Obit: alison's husband Mark

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: JedMarum
Date: 28 Mar 11 - 09:01 AM

I am saddened to hear of your loss. I wish you and yours the very best as you move on without him.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Barbara
Date: 28 Mar 11 - 12:43 AM

I'm sorry sweetheart. Blessings on his journey, and yours. Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Effsee
Date: 27 Mar 11 - 10:07 PM

Sorry, I meant us "uninformed".

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Effsee
Date: 27 Mar 11 - 10:03 PM

I echo the thoughts of most people here...the loss of one's partner and soul mate is a grievance.
My condolences to you and your family.
I mean no offence, but doesn't Mark have an identity of his own?
What's his surname for instance?...for us uniformed?

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From:
Date: 27 Mar 11 - 07:00 PM

My thoughts are with you

Jack

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: LilyFestre
Date: 27 Mar 11 - 05:50 PM

Oh Alison.

I'm so sorry to see this thread and the news about Mark.

((((((((((((((Love, love & more love))))))))))))))))

Michelle

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: bbc
Date: 27 Mar 11 - 07:56 AM

Dear Alison,

Life is such a good news/bad news story. I am glad that Mark's suffering is at an end & that he passed in the presence of his family & that you had time to say & do the things that lead to closure for you all. I am sorry for the huge loss to you & your children. Cling to friends & family at this time. How thankful I am for connections that lift us up, even across the world!

with my best wishes to you & yours, always,

Barbara

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Beer
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 11:47 PM

My sympathies to you and your family. May you find comfort with your children and close friends in days and weeks to come.
Adien

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 09:48 PM

Wishing you, and your family, strength, comfort, and peace.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Hawker
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 08:45 PM

So sorry to hear your news Alison, kindest thoughts to you all.
Lucy x

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Bugsy
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 07:28 PM

Alison, I am so sorry to hear your sad news. I have not been around Mudcat much in the last few months and was unaware of Marks battle.

My sincerest love and condolences to you and your family

I gave up praying many years ago, but will say one tonight for you all.
.

with love

Bugsy

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Seamus Kennedy
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 01:52 PM

Well, Alison, you all fought the good fight.
My sympathy and condolences to you and your family.

Seamu

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: C-flat
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 06:51 AM

Sorry for your loss.

Try to celebrate what you had.

C-flat

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Dan Schatz
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 03:31 AM

Words fail. But you have shown amazing strength. May you remember well for all the years ahead.

Dan

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: open mike
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 12:36 AM

my heart goes out to you and your children...hang in there...wishing
you the strength to get thru this...

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Neil D
Date: 26 Mar 11 - 12:02 AM

So, very sorry.
                  Neil and Christina

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Ebbie
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 10:47 PM

I too am so sorry. Thank you, as others have said, for including us in your story.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 07:34 PM

I am sorry, Alison. For now, do what gives you comfort. Eventually, do what gives you joy.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Susanne (skw)
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:57 PM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, Alison. May you and your family find the strength to go on living your lives and keep all your good memories of him.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: olddude
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:47 PM

I am so so sorry ... anything I can do to help you please let me know
I am so sorry to hear this ...

In my thoughts and prayers

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:31 PM

I'm so sorry to read this. Take care of yourselves.

Maggie

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Bobert
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 05:47 PM

Please accept my most heart-felt sorriness for your loss...

I am so sorry and saddened...

Bobert

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Janie
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 03:45 PM

So very sorry, Allison. Peace and light to you and your family, and all who loved him.

