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Subject: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 31 May 10 - 06:46 PM OK well thats not entirely true, it is my husband who needs them. I know there are people here who don't like this sort of thread - so if that is you please don't bother reading any further...... I haven't been around for a while in the threads although I do pop in and have a quick look every so often......the last time I asked you all to do your "stuff" was when my sister was very ill (she's keeping very well now - thanks). After losing a lot of weight and now becoming very jaundiced Mark has been admitted to hospital and it is looking like it is not going to be something pleasant, he has a major scan and exploratory laparoscopy today...... and I'm sure is dreading the outcome although putting a brave face on it, our two teenage kids know he is sick but just not "how" sick.......... it is very easy to slip into the negative thoughts (doesn't help when you're a nurse either!!) anyway........ I would be grateful if you would all pray, meditate, light candles and do all those other wonderful things you do..... thanks slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Alice Date: 31 May 10 - 06:53 PM alison, I'm sorry you are going through this. I hope whatever Mark has is resolved soon and he has a speedy recovery of health. Take care. Alice |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Rapparee Date: 31 May 10 - 06:58 PM Me too. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Hollowfox Date: 31 May 10 - 07:01 PM You've all got Good Thoughts winging your way, and a $#@!-reduction candle is already fired up. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: ClaireBear Date: 31 May 10 - 07:13 PM And me....strength, light, health, love. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Ebbie Date: 31 May 10 - 07:16 PM And from me too. We've got him surrounded - and the circle will only get denser. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Micca Date: 31 May 10 - 07:26 PM alison, I will include him in my meditations and my healing rituals, (Teenage kids??? has it been so long?) and some of the energy from todays Beltane Ritual, which was very strong too, my thoughts are with you both Micca |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Janie Date: 31 May 10 - 07:30 PM Another one adding light and love to the circle. Janie |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Amergin Date: 31 May 10 - 07:48 PM Alison, you're one of the sweetest people here....you and your family are in my thoughts....I'm sure everything will turn out fine. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: gnu Date: 31 May 10 - 07:49 PM Me too. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Lonesome EJ Date: 31 May 10 - 09:03 PM Alison, sorry to hear it, but best thoughts and energy from Colorado. Ernie |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: katlaughing Date: 31 May 10 - 09:18 PM Even more coming from Colorado...Light, Life, and Love. Thanks givings he is healed and back home in no time. This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. So mote it be! {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} luvyakat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 31 May 10 - 09:26 PM adding my wishes to the circle love & hugs sandra |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: SINSULL Date: 31 May 10 - 10:15 PM Alison, I am sorry. Pizza and champagne whenever you need it. Mary |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Ron Davies Date: 31 May 10 - 10:16 PM Just adding my wishes for the best possible outcome and his speedy return home. Ron |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LilyFestre Date: 31 May 10 - 10:44 PM Lots of good thoughts and prayers coming from this neck of the woods too. Michelle |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LadyJean Date: 31 May 10 - 11:42 PM (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Those are supposed to be hugs. If I could find a key that meant chocolate I would send that too. You have my good thoughts. I've been there, and it's sheer hell. Look after yourself, whatever comes. Best of luck. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Stilly River Sage Date: 31 May 10 - 11:49 PM There are things that cause jaundice that can be fully recovered from. (My daughter has a story like that.) Here's hoping you find the reason, affect a cure, and he's on his way. Best wishes to all of you. SRS |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Jeri Date: 31 May 10 - 11:57 PM My best wishes, and unlimited virtual hugs. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Tinker Date: 01 Jun 10 - 12:03 AM Blessings and Light to shine through the darkness |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: KT Date: 01 Jun 10 - 12:30 AM Holding you both in love and light, here, too. KT |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Catherine Jayne Date: 01 Jun 10 - 08:00 AM And from us too |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: freda underhill Date: 01 Jun 10 - 08:07 AM Alison add my strength to the circle, best wishes freda |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: jacqui.c Date: 01 Jun 10 - 10:08 AM Good thoughts coming from Maine - trust me, I have some idea of what you are going through. Take care of yourself. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: catspaw49 Date: 01 Jun 10 - 10:42 AM Hey al............After all these years you know that even if I am a bit late to this thread, you have every good thought I have and huge Spaw bear hug to boot! Much love and many good vibes your way....... Spaw |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 01 Jun 10 - 11:23 AM Dearest One-ell, you and your husband and family are in my thoughts and prayers. You are being carried on Mudcat wings, which are as safe and secure as those of angels! (I have no internet at present and am not very good at tapping away on the old blackberry, but this one's Important!) Allison (Two-ells) |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Bert Date: 01 Jun 10 - 11:50 AM Love on its way. