girl
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 01:57 PM

You are in our Hearts and Prayers God be with you at this time.
Rose & dave

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: My guru always said
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 02:13 PM

I'm so sorry to see that this has happened, life can be so very cruel. My thoughts are with you and all affected by this tragedy.
Hil

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Mark Ross
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 02:17 PM

Mick,

Just caught this, I am so sorry. Hope your daughter will be OK and you too.

Mark Ross

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST,Jack the Sailor
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 02:32 PM

I just read this thread for the first time.

Such a horrific event. I can't think of any words of comfort.

I will pray for you and your family, and your daughter and your daughter's lost friend, and her friend's family.

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: GUEST
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 03:24 PM

*hugs* and deepest sympathies to all.

-- Gary

Subject: RE: Obit: My heart is broken - Mick
From: Ferrara
Date: 06 Jul 08 - 03:35 PM

Oh Mick, it is indeed heart breaking. I'm sending you a PM with some thoughts, and sending all of you my love.