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Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011

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Subject: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 10:30 AM

My Mum, Mudcatter Helen Jocys, died this morning aged 80.

Mum was a singer of traditional songs and played melodeon and accordian.

It was her energy that gave Bollin Morris the kick in the pants that brought it back to life and helped make it the successful side it is today.

Mum was the founder of The Marmalade Band, a group of ladies who would gather at her house on Saturday mornings to sing and play and eat breakfast of toast and marmalade.

Mum was always looking for fun and any chance to sing or play in a session. A couple of years ago at Shrewsbury Folk Festival she woke me up beyond midnight after a particularly heavy day of sessioning. Mum had heard a music session kicking off and wanted us to join in. It was well past 4am when we eventually gave up.

Ever the one to go against convention, the term 'grow old disgracefully' could have been written for her.

Above all, Mum was mother to six - all who will miss her terribly.

Christmas Day will never be the same in our family.

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Raptor
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 10:32 AM

I'm so sorry for your, and our loss.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Bill D
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 10:42 AM

As sad as it is to hear of anyone leaving this life on Christmas, it is right good to know that they got so much from life... and gave so much TO life!

May the good memories sustain you in the years to come.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: GUEST,Suibhne Astray
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 10:50 AM

Deepest condolences for your loss, John. My Mum passed a few weeks back - same age, though we always took Helen for a lot younger. Though we only met her a few times (at Chorlton & the Saracen's head) we remember Helen with much respect and admiration.

Sean & Rachel.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: ranger1
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:00 AM

So sorry for your loss, John.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: SINSULL
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:04 AM

I am sorry, John. Celebrate her life and carry on her tradition.
Mary


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Little Hawk
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:10 AM

That's a hard thing to deal with, John, losing someone at Christmas. My own mother died back on November 20 this year, so this is the first Christmas I've spent without at least one of my parents still in this world. You have my condolences. May you always carry shining memories of your Mum in your heart.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: LilyFestre
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:16 AM

My deepest sympathies John.

Michelle


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: GUEST,999
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:31 AM

I sure am sorry for you and your family, John.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Phil Cooper
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:43 AM

Sorry for you loss, John J


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: redhorse
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:51 AM

Sad news JJ. We'll miss her

Thinking of you

Nick & Lin


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: katlaughing
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:53 AM

My deepest condolences for you and your family, John. She sounds like a wonderful lady leaving the world richer for being here.

In Peace and Love,

kat


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: wysiwyg
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:59 AM

(((John)))

~S~


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Morticia
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 12:14 PM

I'm so sorry John, she sounds like an amazing lady.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Acme
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 12:38 PM

Whether they die on or near the holidays, it always makes them more poignant, but more special, in years to come. My father died just before Thanksgiving and I always am reminded, because of the holiday, to reflect on his life.

My sympathy, John, to you and your family. This year especially you need to take extra care of each other.

SRS


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: alanabit
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 01:16 PM

I am very sorry to hear this. I hope the good memories sustain you.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: GUEST,Keith Price
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 01:47 PM

I'm sorry for your loss John


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: fat B****rd
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 02:57 PM

Kindest regards and condolences to you and yours,John J.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Matthew Edwards
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 02:58 PM

I'm very sorry indeed to hear this news. I enjoyed singing with Helen many times in the Snug at the Railway Inn near Lymm, and loved her wicked sense of humour and her mischevious approach to life. She was a very lovely lady indeed, John and I know you and your brothers and sisters will miss her terribly.

Thinking of you, with much love, Matthew


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Phil Edwards
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 06:23 PM

Sorry to hear this, John. I'd heard she wasn't well, but this is still a sad shock. I must have heard her play dozens of tunes at the Beech - most of which I didn't know - and I'll always remember her Wizard of Alderley Edge. That, and the quiet inconspicuous way she would leave the room when she needed to leave before the end of the evening - as quiet and inconspicuous as you can be when you're hefting an accordion nearly as big as you are, and you want to say goodbye individually to half the people in the room.

She was someone who loved the music, loved life and loved people. I'm glad her final illness wasn't too long-drawn-out (it doesn't seem like any time since we last saw her at the Beech) and I hope it wasn't too difficult for her to bear. Those who knew her will remember her with affection.

Phil


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Bobert
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 06:38 PM

So sorry to hear of your loss, John J...

B~


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 08:50 PM

sending my condolences to family & friends for the loss of an amazing woman & folkie

sandra


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:36 PM

I am so sorry, John J. My heart goes out to you and your family.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25/12/11
From: Maryrrf
Date: 25 Dec 11 - 11:41 PM

She sounds like a wonderful lady who enjoyed life. I'm sorry for your loss, John.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Joe Offer
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 12:03 AM

Helen posted recently as Helen Jocys, and earlier as HelenJ and Guest,HelenJ. Some of her posts go back as far as 2001 - click the links to see what she's written.
May she be at peace.

