BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Peter T.
Date: 19 Feb 09 - 07:16 AM

Little Hawk, I ran your lucubrations past a woman of my acquaintance (taken, I'm sorry) and she just laughed. "He's about the worst candidate for lonerdom ever," was her response.



yours,

Peter T.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Little Hawk
Date: 19 Feb 09 - 02:33 AM

Yes, Peter, that is what the experts refer to as "life"... ;-)

But it's not the only possible mode of life one can or should follow. It's just the most common one. I honestly think some people are basically meant to live alone, they're better off that way (in a psychological sense), and that I'm one of them. This is true of some women too, I would think.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Gurney
Date: 19 Feb 09 - 01:02 AM

In a book I read once, it is three animals: A Jaguar, -in the garage, a Mink, -in the wardrobe, and a Tiger, -in bed.

My woman? A clean but unexpected joke punchline, and small, spontaneous displays of affection.

Oh, and help about the house without having to ask. Big one, that.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: GUEST,hg
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 09:26 PM

Kind,funny,good kisser...likes the outdoors and smart makes perfection in my mind....doesn't have to be a musician as long as I can play almost as much as I want.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: MaineDog
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 07:27 PM

Someone, please tell me the answer to that important question, since I may have to do it sometime soon!
MD

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Bill D
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 07:13 PM

"...my life goes totally out of control... "

hmmm... I guess that makes me wonder who tries to control what. But it is obviously better to NOT get serious and try living with someone, than to have tedious conflicts, no matter why they happen.

I know a woman who has much the same basic problem...she tries to "have a serious relationship" and issues develop. In her case, I am 82.537% sure that she tries to gently 'adjust' the habits of her intended partner....for his own good, of course. She is a very nice, giving, talented lady who has lived alone for many years, developing her clear ideas on everything from politics to what to have for dinner. I think she has just about decided that your way works best, Little Hawk.

I dunno if I am just totally lucky THIS time, or whether I learned some things from what didn't work before, but we 'make room' for each other's needs and adjust and listen.

There's no one 'right' way for anyone to live and relate to others, but my best answer to "what makes a woman happy" is to listen and learn and try to be aware, even during the inevitable disagreements.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Peter T.
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 06:59 PM

Uh, what you are describing is what experts refer to as "life". You will get over the sex and love train wreck part either (a) she will come along; or (b) round about 100 (though I am told that Romanian women over 100 are still pretty flirty).

yours,

Peter T.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Little Hawk
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 06:13 PM

You think? ;-)

Well, guys, I have this problem with sex. I take it way too seriously...and I fall in love with people. Then my life goes totally out of control and I end up in some romantic situation that drives me right out of my mind and everything "turns to shit", to quote Blake Madison or someone else like that. It's a frikkin' disaster. Every time.

That is why I think abstinence is the best idea in my case. I was meant to live either alone...or in a community of like-minded people like an ashram or something...but not with one woman.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Bill D
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 05:19 PM

Or...have more company...*grin*

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Peter T.
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 04:32 PM

Little Hawk, you need to get out more.

yours,

Peter T.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: bobad
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 04:13 PM

Ah Bill, they wrapped themselves in the security of your philosophy.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Bill D
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 03:59 PM

*tsk*, Donuel....not the ones who liked ME!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Donuel
Date: 18 Feb 09 - 03:54 PM

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Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Georgiansilver
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 05:45 PM

Been on my own for six years now and I guess I just don't have to worry anymore about what women want.... unless they tell me they want something specific.... in which case I try to oblige if I can.... they are all different... some want love... some want the Alpha male... some want security... some want........... I'll shut up now and let someone else have a go...

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Little Hawk
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 05:38 PM

For sure, Jeri. I understand what you mean.

I know exactly what it is that caused various women to start loving me in the past...and I know what to do to please them, providing I'm willing to do it...I'm not always willing to do it.

It's just that I don't actually want the complications of such a relationship in my life anymore, and I can't be bothered. I am not looking for "the right formuala" to find someone, because I'm not looking, period. I have no strategies in mind for that.