Janie

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: SINSULL
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 02:30 PM

I am so sorry Alison. You and your family will remain in my prayers.
Mary

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Bill D
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 01:45 PM

There's no easy way to say anything that will make a difference....but I hope the outpouring of love & friendship here tell you how many are thinking of you...and will be here when you are able to rejoin us.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Maryrrf
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 01:11 PM

Alison, I am so sorry - deepest condolences to you and your children. The poem Dorothy posted was beautiful and true - you will get through this but it will be a hard road. I wish there was something we could do to help. My thoughts are with you and your family.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: kendall
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:55 PM

I wish I could think of something to say that has not been said, but even a motormouth like me is silenced at times such as these.
I will say that he was blessed to have know you.
Love on you all.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Barb'ry
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:40 PM

So sorry, much love to all of you.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Dorothy Parshall
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:32 PM

A friend wrote this recently, about a year after the death of a partner. You, of course, do not have the luxury of much private grief. You have a family to uphold as only a mother can. Once you recover from - thank heavens he is out of the pain- you will go on because you must. And you know all those around you will be giving you their loving support as you move through the pain - which lessens but never ends - and move into a new kind of relationship someone who is present in your heart, in your spirit. You can talk to him and feel his presence, his answer. This cannot be taken from you. I wish the very best for you.

TRANSFORMATION

Is this not the essence of my life, traveling from the depths of my grief to a new life?

Losing the day to day presence of my dear sweet friend plunged me into a darkness like none other. The tastes of darkness preceded her death. As she traveled back and forth to that world beyond the veil, I witnessed but could not go with her.

As she retreated from our life together I craved that which was disappearing—sharing our dreams, collective decisions, sitting down to a meal together, plans for our future, snuggles in bed, ecstatic love-making, falling asleep in her embrace or she in mine . . . One by one they were taken from me.

I railed against my losses. They cut to the bone. I became frail of body, of spirit, of will. But my love, for her and for life itself, kept me facing each day.

One day, months after her death, I again heard a bird sing. One day I saw a sunset. One day I felt a wave at the shore. Finally one day I witnessed the value, yea the treasure, of my life's work.

And then, so tentatively, I recognized the accompaniment of my beloved.

I had to go to the deepest place of aloneness, a place of unspeakable emptiness to begin to feel fullness again.

I have found her again in her absence. I let her go and she came back.

Can I rest in assurance that living true to my path will continue to offer me this gift? That in letting go, I will be filled and held?

If I need a reminder, I'll ask God to offer me one.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: gnu
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:27 PM

My sincerest condolences.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Rapparee
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:20 PM

I'm so sorry, Alison. If there is anything I can do, way over pond here, please let me know.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: CapriUni
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:19 PM

Damnit! I'm so sorry.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Dave Swan
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:18 PM

I'm so sorry. All the best to you and yours. Warmest condolences come from here.

Dave

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Crowhugger
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:14 PM

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Hugs and love to ease this painful time.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: catspaw49
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:03 PM

Old Friend.....I am so very sorry........

With every death of those so close to us comes a hole in your heart. As time passes that hole fills with the great memories. Over the years I've come to think that our hearts are not made of muscle tissue but grow and become whole from the memories that now fill them and the stories we have to tell others. Immortality lies within our hearts and Mark's is assured by the love and caring he gave and left behind.

All our best to all of you Alison.........

Pat & Karen

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Amos
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 11:30 AM

Hugs and condolences, alison. I am sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Jeri
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 11:29 AM

Alison, I'm so sorry. I hope memories of love and laughter, and the arms of family and friends see you through.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Fortunato
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 11:27 AM

I'm very sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Justa Picker
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 11:19 AM

So very very sorry Alison.
Condolences to you and your family.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 10:23 AM

Alisondarlin'...my deepest condolences to you and your children. You have shown us a beautiful way of dealing with such a huge loss and we are grateful for the sharing. May you continue to share as and if you feel the desire. And pass around some hugs to one another from all of us, okay?

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: BrooklynJay
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 09:50 AM

My deepest condolences.

May the love and support of family and friends be of some comfort to you in these saddest of times.

Jay

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 09:19 AM

Alison, I am so sorry. Words seem so empty at times like this. I can but echo the sentiments of the people who have posted. As Mark will remain in your heart and thoughts, so too will you all remain in ours.

Bruce

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Morticia
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 09:19 AM

my heart goes out to you all ((( hugs)))

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Pistachio
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 08:59 AM

When Fathers' die we know not how we'll grieve but that we will
My Father died in '84 and that pain hurts me still
I know your pain is raw and sore
Just know that you WILL smile once more.

