Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Paul Jay Date: 22 Jul 99 - 11:46 PM Max and All What does IMHO, IMO or whatever MEAN? I cannot for the life of me figure out what has caused all this fuss. I don't read every thread so maybe I missed something. Will someone PLEASE define (with examples of past threads) what your talking about? If this is about free speach remember the guy who said (more of less) "I may disagree with what you say, but I will defend your right to say it with my life". Our constitution guarentees this. This does not mean he/she has the right to holler "FIRE" in a crowded building, but it does mean that he/she can say all the sexest, racest, hateful stuff they want and we can just ignore it. These people usally say the things they do in order to get attention. As I mentioned earlier I haven't a clue as to what was said,BUT they sure are getting the attention, and I'm sure they are loveing it. I say IGNORE THEM AND THEY WILL GO AWAY. Paul |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: alison Date: 23 Jul 99 - 12:05 AM IMO = in my opinion IMHO = in my honest(or humble) opinion slainte alison |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Craig Date: 23 Jul 99 - 01:11 AM Max. I applaud you for handleing this matter the way in a manner you see fit. We are but guests in your house. As such we should respect you and all others who enter into this domain. We can argue without being crass or rude. I thank you Max for what you have given us. May it last a good long while. Craig |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: bseed(charleskratz) Date: 23 Jul 99 - 01:44 AM Gargoyle, I don't want you banned from the threads. I told Max that last night. But I do resent the nasty tone in which you have addressed me over the 14 months I have been here. You had toned it down (but still managed a certain amount of sarcasm when addressing me), but for the last few weeks you have become increasingly insulting. I suppose I brought it on myself with the "a real creep, a thread creep, the worst kind" in describing Fongoul in the True Detective Stories thread. I thought you'd see the humor in that, since that has always been your major complaint against me...in a way, I was making fun of myself, the original thread creep. As for your recent assaults, they have rarely had anything at all to do with chastising thread creep as you seem to think. Look back at the things you have said to me and about me and the threads in which you said them. My postings had always been to the subject of the thread. I know you were bothered when I missed your first message in the converstional songs thread: I was thinking about posting that song and my eyes jumped past your naming it to your posting of the last verse. Mine was a simple mistake, perhaps of a kind of which I have been guilty too often, but certainly not intentional rudeness as you interpreted it. When you attacked me in the Detective series and in the Aussie/US bands threads, I was posting to the subject. Same with the humor thread and the Police vs. Striking Workers thread. I think I have become very careful about sticking to the subject of the thread. I know you are bothered by so-called BS threads, but you're gonna have to live with them. They're here to stay. So why don't you mosey on over to the pub--I'll buy you whatever Gargoyles drink (other than blood--I don't think Leej has that on tap). One more thing, if you want a poll, just check the responses to this thread (but don't go away: please, just get off my back and be nicer to a few others). BTW, nice trick to get past Max's ban on your cookie. --seed |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Lonesome EJ Date: 23 Jul 99 - 02:19 AM Gargoyle..it is evident that you are an intelligent individual. You say that your agressive postings are intended to get The Mudcat back "on track",i.e. to folk and blues. But on the other hand I have seen you post to many BS threads, and I believe that despite yourself you find them, and the personal interactions on the forum, interesting. I realize that part of your problem with some Mudcatters is their liberal political beliefs and their willingness to voice them. These are probably not people you would encounter in the course of your everyday life. Me either.Politically, there are many here that I disagree with- but such a thing should be done with respect, as in any circle of friends. And that IS ultimately what the Mudcat has become, no matter what you or I or even Max might like it to be. There is certainly room for disagreement, and there will always be someone in any group that you will flat dislike, but you cross the line when you insult or demean them. And I think that you realize that you did that. If you are now sorry that you did that, then perhaps you should offer that/those persons a sincere apology. If you aren't sorry, then I believe you don't belong here. Sorry to preach, Garg, but you DID ask. LEJ |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: NSC Date: 23 Jul 99 - 03:13 AM Well done Max. I have been visiting this site for over 12 months and have only just registered as a member. Got the T shirt last week incidentally. I was sick for a while and hadn't realised Martin had left us. He is a personal friend and I will advise him of your actions Max, when next we meet. This is one magnificent forum. Do keep it going and I know that Frank McGrath joins me in these comments. You have our full support. George Henderson |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: _gargoyle Date: 23 Jul 99 - 03:32 AM OK.OK.....
