Obit: Kaelan Paton(Sandy&Caroline's grandson) 2009

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: karen k
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 08:38 PM

Sunday, July 12, 2009 1pm - 7pm Hosatonic Valley Regional High School. Service, meal, music and a contradance. All are welcome.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 12:50 PM

Any word yet on arrangements?

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: freda underhill
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 07:42 AM

yes, a great tragedy, my thoughts with you as well.

freda

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: alison
Date: 25 Jun 09 - 02:48 AM

so very sorry - thinking of you all at this time

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Rapparee
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 10:38 PM

There are no words. Just know that we all care.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 10:27 PM

Many years ago, one of my first influences of traditional music came from a lovely album I rescued from a library sale in my new home near Chapel Hill NC.

I learned a song from it, and brought it to my first Getaway, not brave enough to sing in front of people, but hoping to hear it. Where the first workshop I went to was led by Caroline Paton, who of course already knew the song because it was a Folk-Legacy album.

Naturally.

And as you can imagine, she gracefully encouraged me to sing it.

Tonight I met with a group of people with whom I now often sing, mostly traditional music. We sang song after song of love and devotion, and redemption, the here and the hereafter. I though how different and difficult, and at the same time how amazingly healing the music will be for you, Caroline, and for Sandy, and for all the people you love.

Don't ever lose sight of the power and beauty you have brought to the world, including but not exclusively that of your beautiful grandson. All the sorrow and sadness cannot erase one speck of the grace, and love you have wrought, and which surrounds you tonight.

I sang this for you all tonight, sending love:

_____________________

We'll camp a little while in the wilderness
in the wilderness
in the wilderness
We'll camp a little while in the wilderness
then we'll be going home

Then we'll be going home, oh!
we'll be going home
We'll camp a little while in the wilderness
then we'll be going home.
____________________________________

Dani

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: SussexCarole
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 06:59 PM

All our love to you all at such a sad time. "Sweet Dove of Peace"

Carole & Andrew x

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Partridge
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 05:31 PM

there are no adequate words, just so very sorry - I cant imagine the loss

much love xxxxx
Patrish

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Ebbie
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 03:36 PM

This sentiments of this song were a comfort to my sister when her daughter died. May it help just a little bit now.

          Alive and Well
                                    Ebbie

I heard my mother as she lay dying speak
of winged angels that fears dispelled
And though in sorrow my heart is crying
I know her spirit is alive and well

       For as sure as the bright sun and the stars above me
       As sure as stories that people tell
       I know the spirit that's giving and loving
       I know it will always be alive and well
        Oh, I know it will always be alive and well

Though loved ones' passing may leave me lonely
As one by one they heed that bell
Still I'll remember one glad thought only:
I know their spirits are alive and well

When breath forsakes me and none can hold me
(And when that may be, no tongue can tell)
And though my heart cease, that will set my soul free
And I know that I'll always be alive and well.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: wysiwyg
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 03:34 PM

There's a parish supper tonight that I expect to be full of young people. I'll be thinking of Ezra and Kaelan as I circulate, which will be a form of walking prayer for their families.

(((Paton Clan)))

(((Morse Clan)))

~S~

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Elijah Browning
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 09:04 AM

what needs to be said there are no words for.
All our love from the Chris and Kat Thieme and family.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Bryn Pugh
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 07:59 AM

So sorry to have read this. Sincere condolences.

May he rest in the arms of the Great Mother, and know the All Father's smile.

May the Great Mother and the All Father comfort you, and bring you Peace eventually.

So mote it be.

Love and Blessings, Erica and Bryn

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Paul Burke
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 02:02 AM

Hopefully with time you can take some good from the tragedy. Celebrate his life while regretting it was so short.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: JennieG
Date: 24 Jun 09 - 12:46 AM

Sandy and Caroline, we have never met but you are in my thoughts and prayers.

JennieG

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Janie
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 10:09 PM

Wish I had words of wisdom and solace, but I don't.

I don't know how you as parents and grandparents live with the blinding pain of such startling and unimaginable loss - except that somehow you do - because regardless of the pain, you wake in the morning.

The heart beats, unbidden. The breath breathes, even in those times that hit literally like a knife in the gut, and you think that you just can not bear it. Those times when the imagination runs wild, then you realize you have to reel it in.