So sorry for your loss.
Your bravery, caring and love will have helped you all through these past weeks.

At peace.

Hazel.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: saulgoldie
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 08:55 AM

Condolences, Alison. Thoughts and prayers coming your way.

Saul

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: jacqui.c
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 08:21 AM

So sorry Alison. Mark sounds like an amazing man - I'm sure that his children must be proud of both their parents. Love to you all.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Noreen
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 08:00 AM

I'm so sorry to hear this sad news, Alison. I have been thinking a lot about you and your family and how you are coping.

If and when you feel able, please tell us more about Mark and the times you have spent together.

Nx

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: freda underhill
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 07:33 AM

Alison, I'm very sorry to hear your sad news, sorry for you, your children, and Mark.

freda

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: AllisonA(Animaterra)
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 07:20 AM

Love flowing your way, dear one.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: maeve
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 07:01 AM

Alison- You, Mark, and your children have shown courage and the essence of love. Thank you for including us.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: fat B****rd
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:51 AM

Please accept my condolences and very best regards.
Charlie.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:28 AM

(((Alison, and all Mark's loves)))

~Susan

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: GUEST,Frug
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 06:23 AM

Deepest sympathies to you and your family.

Frank

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Alan Day
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 05:11 AM

Sad news Alison, keep your head up and keep talking to people. It helps.
Al X

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: RoyH (Burl)
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:57 AM

My wife and I send you thoughts and prayers Alison. Deepest sympathies. Burl.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Lizzie Cornish 1
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:57 AM

I'm so glad you were together, Alison. Much love to you, your children and to Mark too.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Dharmabum
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:53 AM

My condolences to you & your family.

       DB.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: MartinRyan
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:28 AM

Very sorry to hear of your loss. Be well.

Regards

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: alanabit
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:26 AM

My condolences too. I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I hope the memory of his courage and dignity will bring you some comfort over the coming days.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: SylviaN
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:20 AM

Condolences from Keith and me Alison and our thoughts are with you and your family.

Sylvia

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Brakn
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:09 AM

My thoughts are with you Alison.

Michael

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: mouldy
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:05 AM

My sincerest condolences to you all.

Andrea xxxx

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: My guru always said
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 04:02 AM

So very sorry, thinking of you and your family.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Sandy Mc Lean
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 03:35 AM

So sorry for your loss! May the good memories live on!

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 03:28 AM

And I hope you can see Mark there too.






sorry I hit submit too soon.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 03:26 AM

Alison

I have no words to convey how sad I feel for you and your children. I hope that very soon you each will be able to turn your thoughts to happy times and feel blessed for those times.

And now Mark is free to look after you all in a different way without pain or worry.

I read somewhere that those aren't merely stars in the night sky, those twinkling lights are our lost loved ones, looking on and letting us know, they are still here with us.

Sometimes, I try to find my daughter Andie among the stars.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: JennieG
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 02:54 AM

Sorry Alison, I didn't notice this thread and have posted on the other. Thinking of you all.

JennieG

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Alice
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 02:13 AM

I'm thinking of you and the kids.
So sorry to hear of Mark's passing.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: KT
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 01:38 AM

My sincere condolences, Alison. So very sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: artbrooks
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 01:04 AM

So very sorry, Alison.

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: GUEST,mg
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 01:00 AM

May he rest in peace. mg

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:53 AM

condolences & best wishes to you & your family

sandra

Subject: RE: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: Joe Offer
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:49 AM

Oh, that's sad. I'm sorry, Alison. My best wishes to you and your children.

-Joe-

---

Previous thread

Subject: Obit: alison's husband Mark
From: alison
Date: 25 Mar 11 - 12:44 AM

Mark lost his battle with pancreatic cancer this morning. He passed very peacefully at home with Ryan & Shannon & myself. He was amazingly brave in how he dealt with his illness and he was a fantastic father. We are really going to miss him, as are his family and friends both in Australia & N. Ireland.