Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 04 Dec 17 - 08:48 AM

Chuck died Saturday afternoon.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 03 Dec 17 - 10:09 PM

Yup, 8:45 a.m. MST tomorrow.

Dean, I'm so sorry.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 03 Dec 17 - 08:09 AM

Sending love, Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 02 Dec 17 - 08:51 PM

The service will be this next Saturday. I think it's about laid out. Opening with Ann Hills and Cindy Mangsen's recording of "Land Where We Never Grow Old". Mid-way, a friend who knew Judy from childhood singing "Far Side Banks of Jordon". Concluding with "I Can See You Now", written by Bruce Murdoch. In between, A couple of more "churchy" songs, and words from family and friends.
   Did I ever mention here that she had a huge collection of collectible frogs? Quite a few of them will be on a table for folks to take as mementos or for children; she would have loved that; maybe we can say "She'll love that".
   It will be at the church where she has been very much a part for almost if not forty years. I'll sit down with the pastor tomorrow to go over it with him. Tomorrow would have been our 34th.

               Dean, the frogprince

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Dec 17 - 08:08 PM

best wishes to Janie & her dear friend

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 02 Dec 17 - 06:33 PM

Thinking of our frogprince
preparing for the memorial service for his better half.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 05:52 PM

Janie, I wish your friend comfort.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 01:50 PM

Continued good thoughts please for my friend and Dear Companion, and all who love him. Moving to hospice as soon as a bed is available.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 08:30 AM

Sandra, have you met Rap? He'd be my first suspect if cookies went missing!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 30 Nov 17 - 07:43 AM

surely you're not still swiping cookies at your mature years, Rap?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 28 Nov 17 - 10:12 PM

Ranger 1, just tell everyone that he finally annoyed you beyond your limit and that's what he got. My left arm is going to be in a splint/sling after cubital/carpal tunnel surgery on Monday next and I'm certain that Pat will tell people that. Or that she caught me trying to swipe some cookies.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 28 Nov 17 - 04:10 PM

Only just catching up . A bit of a shock seeing frogprince 's news , and so soon after my last post. May precious memories help the healing : bless you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 26 Nov 17 - 04:37 PM

A dear friend of mine is seeing her adult son through his convalescence.
He'll make it, but it was scary.

All his young life he has participated in things like snowboarding
and has trained hard and well,
managing to compete without any really dramatic injuries.

Then he gets an invite to a party at someone's house.
There's going to be food, so he shows up hungry.
Coming in, there are some kind of flashy strobe-ey lights going on.
When he gets clear through the door,
he does a face-plant, just passes out cold.
It's a hardwood floor.

So now they are wondering if the lights triggered a seizure.
The facial fractures required plates. Yeeks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 07:04 PM

Janie, thank goodness for hospice and people like you.

Ranger1, will J-boy tell others how he got hurt, or will he make up a dramatic story about skydiving or something?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 06:22 PM

Owww J-Boy!

Good friends are a treasure indeed.

Hospice will be coming to evaluate my friend’s needs in the next few days. We have been taking turns staying with him for the past week or so and that will continue.

Thankful for friendships, old and new. Thankful for all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 01:56 PM

Got a phone call from the ER this morning. J-boy slipped getting out of the shower last night, fell, broke his arm, and banged up his face on the way down. Luckily, no concussion, but he does have a rather spectacular black eye. Picked him up and brought him back to my place for a couple of days. Healing thoughts would definitely be welcome.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Nov 17 - 07:07 AM

good friends are a treasure

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 23 Nov 17 - 11:32 PM

My friend of 57 years, who set me up on a blind date with Judy, and was our best man, invited me to their family thanksgiving at his daughter's home. I was taken a little off guard when they said very little, and then no more, about my bereavement. But I came to realize that that was what was right for today; I had a freer, happier day than I could have imagined.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 23 Nov 17 - 08:25 PM

Nigel, hope your recovery is moving in the direction needful, and that you are feeling well enough.

Janie, thinking of you as you support others and ask for support from those whom you trust.

A respectful moment of stillness for those who are recently bereaved.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 23 Nov 17 - 06:02 AM

I'm mindful of the fact that for some of our Dear Friends, this Thanksgiving will be different & full of mixed emotions. Nevertheless, I trust it's not inappropriate for me to wish all here a Happy Thanksgiving Day. May your time round the table strengthen the bonds, right some wrongs & give you hope for the future.
                                                               With Love to You All,
                                                                                                Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 22 Nov 17 - 08:55 PM

Thank you for the information about Jerry Rasmussen's wife Ruth, ranger1. If you can, tell him ChanteyLass sends her condolences.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 22 Nov 17 - 05:28 PM

Nigel... beautiful.

r1... thanks.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Nov 17 - 02:20 PM

Jerry Rasmussen's wife Ruth passed away last evening. Jerry doesn't post here any more, but I wanted to put this here for those who knew him.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 12:04 PM

Nigel: Oh yes...oh yes.
Thanks, all of ya.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 10:18 AM