So long farewell, sich verabscheiden, goodbye,
Goodbye |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Wolfgang Date: 23 Jul 99 - 03:45 AM Max, you've done the right thing. Wolfgang |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Roger in Baltimore Date: 23 Jul 99 - 06:29 AM With regret, I must note that I am happy to see Gargoyle go. His behavior has been beyond the bounds and I will trust Max that he is not making up or exaggerating the other offenses. May Gargoyle create a site of his own choosing for I suspect that is the only site that will please him. Roger in Baltimore |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: harpgirl Date: 23 Jul 99 - 06:35 AM Hi Roger Serious question...How would you feel if you thought gargoyle was merely the invention of a trusted person here at the cat??????harp |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Roger the zimmer Date: 23 Jul 99 - 06:45 AM I'm sorry too, but it seemed as if G was deliberately provoking this for some reason. Max carries the can so he must have the right to act to preserve his creation and prevent respected contributors from being driven out. Another site I look at says this "The service is moderated and any correspondence published will be subject entirely to the whims and prejudices of the Webmaster. Material may be edited if, in the opinion of the Webmaster, it is turgid, overlong, ungrammatical or boring. Any hint of defamatory or untrue statements will result in instant consignment to the trash bin." In an unmoderated service we all share responsibility for the tone. The guidelines above would have stifled much that is interesting on the Mudcat. |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: harpgirl Date: 23 Jul 99 - 07:36 AM ...this discussion reminds me of a principle I mention in my practice which I know as "requisite variety". That is, the person with the most flexible response controls the outcome of the communication...but Damn, Max....this discussion is so fascinating I have been neglecting my work...I work for myself and my boss says I have not been getting enough work done! So I am not posting again until after 5pm!...harpgirl |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Roger in Baltimore Date: 23 Jul 99 - 07:40 AM Harpgirl, If Gargoyle was a trusted person here at the Mudcat, then they would no longer be trustworthy in my opinion and the fate would still be deserved. Gargoyle, him or herself, was not a totally bad contributor to the Mudcat. There were many times when Gargoyle added information or opinions that added to the Mudcat. However, his or her unwillingness to alter behavior and the rather bizarre self-interpretation of his or her motives given in the posts on this thread indicate that Gargoyle's intent is more to destroy that with which she or he disagrees, rather than to just state his or her disagreement. Do you know something we don't know? Weren't you the one who asked Gargoyle all those pointed questions about college in Orono? My memory sometimes falls short and I haven't time now at work to search. Roger in Baltimore |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: WyoWoman Date: 23 Jul 99 - 08:01 AM In this, as in so much of life, I simply cannot believe the energy and attention devoted to bullies. The distinction, as I believe has been mentioned on this or another thread, is not just that someone disagrees, but that s/he feels the need to try and poison the one(s) with whom s/he disagrees. We end up with laws and law enforcers not because of the majority, who are generally content to live and let live, but to manage the unruly minority who, in my experience, won't stop pushing until they've backed someone in the corner and forced him/her to exert over them sufficient power to control them. It's an infantile behavior, but one you can depend upon in just about any human community. So why all the lamenting? Someone got out of control, refused to institute his own internal controls and forced a decent, kind-hearted person, in this case Max, into coming down on him with a hammer. We all make choices, and Gargoyle's choice was to be a brat. When he learns to play with others, the door, as I understand it, is open. Leadership means stepping up to the plate and making those calls when the time comes. You've proved yourself to be a good leader, Max, and I respect it. Now, let's lay on. WW |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Big Mick Date: 23 Jul 99 - 09:17 AM It's a shame, but I feel no different than I did with Shambles and Martin. When I am under fire, I feel the need to go to the hill, sit and ponder. When one is being attacked, it is important to realize what part of the attack is justified. Gargoyle never got this. But reflection also produces resolve as to what parts of ones philosophy one wishes to stand by. As much as I miss Martin and Shambles, their decision to leave instead of staying and contributing, disappoints me. But I wish them well, and believe it or not, I wish Garg well. I thought, for the most part, that he challenged us intellectually in a unique way. But his inability to see that he crossed the line, and that he attacked in personal ways made the outcome inevitable. See you at the tavern, or around the campfire, Big Mick |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Matthew B. Date: 23 Jul 99 - 09:32 AM WyoWoman, you said a mouthfull about the attention we pay to bullies. If memory serves me properly, Gibbon said the following in his book, Decline and fall of the Roman Empire: So long as mankind shall continue to bestow