I prefer friendships at this point in my life, not love affairs. Friends are people I can have a good time with playing music or whatever, but I'm a free man when I walk out the door.

Sex? I don't worry much about that anymore. If I never have sex again till the day I die....okay, fine. It's a very enjoyable experience in itself, but it's not the key to happiness.

p.s. I would not have believed my present perspective on this prior to age 50!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Jeri
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 05:18 PM

Hawk, I'm not really very militant about this. Not even very serious.

I think maybe these threads reassure some of you guys. Maybe if you get just the right formula of flowers and chocolates, women will be nice to you.

Seriously, and I MEAN it: there's a reason she started loving you. Just remember what it was and honor it. Note that the flowers and chocolates, a dinner out or a romantic dinner you cooked won't hurt... unless she thinks you're feeling guilty about something which will get you a buttload of trouble.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Little Hawk
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 04:48 PM

From what I've seen at the local internet cafe, most people's S.O. these days is a laptop computer! Or an iphone.

Yeah, these threads on "women" (as if they could all be summarized somehow in a single definition) are a bit creepy, no doubt about it, Jeri, but they also offer an opportunity for some lighthearted banter and I don't think there's any real harm in that as long as it's not accompanied by bad intentions. Bobert, for example, needs to do threads about "womenz" now and then as a way of poking fun at himself and his ongoing life and thereby relieving stress. It's a form of therapy.

What would really offend you is the dog-eared books Shane has been studying for years on how to pick up girls. Now THOSE are CREEPY! Also, they don't seem to have done him any good...

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 03:48 PM

Pleasing S O's for DUMMIES

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Wesley S
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 03:44 PM

Just the one. That's enough. Foe me at least. YMMV.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Jeri
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 03:04 PM

How many S.O.'s do you have Wesley!?

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Wesley S
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 02:55 PM

'What Makes Your S.O. Happy?'

There are almost as many answers as there are people.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Jeri
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 02:46 PM

Amos put happy industrious finger to hard-used, letters-worn-off keyboard on tired but faithful Mac and like a fiend addicted to words the same as some are addicted to absinthe (which does NOT make the heart grow fonder, only more sloppily affectionate) and typed with a fervor only equaled in 'what is folk?' arguments and threads in other other anal-retentive magnet subjects, "What I want to know is what possessed Adrien Beer to make a possessive form out of a verb, in the thread title, or otherwise abuse a poor little apostrophe that had done him no harm." and yet you ignored his odd period, lack of spaces and capitalization of the noun 'sex' (which was not used as a proper noun), and yet you might have just queried, "Adrien, why did you stick an apostrophe in 'its'?"--but you didn't.

He isn't perfect, but neither are you, so THERE, buster.

These threads give me the creeps too. It's a little like those 'how to get girls' books for losers who can't just force themselves to JUST be decent human beings... or a Bobert thread. Plus, you get people criticizing you for starting a 'thread like this'.

OK folks, lets all pretend he asked 'What Makes Your S.O. Happy?'
I don't know, cuz I ain't got one o' them SO thangs. All I can offer is this: Beer, I've seen your gardens. If she wants plants, give her plants!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: gnu
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 02:33 PM

Well, Amos, in that case, a rare one.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: kendall
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 02:13 PM

Actually, I most concerned with making ONE woman happy.

Old Dude, it's simple; find out what she wants and giver her plenty of it.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 12:31 PM

Amos-
It's called apostrophilia.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: KT
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 11:28 AM

Amo's you crack me up!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Amos
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 10:56 AM

What I want to know is what possessed Adrien Beer to make a possessive form out of a verb, in the thread title, or otherwise abuse a poor little apostrophe that had done him no harm. Perhaps he was taken over by spirits of some kind. IN any case the title is a silly statement.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Wesley S
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 10:45 AM

Yeah - all chicks think that way Alice.......