For what it is worth, remember this.   It is true regardless of spiritual belief or the lack there of.   Kaelan is free from all suffering. Whether he is in a "better place", or dwells now only in your hearts, he is OK.   Free of pain.   Free of suffering.

Remember that.

Remember that he abides always in your hearts and memories. Remember that he lives on in every life that he touched, in every memory that anyone has of him. We are as shaped and influenced by the young as much as by the old.   If in no other way, each of us is immortal in that the effect of our lives on others does indeed ripple out in wider and wider circles, and down through generations.

I don't know you, Sandy and Caroline. I only know who you are, and doubt seriously that you recall me from our brief introductions at a Getaway.   Regardless, the simple act of reading this thread, contemplating your loss, reading the posts of those who do know you, your family, and Kaelan, changes and influences me, as it does everyone who reads here.   Kaelan lives on, even in someone like me, who never knew him at all.

Nothing that I write here can touch your pain and loss, but in the event it brings some measure of comfort in the midst of your terrible pain in the time ahead, I wanted to share these thoughts.

Janie

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: Guy Wolff
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:42 PM

Hello Sandy and Caroline,

I am so sorry to hear this and an amazed with the power of the river this time of year he saved his friend .It shows what kind of young man he was . You have so much to be proud of in your grief . Tons of love to you both and let David know how very sorry I am . What a terrible loss , Yours Guy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,nomi solo
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:36 PM

dear sandy and caroline,
a hero's death, we can never be prepared for such sadness. our daughter reminded us of a small memorial in london england called postman's park. This memorial began with an idea by g.f. watts who in 1887 wrote to the "Times" proposing a project to mark the queen's jubilee. he stated it would be of national interest to collect a complete record of the stories of heroism in every-day life. though his idea was not taken up officially, he himself commemorated the actions by erecting this park, a 50 foot long gallery with a tiled roof. here are engraved on tiles names of many youths who gave their lives in heroic actions.
may we all remember kaelan, with or without a tile, but in our hearts and our actions.
with loving sympathy
nomi and dick solo

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,Riki Schneyer
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:16 PM

Words fail...Everything I try to say sounds just plain stupid. I'm just so sorry. Milan and I send big, big love to all of you.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST,laura schmidt classmate of david
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 09:01 PM

my heart breaks for you all.because i went to school with david i know the love of your family. i wish you peace and love at this terrible time and always

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Gweltas
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 08:55 PM

Kind thoughts and prayers are with all of the family from Cornwall in the UK. May God give you comfort and consolation at this sorrowful time.
XX

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: lisa null
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 08:40 PM

I keep wishing I could be with you all, a silent and helpful friend sharing what words cannot. Songs keep flowing in and out of my mind, Last night I sat alone on the back deck and sang at the moon for you, for Kaelan, for us all. "His bright smile haunts me still."

I'll be in touch again when th madness subsides, Lisa

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST,Todd and Evie
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 07:32 PM

Feel very out of touch with Dave but am aching to reach out and hold him. Such a profoundly sad time....our thoughts have been with you all over the past week. The mighty river has broken our hearts.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Dharmabum
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 06:41 PM

Haven't checked in for months,only to find this tragic news.
My deepest condolences to the Pattons.

There's a song written by Dave Carter titled "When I Go",
The last verse has always provided a little comfort.

Sigh mournful sister,whisper & turn,
I will rattle like dry leaves when I go,
Stand in the mist where my fire used to burn,
I will camp on the night breeze when I go,
& Should you glimpse my wandering form out on the boarderline,
Between death & resurrection,& the council of the pines,
Do not worry for my comfort,do not sorrow for me so,
All your diamond tears will rise up & adorn the sky beside me when I go.

DB.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: dick greenhaus
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 06:34 PM

The last time I saw Kaelan was at NEFFA. Susan and I were in the process of dragging a half-ton of CAMSCO stuff from the booth to the car. Kaelan's was the only offer of help we received. Typical of him. He was a good kid, and I'll miss him, too.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Nancy King
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:49 PM

Whoops -- didn't realize I wasn't signed in. "Guest" at 5:45 was me.