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: MMario Date: 01 Jun 10 - 11:53 AM Good thoughts winging your way. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Morticia Date: 01 Jun 10 - 01:28 PM missed you here, all the good light and energy I can muster on their way to you. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: VirginiaTam Date: 01 Jun 10 - 01:52 PM from me too... wishes for healing energy headed to your husband and strength to you |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Paul Burke Date: 01 Jun 10 - 01:55 PM Hope your fears are groundless, and it turns out to be something easily fixed. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: ranger1 Date: 01 Jun 10 - 02:53 PM More good thoughts coming to you from Maine. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: My guru always said Date: 01 Jun 10 - 05:23 PM So sorry to hear this, sending positive thoughts, love and hugs from across the pond. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 01 Jun 10 - 07:09 PM you have no idea how much these good wishes help,....... when sometimes you just feel so helpless yourself it is amazing the strength you can get from others.... it is the pancreas, but it looks like it hasn't spread and so is operable probably next wednesday when they have sorted out the jaundice a bit. He is not out of the woods by a long shot, but the news could have been so much worse thanks for the support slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: DougR Date: 01 Jun 10 - 08:39 PM Whatever everyone else said, Alison. Keeping fingers crossed everything turns out ok. DougR |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: JennieG Date: 02 Jun 10 - 01:25 AM Best wishes from me too Cheers (a little cheer always helps, I find) JennieG |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LadyJean Date: 02 Jun 10 - 01:55 AM The Tale of My Floof Cat Perandy the floof cat and I were introduced when I was 7 and he was 6 weeks old. We became close friends almost immediately. By the time I was 13, we spent most of our time together. He napped on my homework, slept with me in my bed, followed me around the house. That summer he had jaundice. The vet said he had a tumor on his liver. The vet said he might live 6 months. Well Perandy lived six months. Then he lived 11 years. He was not quite 18 when he died from a gum infection. Moral 1, sometimes doctors are mistaken. Moral 2. It's important to floss. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 02 Jun 10 - 04:32 AM didn't you teach him how to floss? sandra |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Dharmabum Date: 02 Jun 10 - 05:46 AM Best wishes for a full recovery. DB. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: SINSULL Date: 02 Jun 10 - 09:07 AM It has a name. Now you can focus on treatment and recovery. Sorry you have to deal with this Alison. We have missed the Fair One around here. Mary |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 10 - 09:07 AM HI Alison, sorry for your troubles. Mark (and you and the kids) will be in our prayers. ~Susan and Hardi |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: artbrooks Date: 02 Jun 10 - 09:36 AM Best wishes and take care. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,open mike Date: 02 Jun 10 - 10:54 AM wishing you and your family the best.. and hopes for recovery and time to experience joy together!! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Seamus Kennedy Date: 02 Jun 10 - 12:08 PM Consider it done, Alison. Best to Mark. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,saulgoldie Date: 02 Jun 10 - 12:29 PM Sending my best thoughts and prayers your way. Saul |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Cuilionn Date: 02 Jun 10 - 01:29 PM Sending all the life force our cows, pigs, chickens, bees, and the rest of the menagerie can muster... Grace and healing blessings to both of you! --Cuilionn |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Joe Offer Date: 02 Jun 10 - 02:00 PM I'm keeping you and your family in mind, alison. -Joe- |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Allen in Oz Date: 02 Jun 10 - 05:54 PM Alison I hope all goes well old mate Will phone you soon Love AD and all from Toon Bloody Gabbie |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Art Thieme Date: 02 Jun 10 - 05:59 PM Alison, You were always one to give things a new slainte! ;-) I hope the news continues to be good. Art Thieme |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 02 Jun 10 - 11:25 PM Pancreas, check. Aiming powerful prayer right there. Clean as a whistle-- hear it yet? :~) ~S~ |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Severn Date: 02 Jun 10 - 11:58 PM More good thoughts and wishes from me to add in to the equasion. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LilyFestre Date: 03 Jun 10 - 11:27 AM Thinking of you and Mark today, quite a bit actually. Love, Strength, Peace and Courage for you both. XOXOXO Michelle |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Big Mick Date: 03 Jun 10 - 02:19 PM Ah FAIR ONE, I am sorry for being late to this one, and even more sorry to hear of this. That great wheel keeps turning, and is guaranteed to bring some of these things to us. But in the way of our people, we simply face them, always dealing with the troubles as they come. You can take some comfort from the friends here, and count me at the front of the pack. I still take the low D to the hill, and I shall be playing for you and Mark, and sending all that is mine to send your way in the way of healing thoughts and prayers. All the best, Mick |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Genie Date: 03 Jun 10 - 05:48 PM Yes, o faire one, we really have missed you around these parts. So sad to hear about Mark's struggles, and I want to add my prayers, meditations, light, positive energies, and healing visualizations to the many others here. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Alison and Mark}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} Genie |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Paul Burke Date: 03 Jun 10 - 05:52 PM Well I don't do prayer or meditation, I'm an atheist, so maybe my thoughts will hit God from behind: LISTEN!!! YOU HEAR ALL THESE FOLKS! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Allan C. Date: 04 Jun 10 - 06:11 AM Giant good wishes to you and Mark as you make your way through this. P.S. I've missed you often! Fondly, Allan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Bat Goddess Date: 04 Jun 10 - 08:07 AM Our thoughts are with you. Linn & Tom |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 24 Jun 10 - 07:05 AM just an update they weren't able to do the op as it was shedding cells, and are now looking at 2 months chemo (to kill those cells)- then the op. Mark started chemo 2 days ago and it is hitting his system hard. as I'm sure many of you know it is hard to watch, and so bloody frusting to feel so helpless.......... |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: catspaw49 Date: 24 Jun 10 - 07:14 AM I was hoping that "no news was good news" but obviously not the case........Sorry al......Not an easy one but you have whatever good thoughts I have for a positive outcome. Chemo can be awful and I know its not easy for either of you..... Stay in touch with this old gang around here. We all love you Fair One............ Spaw |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: topical tom Date: 24 Jun 10 - 08:17 AM So sorry about this news. All my thoughts and prayers are with you. May all turn out well. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: SINSULL Date: 24 Jun 10 - 08:33 AM LilyFestre just finished her chemo and it is hard to watch. Take care of yourself Alison. Sometimes it is hard to remember to eat and sleep. If you don't you will be of no use to Mark or the children. I keep you all in my prayers. Mary |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: gnu Date: 24 Jun 10 - 08:58 AM Again... me too. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,maryrrf Date: 24 Jun 10 - 09:25 AM I know what you mean, having seen a loved one battle cancer. I will join my thoughts and prayers with those of the other 'Catters - that Mark will recover, and that you will find the strength and support you need to help him through this. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Alice Date: 24 Jun 10 - 11:32 AM You have our support, alison. Please stay in touch. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 24 Jun 10 - 12:07 PM love & hugs sandra |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: katlaughing Date: 24 Jun 10 - 12:43 PM Much love and thanks givings for the best possible outcome for all concerned. luvyakat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: VirginiaTam Date: 24 Jun 10 - 12:50 PM more wishes for strength and good health winging out to you and Mark from England. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Morticia Date: 24 Jun 10 - 01:23 PM hugs to all of you....... |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 24 Jun 10 - 04:58 PM Alison, you are not helpless, tho I know it feels like it. Prayer is always a powerful option. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 24 Jun 10 - 07:09 PM Waves of love you-ward ☼ |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Seamus Kennedy Date: 24 Jun 10 - 07:37 PM Hang in there, big girl. All my best to you and your'ns. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LilyFestre Date: 24 Jun 10 - 10:15 PM Hi Alison, I just finished 6 cycles of chemo. Whew. I can imagine it's not easy to watch and truth be told, it's not easy to go through. One thing to keep in mind is that the body is an AMAZING AMAZING thing.....the chemo knocks you down but the body will struggle as best it can to get back up. Each chemo combination is different so I don't know exactly what he will go through but you will find that it's pretty similar each time. I was told that the only thing that gets worse is the feeling of being tired...that increases with each treatment. It's a definite adjustment for him and for you. Sometimes it felt like the part of me that is ME would go away for a few days....lost in the chemo fog I suppose but I ALWAYS ALWAYS knew that my husband was here for me and that he was doing his best to understand and help me maintain as much NORMAL in my life as I could manage. He never has been (and still isn't) frustrated with me when I just could NOT do something even though it made extra work for him. Tips to make things easier: Chemo gives your taste buds a run for their money making things taste horrible. Sour candy....really sour candy (I preferred sour Jolly Ranchers) seem to get some of that chemo taste out of my mouth. Plan ahead as much as you can. I don't know how much time you have between treatments but mine were 3 weeks apart. I'd spend a week preparing for what I KNEW would be coming with the chemo aftermath. In a way, getting ready helped me deal a bit better with things as I felt like I had some control. Talk to as many people as you can or that he can. You will find people in the chemo centers are like members of a very exclusive club....one that wants to see each other through and will share secrets to managing the daily icks of chemo. ALWAYS call the chemo center if he is in pain or nauseous. My oncologists told me there was no reason for me to be in pain (although I