-Joe-


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 04:26 AM

Thanks for that Joe - Mum didn't 'do' technology, she never got her head around user names, cookies etc, although she had fun trying!

Thanks to everyone for the wonderful messages of condolence, both here and by direct email.

It's Boxing Day morning and the world seems quite empty today.

John


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Herga Kitty
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 05:59 AM

John - I'm so sorry to read this news. I hope your many happy memories will help to sustain you and your family through this difficult time and subsequent Christmases.

Kitty
xx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Linda Kelly
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 06:33 AM

So sorry for your loss John. I remember meeting your mum. Lovely lady. With Love Linda xx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: My guru always said
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 06:50 AM

So very sorry to hear this John, you have lots of good memories of a special lady!
Love & Hugs,
Hil xx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Bernard
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 07:17 AM

So sorry to hear this, JJ.

Please take comfort in the knowledge that she will live on in the memories of all of us who knew her for a very long time.

She was one of those rare people who made a difference.


Bernard


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Mr Happy
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 07:22 AM

John,

Much sympathy.

However, we remember her as a real live wire & inspiration to many younger folk!


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Waddon Pete
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 10:02 AM

Sad news, John.

I've added Helen to the Mudcat Memorial thread.

Peter


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 10:29 AM

So sorry to hear this, John. Don't know if I ever met your Mum, but she sounds a rare person and musician. I lost my Dad on Christmas Day last year, so we did have least a few moments' fond reflection yesterday.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 10:31 AM

Sorry, that was me above: seems my cookie had been cleared.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: gnu
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 11:13 AM

My condolences.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Arcane Lag
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 11:48 AM

We didn't hear the sad new until today when we went to see Bollin Morris at Dunham Massey. Our thoughts were of Helen and her tireless contribution to their revival and continued succuss. I have been priviliged to listen to her and to sing along with her at The Railway, Songs in the Snug, The Sarries, The Beech and many more and have been inspired by her love of the tradition and ability to tackele songs that flummox the rest of us.

Her memory and inspiration will always be with us.

Condolences to you and your family JJ.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 12:28 PM

I know what you mean - I can't get my head around learning 'King Jamie & The Tinkler' either, heaven knows how Mum ever did!

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: SteveMansfield
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 12:41 PM

That's very sad news JJ - she was a great musician for Chorlton Green Morris and a real bundle of energy. A sad loss.


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Subject: RE: Helen
From: GUEST,Noreen
Date: 26 Dec 11 - 08:23 PM

So sorry to see this, John.
Helen was such a lovely lady, with such energy- I thought she'd go on for ever!
She leaves a very large gap behind her, but also so many happy memories.
Condolences to you and all the family. x


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,Yvonne.
Date: 27 Dec 11 - 06:54 AM

She was one of the best.

She had a wicked sense of humour and a big, big brain where she stored so much knowledge. She put me to shame and made me laugh and laugh.

I hate speaking of her in the past tense because energy can not be destroyed or die or leave us. Helen IS energy.

She is still with you, John.

My love to you all

Yvonne xx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Mooh
Date: 27 Dec 11 - 08:14 AM

Sympathies and condolences. I hope by the time next Christmas arrives the hurt is gone and you remember the good times.

It was my own Mum who introduced me to the Mudcat though she's been gone for a few years now.

Peace, Mooh.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Little Robyn
Date: 27 Dec 11 - 09:51 PM

An Irish Legend

Whoever's born on Christmas
Is favoured from the start;
Has laughter and good fortune
And a contented heart;
Is loved by noble company,
Has all that should suffice.

But he that dies on Christmas
Goes straight to paradise.

RIP Helen
Robyn


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Neil D
Date: 27 Dec 11 - 10:20 PM

So sorry for your loss,
                Neil and Christina


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Hawker
Date: 28 Dec 11 - 10:39 AM

Oh! John J So VERY sorry to hear such sad news, huge hugs to you and your family. What a marvellous woman! Though she will be sorely missed, you really do have some fanyastic memories of a lady who really knew how to live life to the full. Try to hold on to that in the dark moments.....and you know you are always welcome for a visiti to Cornwall if you need to get away from it all.
Love, Lucy & Kevin x


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 28 Dec 11 - 03:49 PM

Thanks for all the really lovely messages - it's most comforting to know that you're all out there, caring.

Bernard's put this
up on Lymm Folk Club's website - thanks Bernard.

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Spleen Cringe
Date: 28 Dec 11 - 03:55 PM

Sorry to hear this John - hope you're doing okay. Really enjoyed meeting your mum when she came down to the Beech - lovely person with a really mischeivous twinkle in her eye!