Nancy King

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:47 PM

Dear David and family,
Words can't express my sympathy. Though I never met Kaelan, I know that he had to be an incredible human being.
-Chris Costello

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:45 PM

I'm so very sorry this horrible thing has happened to such a wonderful family. I'm keeping all the Patons (and Frankie and his family too) in my thoughts and heart. Just wish there was something I could do to help.

Love,
Nancy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Noreen
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:40 PM

So sorry to hear of this unimaginable sadness, Sandy, Caroline and all your extended family.

Kaelan looks to have been a wonderful boy and a credit to you all. His presence and warmth will always be with you, in your hearts.

Thinking of you with love.

Noreen

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Tim Leaning
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:24 PM

Condolences and Prayers.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Lonesome EJ
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 05:17 PM

I am so very sorry to hear it. May this bring some kind of closure, and some degree of peace.
I'm sure I speak for others when I say I would like to know more about this young man who died in such a noble and tragic way. If any of his friends or family would share any memories of Kaelan, I for one would be grateful. In your own time and on your own terms.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: artbrooks
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 04:54 PM

I was waiting to say anything - not entirely sure why...maybe hoping. Now there really isn't anything to say.

Art and Jenn Brooks

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Neil D
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 04:46 PM

Words escape us, so very tragic. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. What a true hero he was.

                                        Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 04:21 PM

We knew it would end this way, but we wish it hadn't. Sandy, Caroline, and the whole family - our hearts and our care are with you. It's hard to celebrate a life that was only fifteen years when it ended - but I know that you will, even as you grieve his loss. You have our love.

Dan and Geeta

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: My guru always said
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:52 PM

So very sorry to hear that this heroic young person is no longer with us. My thoughts are with his family and friends, sincere condolences. Candle lit.
Hil

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Mrrzy
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:49 PM

I am so relieved for the family that he's been found. The waiting can be much worse than the knowing... I will be thinking of you.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: kendall
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:47 PM

Tragic is not a strong enough word.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: ranger1
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:39 PM

Sandy and Caroline, I'm so sorry for your loss.
Tami from Maine.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Anne Lister
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 03:28 PM

So very, very sorry. Sending our love to all of you who are grieving.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: GUEST,Julia
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:52 PM

We are wordless and weeping...our hearts share your loss
Know that loving arms enfold his spirit and yours

Julia & Fred from Maine

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Amos
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:39 PM

Deepest condolences, Sandy, Caroline and all your kith and kin.


A

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: GUEST
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:31 PM

So sory, Sandy,Caroline,David. Loving thoughts from Elaine and me. Roy

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body fo
From: M.Ted
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 02:26 PM

So sorry that it ended this way. Our best thoughts and prayers go out to you in this most difficult time.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: catspaw49
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 01:51 PM

You are in my thoughts every day and though I know there are no words to help, I hope you can find some peace in this time.

Pat

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton-Sandy & Caroline's grdson(body found)
From: Marc Bernier
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 01:36 PM

RIP

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:51 PM

Thank you Jacqui for your 12:09 PM post just now.

I'll add some tears to the mix; mine are mingled with the joy of continued celebration of Kaelan's character, his life to date and the life, moving forward, of his friend Frankie. Sandy, picture them if you will as a salute from the crowd as your boy passes by.

Kaelan's parents and siblings also have been lifted up in prayer on a regular basis, and will continue to be.

[a number of long, nonverbal meditations here]


Love,

~Susan

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: SINSULL
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:35 PM

Now Kaelan can rest in peace and his family and friends can mourn. My prayers go out for the Patons and for Frankie and his family.
Mary

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: maeve
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:28 PM

Thank you, Jacqui. It's a horrible and necessary step in grieving his loss and rejoicing in his life.

Caroline, Sandy, and all- We weep with you.

maeve

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: Tinker
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:26 PM

Gentle blessings sent
encircling
flowing
loving
holding

standing with you for comfort and strength

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: jacqui.c
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 12:09 PM

Linnea has just been on to Facebook to say that Kaelan's body has been found downstream of the covered bridge in Cornwall today.

Subject: RE: Kaelan Paton Missing - Sandy & Caroline's grandson
From: wysiwyg
Date: 23 Jun 09 - 10:17 AM

Still keeping watch with you.

~Susan