For Matthew B. & wife

Subject: For Matthew B. & wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:14 AM

Dear Friends,

I have started this, because I know many of you will wish to respond to the posting Matthew made on his earlier thread, tonight, the one about videos for a pregnant wife. Rather than keeping that thread going as a painful reminder, I thought it would be better for us all to post to this one for Matthew and his wife.

This is what he had to say:

Well, I'd like to thank you all for your loving, committed support.

Alas, there is no further need for video rental ideas, because we lost the baby.

Which is why I haven't been on Mudcat much lately.

Thank you all, again, for being such good friends.

Matthew, you know how sorry I am. I did respect your wish to grieve in private, but I hope you can forgive me for starting this thread. You know your friends are going to want to express their sorrow for your loss and I just couldn't see you being reminded constantly through the other thread.

I hope you are both doing as well as can be expected. There really are no adequate words. Come join us when you can or are ready; love one another and know that we enfold you in the wide and open arms of all who know you, here at the M'Cat.

love, kat

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: WyoWoman
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:21 AM

My heart goes out to both of you. This is simply one of the saddest things life sends our way. Know that you are held in our hearts.

WyoWoman

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: alison
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 01:02 AM

Matthew, like Kat I respected your wish for privacy.... but thankyou for letting everyone else know.....

Most of us will never experience what you have gone through, so we can't say that we understand how you feel... but we do care.....

thinking of you at this very difficult time

love

alison

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: catspaw49
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 01:16 AM

It is no secret around here how I feel about children. Matthew my friend, I wish above all else that I had great words to express my condolences and sage advice and words of wisdom to offer some soothing explanations. I have nothing. I sit here in tears of both sorrow and rage. Sometimes the world makes very little sense to me.........

You have many friends here.

I'm so sorry.

Pat

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: DonMeixner
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 01:26 AM

Mathew, The is no higher grief to carry or harder condolence to offer. Your loss is felt strongly here among friends. Donald R. Meixner

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: wildlone
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 01:43 AM

United in grief.Thinking of you.WL.

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Jon Freeman
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 01:59 AM

I can not claim to know what this loss is like but I would imagine that it is one of the most devastating blows that life can deal. All I can say is sorry but that feels so empty and useless but at least you know that a lot of people are thinking of you both,

Jon

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Jeri
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 09:06 AM

Matthew, I can only try to imagine what you and your wife must be going through. I wish you healing and comfort in each other and all who love you.

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Banjer
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 10:00 AM

It has, as usual, all been pretty much said. Allow me simply to add my sympathy to that already so eloquently expressed. Ray (Banjer)

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: bbelle
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 10:14 AM

Matthew ... I'm so sorry ... moonchild

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: bbc
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 10:28 AM

Hi, Matthew,

I have not been reading as many threads as usual in the past couple of weeks, so I'm glad kat started this one. As others have said, I haven't had your experience, myself, but life & children are very important to me. I am so sorry you are having to go through this. I hope a minimal number of people will make well-meaning remarks that hurt you. Your loss is real. Feeling it & expressing it will help you get on.

love & hugs coming your way,

Barbara

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Big Mick
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 11:47 AM

Hi Matthew,

Your sadness does you credit. You and your wife will get there one day, and some child will be blessed to have you as parents. Thanks for allowing us to help you share the sadness. It says that we are important to you, and I want to express gratitude for that.

In the meantime, just know that you are in my prayers, and my thoughts. I cannot imagine what you must be going through.

Mick

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Rick Fielding
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:20 PM

Dear Matthew, please accept our heartfelt condolences.

Rick and Heather Fielding

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Pelrad
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 12:31 PM

Dear Matthew,

I am so sorry for your loss. May God and those who love you bring you both to health and happiness.

Kim

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: thosp
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 02:28 PM

i am so sorry for your loss-

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: bobby's girl
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 08:19 PM

I can only say as the others have said, we are so sorry, and our thoughts are with you

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: annamill
Date: 11 Sep 99 - 09:17 PM

Matthew, I gave you my love and shared in your sorrow when you told me earlier last month, but I wasn't sure if sharing your pain with all our wonderful friends was my place. I see now I should have and I'm glad Katlaughing decided to.

You have been in my thoughts a lot lately, but I didn't want to intrude. I hope that you and your wife are alright.

love (more than usual) annap

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Margo
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 12:29 AM

Hey, Matthew. I'm sorry. Been there. I'm really sorry. Margo

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Barbara
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 09:16 AM

Ya, me too, Matthew and partner.
Blessings,
Barbara

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Art Thieme
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 10:36 AM

So very sorry...

Art

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Easy Rider
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 10:52 AM

Matthew & Wife:

You are not alone. My wife and I lost three in a row, a few years back. I hope you're young enough to keep trying. Light a candle; say a prayer.

EZR & Goode Wyfe

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Wotcha
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 12:12 PM

Matthew,

So sorry to hear your news. My prayers are with you.

Brian

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Peter T.
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 12:33 PM

Dear Matthew, thinking of you in your sorrow, and hoping for you in all ways.
yours, Peter

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: karen k
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 03:31 PM

Matthew and Wife,
May the love you have for each other and for the child you have lost carry you forward. My sincere condolences for your loss.

karen k

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: campfire
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 06:58 PM

I'm so sorry.

campfire

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Mudjack
Date: 12 Sep 99 - 10:55 PM

Matthew B and Mrs.
The hearts of the Mudcat community is saddened by your loss, let our caring be of some comfort in this time of healing.
Mudjack

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Matthew B.
Date: 14 Sep 99 - 08:46 AM

I wish to convey my sincerest thanks to all of you. Your kindness, your support... and finally, your sympathies have meant a great deal. Although I haven't "met" most of you, I do find you to be dear to my heart, as friends I can turn for guidance, encouragement, support, and even love.

Another thing you all give me is this: Mudcat is the only place where I don't have to be the "Strong" one.

My wife wants to keep trying, but the thought of putting her through such hell again is unbearable to me. The only thing I can do is put my faith in whatever God (whoever she is) has in store for us.

Thank you again. Yes, I will get over this, and yes, I will be back on the Mudcat threads soon enough, wisecracking and adding my two cents whenever I can. In the mean time, please think of us in your hearts.

Matthew

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: katlaughing
Date: 14 Sep 99 - 10:11 AM

Matthew, you are in our hearts and we all wish you the best.

gawd & gawddess bless

kat

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Vixen
Date: 14 Sep 99 - 10:50 AM

D'Cats have said it all, and said it all so well...

May you heal and be blessed.

V

Subject: RE: For Matthew B. & wife
From: Melodeon
Date: 14 Sep 99 - 04:43 PM

Matthew, I know words are useless at the moment but please believe it will get better. We lost three babies but then went on to have two children, looking back, the pain was almost unbearable but it did get more bearable as time passed. Don't feel you have to be strong all the time, express your grief and it will make you stronger. Melodeon