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,Harry Basnett
Date: 28 Dec 11 - 04:45 PM

So sorry to hear of your mother's passing, John. It's been a long time since we've seen any of the old crowd but we've never forgotten you.


   All our Love....Harry and Sara.xxx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Malc Bedworth
Date: 30 Dec 11 - 04:48 AM

Hi John, just heard the news, really sorry to hear this she was a lovely lady, love to you and all the family (also from Dave and Gill)
Malc.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 31 Dec 11 - 03:45 AM

My sincere condolences, John. Like others I only met Helen once or twice but she made a lasting impression. I know Rest in Peace is the wrong thing for her to do, so I will just say I am sure she will enjoy the other place as much as she enjoyed this one:-)

Our thoughts are with you.

Dave


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 31 Dec 11 - 07:37 AM

I'm really humbled by all these lovely messages - thanks folks!

Mum's funeral is at 2.30pm on Thursday 5th January:

Altrincham Crematorium
Whitehouse Lane
Dunham Massey
Altrincham
WA14 5RH

Come as you are - it's what Mum would have wanted.

Afterwards (for a laugh, cry, sing, play, chat, leap around etc):
Saracen's Head
Paddock Lane
Warburton
Lymm
WA13 9TH

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Arcane Lag
Date: 31 Dec 11 - 08:28 AM

Thanks John,it will be a privilige for us to be there to celebrate thew life of a truely remarkable woman.

Alan & Glenys


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: olddude
Date: 31 Dec 11 - 09:43 AM

Very sorry to hear this news, you and your family are in my prayer
very sorry John


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,Susie
Date: 31 Dec 11 - 02:28 PM

I'll be at the Crem... but will have to zoom off after as I am singing at an apple wassail in Newton St Margarets, down the Golden Valley, the other, far side of Hay - Helen would appreciate this no end, and I'll raise a glass and toast her round the apple tres and over the bonfires.
She was a real one-off - a lovely lady with a huge talent and a very big, warm heart. You chose you Mum very well, JJ.
with love
Susie in Powys


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Noreen
Date: 05 Jan 12 - 05:56 PM

I've been thinking of you all today, JJ, and your Mum has been in my thoughts a lot.

I'm sure you'll have given her a great send off :)


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 06 Jan 12 - 09:29 AM

Thanks Noreen, and to everyone who came to the funeral yesterday.

The chapel was full to overflowing - standing room only. There were even people stood outside in the entrance hall.

It was a dreadfully painful day yet it was wonderful too. More than one person came up to me at the pub session to tell me that Mum was there, right in the middle of the session - having a ball, as ever.

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Gillie
Date: 06 Jan 12 - 06:57 PM

Commiserations John, I never meet your Mum, she looks like she was a beautiful lady. I believe I meet you once at a Mudcat gather. Pain only lessens over time, I feel. May you feel joy for having known her. xx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 12 - 06:14 PM

Here we are, a year down the line - and it's still no less painful.

What is most strange are the occasions when I hear something on the radio, learn a new song or tune, or perhaps read an article and then think - 'I must tell Mum about that, she'd be very interested'. The thought is fleeting, but the hurt of the realisation that she's not there any more lingers on.

Ah well.

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: catspaw49
Date: 25 Dec 12 - 08:12 PM

At some point the hurt will become a good hurt......Still painful but wrapped in memories. Not a day goes by that I don't think of my Mom and something she would enjoy or be fun to talk with about or even to argue. She made me stand behind my opinions!

And all those things and many more are with me every day. I was 18 when she died in 1967.............


Spaw


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: wysiwyg
Date: 26 Dec 12 - 06:25 AM

~S~


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Brakn
Date: 26 Dec 12 - 06:34 AM

Thoughts are with you JJ. Might see you later - can't find your itinerary.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,Harry
Date: 26 Dec 12 - 06:42 AM

Lots of love JJ...fond memories of your mum.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,Philippa
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 12:14 PM

sounds like a really lovely woman, I hope you hold good memories


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,Yvonne
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 01:15 PM

She was a lovely, funny and exceedingly bright Woman. I think of her very often,JJ. She and I often got a fit of the giggles. She had such a mischevious smile and sometimes her humour was wicked.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: ranger1
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 01:19 PM

It does get less painful over time, but you'll never stop missing her. I've been writing letters to my dad for the last four-and-a-half years, helps when I miss him most.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Bernard
Date: 28 Dec 12 - 01:37 PM

JJ - take comfort in the knowledge that so many of us will fondly rememeber her for a very long time!


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 06:22 AM

The pain is perhaps diminishing with time, I'm not so sure. Every now and then it pops out of nowhere to bite you on the bum.