more liberal applause upon their destroyers than upon their benefactors, the thirst for military glory shall forever be the vice of most exalted men. Gibbon was referring to Roman emperors, but the main point is that the quickest way to "influence" people is by bullying them. It's usually the people who are the most frightened who do the most frightening of others. And even more so on the internet, where a weak little man can feel "strong" by hurting others behind his cloak of anonymity and an invented personna. |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: annamill Date: 23 Jul 99 - 09:39 AM Ummm..if Gargoyle is banned, how is he posting? Am I missing something? annap |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Wolfgang Date: 23 Jul 99 - 10:00 AM it's .Gargoyle now posting (don't know whether this actually did the trick). So one might say you're missing the point, Annap (GRIN) Wolfgang |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Margo Date: 23 Jul 99 - 10:58 AM Paul, I've been able to firure out the following: IMHO= In my humble opinion IMO= in my opinion NOI= No offence intended LOL= laughing out lout LMAO= Laughing my ass off BTW= By th way I know I've forgotten some, Please finish the list, someone. Gargoyle, It seems to me that your whole complaint is that you think that we should talk strictly music. With you, I would, because that's what you want. But I like talking about life with everyone else here. I'm afraid you are fighting a losing battle. Margarita |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Wolfgang Date: 23 Jul 99 - 11:06 AM FYI = for your information AKA = also known as W. |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: The_one_and_only_Dai Date: 23 Jul 99 - 11:10 AM GD&WVVF... grinning, ducking and walking very, very fast. |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Roger in Baltimore Date: 23 Jul 99 - 11:23 AM Occasionally, ROFLMAO (Rolling on the Floor Laughing My Ass Off). Roger in Baltimore |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Jack (who is called Jack) Date: 23 Jul 99 - 11:43 AM Gargoyle, Your free speech arguements are misplaced. This forum is equivalent to a newspaper, and Max as editor is excersizing his free press rights in making decisions about what to publish. As I said in a previous post there are two elements to freedom of speech and freedom of the press. The first is being able to say or publish what you want, but the second the right not to be forced to say or publish something just because some other individual or agency tells you to. So in this case, those who submit to the forum enjoy their full free speech rights by being able to write and say what they want and to freely ask Max to publish it, and Max and the Mudcat are fully excersizing thier free press rights by reserving the right to decide whether or not to agree to the request. |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Easy Rider Date: 23 Jul 99 - 11:49 AM Thank you, Max. It's obvious that you have our overwhelming support for some control over people who would abuse this forum or its participants. There are many kinds of violence and abuse, physical, verbal, emotional. All of them are abhorrent. Many people, usually the abusers, suffered some degree of abuse as children. One of you, I think Harpgirl?, is a psychologist, so you understand how damaging child abuse can be. My late father taught me, when I was younger, that any time you resort to violence or abuse, in an argument, you have LOST the argument. Whatever right you may have had is GONE. This is primarily a forum for IDEAS. Personal attacks detract from the discussion and have no place in it. There ARE absolute standards, for how we can be expected to treat other people, and we CAN be required to adhere to them. EZR |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Night Owl Date: 23 Jul 99 - 11:55 AM Thank you Max....for the decision and the process. |
Subject: RE: Max is taking action From: Max Date: 23 Jul 99 - 12:21 PM The message that I left for Gargoyle was simply to have him call me to discuss the complaints and accusations that I personally recieved. His membership was not canceled, I did not ask or tell him to go away or even to tone down. I merely intercepted his account to get him my message, which he got at 8:48pm EST last night. If very clearly stated to simply call me, giving him the opportunity to explain to me what he thinks is going on. He chose not to do that and instead publicly ridicule me and the mudcat and dodge and deny the fact that he crossed the line, and says he'll just leave the mudcat, without calling me. What does that tell us? My only regret in this situation is making it a public issue, but he still would not have called me, and he would have likely made it a public issue. In the 3+ years the Mudcat has been around, this is only the second situation like this (the first one I dealt with privately), and I think that is a pretty good record. I am sorry this has happened at all, I am sorry that I have to worry about this stuff, and I am sorry that I feel it necessary to act as a leader in probably the best example of a self governing body in history. I learned something here, and I will keep that with me should an issue like this ever arise again. And gargoyle, the invitation is still open to call me, that's all I wanted all along. And one more thing. This is the last message to this thread, issue dead. Any message posted to this thread after this one will be deleted by me. Thank you. |
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