sometimes was because I didn't want to be drugged out of my gourd ALL the time...it was a choice I made....be aware of what was going on in my life and be in pain or take pain meds and be in space...both have their place in my opinion). I had Zofran for nasuea and for me, it was an AMAZING drug that killed the nausea in it's tracks. I never did throw up. Let's see...what else. Ummmm....get in all the protein he can manage. Greek yogurt is very high in protein without having to eat a ton of food if he just doesn't feel like eating. It's like 15 grams in a cup or so. Also, both of you should be washing your hands obsessively. Ask his doctor what days his immune system is most fragile...there is a pattern and they can really tell you which day it will be. For me, it was days seven through ten after each treatment. I was and still am ridiculous about washing my hands....haven't had communion at church for almost six months...I just can't take that risk. I'm sure there's more. THE BIGGEST thing for me was KNOWING that my husband and mom would be there for me no matter what....I cried A LOT and they would listen or hug me...not try to talk me out of it...they just were there. Sometimes I just needed Pete to curl himself around me...there were times where I felt like I couldn't have him close enough....I felt safe with his arms around me and maybe that will be the same in your relationship too. Chemo and all the medical things floating around him are scary...there's no way around it. I also found a LOT of support here. I wrote a lot and tried to take in what people had to share. One of the best pieces of advice I got was from a friend who has stage four colon cancer. She said this to me one day when I was boo hooing. Look. You have 3 options. You can go through this and be happy and do your best to find fun along the way. You can go through this and be miserable and resist it one hundred percent of the time OR you can do nothing and die. What's your pick? It's blunt, I know and for that I'm sorry....but for me, I needed to hear that, I needed the reality of it and I needed it spelled out to me in those simple terms. PM me anytime and know that I am keeping you both in my prayers. Lots of love, Michelle |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Janie Date: 24 Jun 10 - 11:28 PM Still here. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 25 Jun 10 - 01:02 AM thanks you all SO much for being there, and LilyFestre thank you for your good advice and for sharing your experience slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Genie Date: 25 Jun 10 - 02:03 AM Alison, all my best wishes and most positive energies and visualizations for you and Mark in most difficult of times. Genie |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 25 Jun 10 - 01:29 PM I have an image of a powerful work of prayer passing thru your deft and experienced hands, Fair One. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Zany Mouse Date: 25 Jun 10 - 02:58 PM Only just seen this thread. All the very best positive thoughts coming from Nottinghamshire. Rhiannon |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 10 Jul 10 - 12:00 AM Today I received a mysterious parcel from the USA. It was a beautiful hand crocheted (quite sure that isn't spelt right)shawl with a note saying that is was a "mudcat hug". I was absolutely blown away. It is just amazing that someone I have never met, who lives on the other side of the world, would have been so thoughtful about someone else who they barely know ............. its amazing how close a love of music can bring people ........... (Max - it has been said before but this is a great little community you have here) thank you very much Jacqui.C for your amazing thoughtfulness & kindness. Mark has finished his first set of chemo - & with a bit of swapping around of drugs he seems to have most of the side effects under control. So he has a week off before the next round. slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Art Thieme Date: 10 Jul 10 - 12:11 AM Alison, As one who has been around this forum possibly as long as you have, just know the vibes are on the way. Be well, Art |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Alice Date: 10 Jul 10 - 12:35 AM Thank you for giving us an update on Mark. Take care, Alice |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Stilly River Sage Date: 10 Jul 10 - 12:42 AM Jacqui has a great way of sending stealth shawls. And they bring such magic and goodwill with them! There are a couple of other Mudcat crochet and knitting folks, but her hands must just fly over the crochet hook. You are lucky, and blessed by the Mudcat community. This is very good energy directed your way. If you haven't visited it, you might want to visit LilyFester's cancer and chemo thread. It will bring tears of joy to your eyes. :-) SRS |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Lonesome EJ Date: 10 Jul 10 - 01:54 AM Keep slugging away Aison and Mark! And how about that Jacqui C? Mudcat magic at work again |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 10 Jul 10 - 11:45 AM Alison, still with you and Mark in prayer. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: kendall Date: 10 Jul 10 - 04:45 PM I don't know how I missed this one! Sending you a large load of love Fair One. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Joe Offer Date: 10 Jul 10 - 04:51 PM There's something wonderful about Jacqui's shawls. They convey what she means in a wonderful way. I have the same sentiments for you and your family, Alison, but don't quite know how to convey them. But I wish you the best. -Joe- |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: katlaughing Date: 20 Aug 10 - 07:13 PM Alison, just to let you know you are kept in our thoughts and thanks-givings. luvyakat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: ClaireBear Date: 20 Aug 10 - 09:24 PM Me too, late to the thread though I am. I send strength and love. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: catspaw49 Date: 20 Aug 10 - 11:25 PM Hey al........Kat's right......We love you! Hope Mark is doing well.......best thoughts and thanks kat for the refresh! Spaw |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: gnu Date: 21 Aug 10 - 06:02 AM Me too. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 22 Aug 10 - 12:33 AM me too, too sandra |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 22 Aug 10 - 04:21 AM thanks for the refresh and thanks Sandra for letting me know. Mark had his check up scan about a week ago - the chemo has shrunk the tumour by 25% which is absolutely fantastic, the doctors and Mark (needless to say) are thrilled............ so the plan is now another 2 months chemo and reassess with a view to surgery. keep up the good work! your thoughts, prayers etc are very much appreciated slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 22 Aug 10 - 07:18 AM yah! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: jacqui.c Date: 22 Aug 10 - 07:45 AM What great news! Good thoughts continuing to be sent. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: katlaughing Date: 22 Aug 10 - 10:28 AM Thanks for checking in, Alison, esp. which such good news! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: gnu Date: 22 Aug 10 - 10:30 AM Me too, again. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: sapper82 Date: 22 Aug 10 - 11:12 AM PHEW!!! (finger still crossed!!) |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 22 Aug 10 - 08:22 PM Yay! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Alice Date: 22 Aug 10 - 08:36 PM Thanks for letting us know about the progress, alison. Take care. Alice |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LilyFestre Date: 22 Aug 10 - 08:40 PM HOORAY for the GREAT news!!!! Been thinking about you guys lately...it's a rough road but those glimpses of sunshine, well, it's amazing what they can do for the soul. EXCELLENT NEWS!!! I'm so happy for both of you! Michelle who finished her chemo 2 months ago |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Allen in Oz Date: 23 Aug 10 - 02:04 AM Thinking of you both ...from all at the Toongabbie Music Club AD |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 24 Aug 10 - 12:39 AM Alison and Mark, TBTG! When the worries hit, just remember-- you still only have one day at a time to handle, and you can definitely do that AND MORE. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Big Mick Date: 25 Aug 10 - 06:49 PM Great news, FAIR ONE!!!! You and yours are in my thoughts a great deal as I continue to deal with these gremlins in my own life. I hope you are spending time looking within, and tapping the great well that is within you. With your training, and your heritage, you know full well the power of this. In the meantime know that we all care very much, and on a personal basis, you are in my thoughts and prayers. Mick |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: skarpi Date: 25 Aug 10 - 07:05 PM {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}} to you Alison , my problems are just a corn of sand while people like Mark are fighting real problems , I wish you all well , my thougts and a candle for us all :O) all the best from the north atlantic ocean skarpi Iceland . |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: VirginiaTam Date: 26 Aug 10 - 02:44 AM What wonderful news, Alison! Wishing you and Mark more of the good stuff floatin around the universe. Sights, sounds, smells that bring good feelings and aid the cleansing of mind, spirit, body. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 26 Oct 10 - 11:04 PM just a quick update - in the last scan the tumour is too small to measure, (woo hoo!!!) so the plan is now 5-6 weeks of radiotherapy then surgery (to make sure it can't come back) in Feb. the docs have not been in this position before - the new treatment is working very well. needless to say everyone is very relieved. here's hoping mark copes with the radiotherapy as well as he coped with the chemo. thanks for all of your support - keep up the good work slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 26 Oct 10 - 11:38 PM thanks for all of your support - keep up the good work Aw, no, thank YOU for the support you are giving HIM, and YOU keep up the good work. ~Praise |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 27 Oct 10 - 03:51 AM YAH |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Morticia Date: 27 Oct 10 - 06:09 AM Hoorah!!! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 27 Oct 10 - 07:42 AM Oh, yes! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: gnu Date: 27 Oct 10 - 08:21 AM gREAT NEWS! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Severn Date: 27 Oct 10 - 08:31 AM Congragulations from a survivor and former Chemo Sabe. To see people pull through means a lot to me. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: jacqui.c Date: 27 Oct 10 - 09:45 AM What good news! Every triumph helps to raise the spirits and makes recovery more real. Good luck with the radiotherapy. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: MMario Date: 27 Oct 10 - 09:53 AM Huzzah! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,Jon Date: 27 Oct 10 - 11:11 AM fwiw, have a well wish from me. Had some very good times with you on Paltalk... I really hope it all works out for you both. with love, Jon |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: olddude Date: 27 Oct 10 - 11:28 AM Got my prayers my friend !!! |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts (updated) From: alison Date: 15 Mar 11 - 06:16 PM Hi everyone could really do with some good thoughts again. unfortunately this time the news isn't so good. Mark decided to go back to Ireland and see his family in January - while he was there he got very sick and ended up in hospital. He just couldn't keep any food down. I managed to get him back to Australia - watching him steadily worse - by the time we got to Singapore he was in so much pain he ended up in a wheelchair - got him back to Sydney and within 3 hours he was admitted to hospital again here. and he has been in hospital every since the end of January. when they opened him up to try to do the surgery - they found that the cancer had spread to his bowel - so they closed him up again. since then the doctors have tried everything they can think of but it looks like the nerve supply just isn't working for the area below the stomach - hence fluids (that is all he can have) get as far as there, gathers for a while, then he vomits. now he has a tube draining his stomach contents into a bag. a few days agao they told him there is nothing more they can do - and are taking down the fluids and he is coming home for me to look after as is his wish. He just wants to get back to the kids for whatever time he has left. Ryan & Shannon are taking it very hard - and I know it is going to be really difficult to watch their dad get even weaker. telling them that there was nothing more that could be done is probably the toughest thing I have ever had to do so please, pray, light candles and do the good stuff you do - I just don't want him to suffer thanks for listening alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Maryrrf Date: 15 Mar 11 - 06:35 PM Oh Alison I am so sorry to hear this. I hope that things go as gently as possible for Mark, and that God's grace will help with the healing for everyone. Candles lit. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Big Mick Date: 15 Mar 11 - 06:58 PM Fair One, I am aching more than I can describe for you and yours. I would give anything to be of some sort of assistance. The Blessing and the Curse of the internet is that we become close to a world wide community.. When we make friends, often they are far away and all we can offer is our thoughts. I offer you, Mark and the kids my thoughts of love, and of understanding as you walk this part of the trail. If all of life is a lesson, then we need to understand that lessons and the gaining of wisdom are to prepare us for the next thing. And so it is now. These passages are from Anam Cara by O'Donohue. Be a full bucket, pulled up the dark way of a well then lifted out into light. Something opens our wings, something makes boredom and hurt disappear. Someone fills the cup in front of us, we taste only sacredness. and finally to Mark: May you be peaceful and happy and in the presence of those who really care for you. May your going be sheltered and your welcome assured. May your soul smile in the embrace of your anam cara (soul friend) |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: katlaughing Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:15 PM Oh, Alison, such hard lessons, esp.for Ryan and Shannon. It is good you were able to get him home. You have my love and support with thanks givings for a peaceful release for Mark and ease of grief for you all. With much love and compassion and {{{{HUGS}}}}, kat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Jeri Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:17 PM I offer all the good thoughts I can think and unlimited virtual hugs. Wish I could do more. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: SINSULL Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:17 PM You and your family are in my prayers, Alison. Stay strong. Mary |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Amergin Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:42 PM Oh god, Alison....I'm sorry to hear this. The hardest thing to do is to make sure a loved one is comfortable and loved while you watch them prepare for their journey. I'm glad you were able to get him home, so you could be with him. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: ChanteyLass Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:53 PM I'm very sorry to read this, and I'll keep your family in the Light. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Bill D Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:54 PM there is no way to ease it all... but Mick knows how to find words that can be something to focus on at the bad times. There is no way to easily reconcile the thoughts "I don't want him to suffer" and "I don't want to lose him" Just know that SO many friends care and send all the good wishes possible. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: gnu Date: 15 Mar 11 - 07:57 PM Oh dear. My thoughts and prayers are... ah... well... paltry and pathetic. Those words hollow to me at this point. I can only say that I have been through same and it's the worst there is. I wish I could offer more than thoughts and prayers but I can't. I have no words of wisdom to ease the pain. Take care of you and yours as best you can. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Dharmabum Date: 15 Mar 11 - 08:22 PM Wishing Mark as much of a painless & peaceful transition as possible. DB. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 15 Mar 11 - 09:13 PM ***A*** ~S~ Puder bad |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,999 Date: 15 Mar 11 - 09:21 PM I am with Gnu. It is tough and I have no words that would help, but I promise to keep you, Mark and the kids in my thoughts--and I'll pray too if maybe that would help. I'm sorry, Alison. Bruce M |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Amos Date: 15 Mar 11 - 10:16 PM Alison: Wishes for strength and insight with you all the day. Come back and tell us, as you can. Prayers for a damn miracle, as well. A |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,harpy Date: 15 Mar 11 - 10:50 PM Alison, I am so sorry for Mark , the kids, and you. Please stay strong for everyone and know that your mudcat family is here if you need them some more in the next months. Love and hugs to you from Florida. Abby |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: JennieG Date: 15 Mar 11 - 11:20 PM Alison, so sorry to hear this - you are in my thoughts, and the kids too. It must be so difficult for them. JennieG |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 16 Mar 11 - 02:50 AM sending love to you & Mark & your children sandra |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Allen in Oz Date: 16 Mar 11 - 03:56 AM Alison At times like this words do not suffice Everyone at Toongabbie Music Club is thinking of you and your family at this time Love AD |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: fat B****rd Date: 16 Mar 11 - 04:21 AM I'm thinking of you and yours, Alison. Verry best regards from Charlie. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: mouldy Date: 16 Mar 11 - 04:26 AM There are no words that I can offer, so I'll just hold all of you in my thoughts. Andrea |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: catspaw49 Date: 16 Mar 11 - 04:47 AM Geeziz al......I have no idea what else can be said. I'm so very sorry..................... Try to get all the best you can from what time is left and know how much love for all of you comes from this weird village we have shared for over a dozen years........and we will be here to share our best thoughts, love, and prayers, with you through this time as well. Much Love....... Pat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST Date: 16 Mar 11 - 06:55 AM Alison My heart is breaking. Slices and shafts of light escaping, pulsing out to the rhythm of my sorrow for you, Mark and the children. Willing that light to cross the miles and offer what peace it can to you all. tam |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,VaTam Date: 16 Mar 11 - 07:05 AM sorry - last post was from me... |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,Morti at work Date: 16 Mar 11 - 08:58 AM I am more sorry than words can say to hear this news, sending out every bit of love and light that I can, to you and the kids on this sad journey. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: MMario Date: 16 Mar 11 - 09:05 AM What 'spaw said - and if there is anyone who *KNOWS* that what he says about mudcat is true it is 'spaw. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link Date: 16 Mar 11 - 09:16 AM adding another tearful prayer. i have just posted on other prayer thread the words of numbers 6 v24-26.moses blessing just seems so fitting. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alanabit Date: 16 Mar 11 - 10:15 AM Everyone else has said it. You, Mark and your children are in all of our hearts. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: wysiwyg Date: 16 Mar 11 - 10:26 AM Traveling, temporarily back on a puder WITH a keyboard-- much love to you, Mark, kids, family.... please know that you continue in my thoughts and prayers. ~Susan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Den Date: 16 Mar 11 - 12:17 PM Words are never enough at times like this Alison but I've been through a very difficult time myself over the last couple of years so I feel for you. Stay strong for Mark and the kids, its amazing what strength can come from within when we are faced with these trying times and remember allow yourself the time to grieve when you decide you're ready. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: open mike Date: 16 Mar 11 - 01:04 PM Alison, sorry to hear about this, but glad he was able to see family in Ireland while he was able. Also glad he is with his family now. Are you getting help with his care? respite for yourself? hospice? big hugs to you all... |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Justa Picker Date: 16 Mar 11 - 02:26 PM Alison, I am so very very sorry that you, your husband and family have to deal with this. My prayers and thoughts are with you at this most difficult time. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: VirginiaTam Date: 17 Mar 11 - 03:27 AM Still here Alison We come from everything, we are part of everything and to everything we will return. Holding you all and wishing you as much peace and as little pain as may be. tam |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Lizzie Cornish 1 Date: 17 Mar 11 - 03:54 AM You will be given many moments to treasure, alongside the painful ones. The treasured moments are the ones which will remain and make you all able to think back on this time with love, affection....and..believe it or not, gratitude. I'm so glad Mark made it over to Ireland to see his family, as someone mentioned above...and that he made it home to you and the children too, Alison. I held my Father's hand as he took his last breath, and I realise now how blessed I was to have been given that situation, even though at the time I could never have imagined that to be true. He's surrounded by Love and that will see you all through this sad time. We never truly lose those whom we love. Much love and peace to you all Lizzie x |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: bbc Date: 17 Mar 11 - 06:26 AM Alison, I just picked up on this thread. I am so sorry! Cherish this time together & know that you have done what you can. I wish your husband a good ending to a fight well-fought, if that is what must be. Praying for strength & peace for you & your family. always, Barbara |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Janie Date: 17 Mar 11 - 06:53 AM I'm so sorry, Alison. May all of you know you are surrounded by the care and concern of many from across the world. Janie |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Hrothgar Date: 17 Mar 11 - 08:09 AM Praying for you. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: olddude Date: 17 Mar 11 - 11:40 AM You got mine my friend ... and my prayers |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Lonesome EJ Date: 17 Mar 11 - 11:49 AM Alison, my very sincerest sympathy for Mark, you, and your family. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Trevor Date: 17 Mar 11 - 11:56 AM ((((((((((((((((((((((((((o))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: ClaireBear Date: 17 Mar 11 - 12:59 PM Alison, I wish I could pack up a big box of comfort and strength for you. Alas, it doesn't ship well... But I do send much love to you, Mark, and the children ... and much sympathy, for later. {{{{you and yours}}}} Claire |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 17 Mar 11 - 06:59 PM Oh, my dear one, I am so sorry that you and Mark have to go through this now. I am holding you in my heart, as we all are, and sending light and love and comfort all the way from this side of the globe. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: ChanteyLass Date: 17 Mar 11 - 07:39 PM So sorry for the bad news. It must be hard to accept. I will continue to keep you and your family in the Light. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Ebbie Date: 18 Mar 11 - 02:16 AM There really aren't many words, are there. Thinking of you wishing you all peace and strength. Ebbie/Elva B |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: VirginiaTam Date: 18 Mar 11 - 04:52 AM Do they have extended family in Oz to help them through this tragedy? Any Mudcatters near Alison and family? Friends to do shopping, make meals, clean house, run errands, just sit a spell? They need practical help. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Allan C. Date: 18 Mar 11 - 08:02 AM Alison, I cannot imagine your anguish and that of your family. I am in awe that you have the courage to honor Mark's wishes.Without your professional training, I doubt this would be possible. Without your fortitude, I am sure it wouldn't. You have my deepest respect and admiration. Best thoughts and prayers to all. Allan |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: catspaw49 Date: 19 Mar 11 - 11:42 AM Just a refresh along with my continued best thoughts for an ease to Mark's pain and whatever support we can be for you al ...and Ryan and Shannon. I was in their position myself about 45 years ago and know how rough it can be. Tell them the bad memories seem to pass reasonably soon but the great memories last a lifetime. Pat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Noreen Date: 19 Mar 11 - 11:46 AM ((((((((Alison)))))))) |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Dave Swan Date: 19 Mar 11 - 01:09 PM Adding my best thoughts. Dave |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: LilyFestre Date: 19 Mar 11 - 01:33 PM Love, love, love and more love. And even more love, Michelle |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Catherine Jayne Date: 19 Mar 11 - 04:23 PM Holding you and your family close in our thoughts. Khatt and Paul x |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: DougR Date: 19 Mar 11 - 08:29 PM Like Barbara, I just caught up with this thread. So sorry, Alison. DougR |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: alison Date: 19 Mar 11 - 10:05 PM thank you all so much - your support means so much. as many of you know from personal experience it is wonderful just to know that someone is thinking about you - when you are doing it tough Mark is getting weaker each day - spending more time asleep. the dificult stuff is that life has to keep going on - the kids are in "big" years in school (they are 17 & 15) - but the assignments etc still have to be handed in - and they are under immense pressure - the school knows and is doing what it can. in answer to someones question - the extended family is in Ireland (thank god for skype) - but there are friends and support nurses helping out. I am coping ok at the moment - not sure how I'll go when he gets more difficult to look after - but I'll do as much as I can for as long as I can. but the doubt is there as to "am I going to be able to do this?" and that can be a bit scary at times. I may not post as often as I check in on this thread - but believe me I am checking in, and I thank you all again for the kind words and thoughts slainte alison |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: catspaw49 Date: 19 Mar 11 - 10:16 PM Don't know what your Hospice situation is in Oz or how you feel about it, but in the cases I know of around here they have done an excellent job and been a powerful support service. Pat |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Alice Date: 20 Mar 11 - 12:22 AM I'm thinking of you and your family, alison. Alice |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 20 Mar 11 - 07:13 AM spaw - palliative care & hospices are well established in Australia |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: Maryrrf Date: 20 Mar 11 - 09:47 AM Alison, many of us know what your family is going through. I lost my father in much the same way - I was 19 and my brother was 14. It was a hard, dark time, full of grief and sorrow. I so wish there was a way to make it easier. My thoughts are with all of you. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: AllisonA(Animaterra) Date: 20 Mar 11 - 10:27 AM Just checking in to let you know that I'm with you in spirit today and every day. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: fat B****rd Date: 20 Mar 11 - 04:04 PM I'm still sending you my best, Alison. Take care. Charlie in Scotland. |
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Subject: RE: BS: alison needs your good thoughts From: JennieG Date: 25 Mar 11 - 02:53 AM Alison has posted on her facebook page that Mark passed away this morning Oz time. So sorry to hear this, and my thoughts are with Alison, Ryan and Shannon. JennieG
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