I'm sorry I couldn't resist.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Alice
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 10:22 AM

I really hate these threads that lump all of one gender together as if people were not individuals. It is insulting.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Midchuck
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 10:12 AM

The question has in fact been answered, as has the corresponding question with regard to a man: here.

Peter

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: wysiwyg
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:58 AM

What makes "a woman" happy-- there's the problem. What makes a specific woman happy is what makes her happy as a PERSON who happens to be female in her own unique way.

Me, for instance. Hate roses. Knowing that I don't like them and that their odor turns my stomach, now that's happy. Thinking about ME, and not "how I gonna make my woman happy".

~S~

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: olddude
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:56 AM

Living with women my whole life I would say that any guy who knows the answer to this would make a fortune

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Wesley S
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:55 AM

One of the best mandolin builders I know Has Brentrup { he built one of my mandolins } thought outside the box and built his wife a guitar for Valentines Day.Here's a link to some photos - I can understand why she has a smile on her face....

Martin O-45 copy

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:50 AM

Kindness and laughing is good... I have insomnia problems. My honey reads (usually something lighthearted, like Disc World) to me almost everynight.

I am so spoiled.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:41 AM

I think it was LLoyd George who said, 'We will never solve the Irish question. Every time we find an answer, they change the question'
I feel that way about women.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: SINSULL
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:36 AM

I suspect, Kendall, that men appreciate the same. But yes - you have got it right.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: kendall
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:13 AM

Respect. To be listened to.To be made to laugh. And made to feel safe and special.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Bobert
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 08:04 AM

Good golley, Miss Molley...

A womenz thread that I did ***not*** start!!!

Stop the presses... Get Ripley on the phone...

But seein' as I am the resident expert on womenz I'll put my 2 cents worth in... What makes 'um happy is listenin' to 'um ramble and if ya' do that the clues are in the ramblin'... They will tell ya' what will make 'um happy and then you do or get 'um what they want, ya' get laid fir doin' 'er gettin' and then the process begins again...

Purdy simple...

Not...

B~

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Beer
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 07:43 AM

Bullfrog!
What you said reminds me of a verse by john Prine in his song "Far From Me".

Well, I leaned on my left leg
in the parking lot dirt
And Cathy was closing the lights
A June bug flew from the warmth he once knew
And I wished for once I weren't right
Why we used to laugh together
And we'd dance to any old song.
Well, ya know, she still laughs with me
But she waits just a second too long.


Adrien

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Catherine Jayne
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 07:10 AM

I third the making her laugh too and the kindness, understanding, loving and hugs. I like flowers and chocolate and long walks and stoies with my children too, sex isn't always the answer.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: CarolC
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 05:49 AM

I second the making her laugh one. But kindness and liking what makes me who I am are right up there also.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Bullfrog Jones
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 05:24 AM

Make her laugh -- with you rather than at you...

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: John MacKenzie
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 05:03 AM

Ah yes, that may make her happy today, but it probably won't do so tomorrow.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Sooz
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 03:43 AM

You've got it exactly Bee-dubya-ell!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Anne Lister
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 03:05 AM

A non-question. You might as well ask "what makes a person happy?"
It all depends on the woman. One woman doesn't necessarily have anything more in common with another woman than a man has in common with another man.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Dave Hanson
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 02:51 AM

Which just about covers everything in the universe.

Dave H

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Bee-dubya-ell
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 01:19 AM

Not doing things that make her unhappy is a good starting point.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: wilbyhillbilly
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 12:54 AM

ME!

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: Mickey191
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 12:41 AM

An unexpected phone call - "I was missing you."

A sentimental greeting card.

"I'll do the dishes, Honey."

A hug in the kitchen.

Depends, of course, on the lady.

Oh yea:

A Jelly Doughnut wouldn't hurt either.

Subject: RE: BS: So, What Makes's a Woman Happy!
From: katlaughing
Date: 17 Feb 09 - 12:25 AM

LH is on the right track! And we like to be sung to, esp. love songs.:-)