The sadness and sense of loss remain the same.

JJ


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011she let
From: Leadfingers
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 11:34 AM

My Old Mum's birthday was Christmas Eve , so it was a bit drear this year as she left us in May . Sympathy Mate !!


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Tattie Bogle
Date: 25 Dec 13 - 01:41 PM

Agreed John J: I can now talk or even sing about my Dad whom I lost one year before your Mum, also on Christmas Day, but it does take time. Something especially poignant about losing someone on Christmas Day: I am not particularly religious but my Dad was.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 06:19 AM

Four years on.

If I hear a radio programme that I know would interest Mum my immediate thought is to pick the telephone to tell her to listen to (invariably) BBC R4. Then reality hits home.

It's all a bit of a bugger.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 06:51 AM

One of Mum's famous poems:

Voyage of Discovery

You've never heard of Stretford? Good heavens, fancy that!
Not heard of Urmston either? Well, I'll eat my hat!
Consult an atlas pinpointing their exact location
Then come along prepared for a unique revelation.

On arrival cast about, you're certain to discover
Lush meadowland where little paths meander by the river.
The Mersey, great dividing line between two ancient shires
Above whose swirling currents the wild kingfisher soars.

In stark contrast, albeit close to this verdant delight,
Stands Stretford Precinct where large supermarkets dominate.
Shop at leisure then move onto your next port of call,
The bustling town of Urmston, enjoy a pleasant stroll
Round tree lined parks; its cosy bars, but come on market day
When inimitable bargains are laid out on display.

Five star restaurants abound, enticing clientele
With gastronomic art born of inspirational skill.
The natives welcome visitors with amiable chat
And if you're not impressed well, I repeat, I'll eat my hat!


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: maeve
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 08:10 AM

John, thanks for your mum's poem. Lots of us are remembering family and friends today. You're not alone.
Regards,
Maeve


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Acme
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 10:10 AM

Those memories are good things, sad as they are. Have a lovely xmas.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 10:46 AM

Thanks for your kind words, Christmas Day will always be tinged with sadness now.

Ho hum.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: akenaton
Date: 25 Dec 15 - 10:58 AM

Hello again John, It's twenty years since I lost my dearest friend, my uncle who acted as a father for most of my life.
It is humbling to know that there is someone who would give their lives to save yours...without hesitation.
I know exactly what your mum meant to you....and the feelings never leave.
I'm sure she would be delighted to know that her son is such a fine individual....One of the best I've met in the folk world.   
Happy Christmas and a very Guid new Year.....Ake.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 26 Dec 15 - 05:03 AM

Such very kind and moving words, thank you.

:-)


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Dave the Gnome
Date: 26 Dec 15 - 08:23 AM

All the best from me too, John. I only met Helen a couple of times but she was a lovely lady. I lost my Dad last January and we miss him greatly so I know how you feel.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: GUEST,brakn
Date: 27 Dec 15 - 04:58 AM

"If I hear a radio programme that I know would interest Mum my immediate thought is to pick the telephone"

I know exactly what you mean. It was the same with my mum; it's as though she were still living in Sale!


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: Joe Offer
Date: 27 Dec 15 - 09:30 PM

With me, it's my grandmother. She died in 1982, but I still think I should be able to pick up the phone and talk things over with her.

Your mum was a special person, John. We enjoyed her. May you treasure her memory all your life.

-Joe in California-


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 16 - 06:56 AM

Five years have passed and I still want to phone her up, drag her out to a music session or singaround - but she can't come.

She's there in spirit though.

I miss her greatly, more than I ever thought I would.


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: John J
Date: 25 Dec 17 - 04:18 PM

It could have been last Christmas never mind 2011, my memory of that day is so clear.
Miss you loads Mum - we all do!
xx


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: peteaberdeen
Date: 25 Dec 17 - 04:28 PM

don't really know if this appropriate to put this on here but i feel i should somewhere. my old man died today - he was 92. we didn't really get on as he was an establishment , military and lifelong daily mail reader and enthusiastically voted to leave europe. i saw neil young doing a gig on an arena programme in 1971? after that i was never going to be what he wanted me to be and we never really resolved that difference. still, i'm happier that he died peacefully in hospital rather than his home which had become a disaster area. it's weird being an orphan at 61 - don't really know what to say, or think


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Subject: RE: Obit: Mudcatter Helen Jocys 25 Dec 2011
From: rich-joy
Date: 25 Dec 17 - 06:25 PM

Just been told that Darwin Folk & Blues stalwart, Chris Pemberton, passed at 8am Xmas morning.
Though I only met him the once, I know many in the Northern Territory Family of Folkies (some of whom are Mudcatters), were well acquainted and will surely miss him :)

Vale Pembo.




R-J
Down Under


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