Meeting you and Judy was a joy. I sorrow in your physical loss, but I am glad she is free from the pain of losing herself.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 06:07 AM

Dear Dean, these uncredited words will have to speak for me:

"When we take our vows and say, "until death us do part," we are fooling ourselves. Death only brings a physical departure. A marriage and the bond between a husband and wife make two people into one. That means that even when we lose our wife, we are still left with that special love that burns inside and never dies. That internal love burns on even when our wife is no longer with us. Clinging to that love inside us, even though it can never be physically expressed again, can carry and sustain us in her passing". (edited)

                                                                Much love to You, your Family & Friends,
                                                                                                                                  Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Ebbie
Date: 21 Nov 17 - 03:22 AM

"As it turned out, I had years more of loving her, and of being loved by her."
That was my first thought, Dean. For that, both of you can be congratulated. The love you shared is a special thing, something that many,many people never have.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 08:40 PM

You were blessed to have Judy in your life, and she was blessed to have you in hers. I hope memories of your good times together will comfort you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 07:31 PM

I can, and will, carry on. I had something of a rehearsal, five years ago, for losing Judy. As it turned out, I had years more of loving her, and of being loved by her. There are good hearts in the world; Judy's was one of them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: bobad
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 07:11 PM

Condolences on your loss Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 06:27 PM

froggy... I have no words. None that could convey my feelings. I read of your relationship with her in the past in your posts many times. I hope you can carry on, dear friend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 06:00 PM

Just this moment read your post, frogprince.

All day I have been wondering
why I feel as though
I am being crushed absolutely flat as an envelope.
Now that I have your news,
I believe I know why.

Keep breathing, good and trusted friend, even if you feel squashed flat.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 05:41 PM

Dean, my heart is full of sorrow for you, and overflowing with gratitude that your dear Judy, loved deeply and faithfully, has been released from that confusion, pain and suffering.

Thank you for your courage in caring for her as she needed to be cared for. Thank you for opening this window into your life. I salute you both.

Gardenmaeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 20 Nov 17 - 05:12 PM

About nine this morning, as I was about to start down to the care home to spend time with Judy, my phone rang. She is gone. I went down to see her. It was plain that she had slept peacefully, and slipped away. Cremation is arranged, I've chosen a simple urn. The pain is what it is, but no more miserable confusion and frustration for her.

             Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 19 Nov 17 - 04:28 PM

Sorry to hear this Dean. So hard. She does have the love of a good man , but it's tough bless you

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 19 Nov 17 - 07:40 AM

Dean, I really don't know what to say...your situation & the burden you have to bear is at the outer reaches of life's vicissitudes. That you have my love & long distance support goes without question. Finding the strength & courage to post says much about you, Dean.
                Holding you & Judy close in my thoughts,
                                                                                    Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 11:01 PM

Hugs, to both you and Judy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 07:15 PM

Dean, you've made a wise but difficult decision. I'm sending love to you and your wife, and if I could find heart-mending glue, I would send it, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 02:54 PM

Ahhh....Dean. Was just about to post myself that I am not afraid of experiencing my heart breaking, but need folks around who understand and will keep me safe without trying to keep it from happening.

Breathing with you.

Love, Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 18 Nov 17 - 02:34 PM

I'll put this here, and on another thread; it's taken me a few days to do it. For any here who wouldn't know, my wife suffered total heart blockage in June 2012. It was twenty minutes between total arrest and resucitation. She recovered with no real physical disability at all. She has been able to do her own personal care, other than keeping track of pills and insulin. It's been up to me to cook and keep track of any schedules, but, no big deal; we've traveled to interesting places and life has been good.

Life-long diabetics are very subject to dementia, and to early onset. Judy's neurologist confirmed probable alzheimer's a year or so ago. Her ability to do things for herself began slipping away. We arranged a care-giver for three days of the week, and with that respite, we've been doing okay. A couple of weeks ago, her condition dropped off abruptly, to where she would not allow me to give her necessary care safely at home. Our care-giver came in daily while I arranged placement in a nearby facility; even so, I had take her for emergency hospitalization for a couple of days before we got her situated.

In the hospital she was restless, but cooperative with nurses and doctors. We took her to the care home Friday morning, a week ago. Thursday they asked me to come in for a meeting. She has been refusing to take her meds, or get up for meals. We arranged hospice status. By their definitions for hospice, they will continue the same care she would have received, so far as remains possible without force or restraint. They will not send her for hospitalization. We had completed a DNR a couple of years ago.

I think she is in the hands of good people, who will do the best that can be done. But my heart is in pieces.
                            Dean.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 16 Nov 17 - 10:30 PM

Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 17 - 06:28 PM

Haven't read many posts for a long time. Dealing with 'stuff'. My heart goes out with joy to some and sorrow with others. I now fill my days with trivial pursuits on Facebook between chores. Keeps my mind off of 'stuff'. Bless you all.

6000+ posts! Like Acme said... "Good thread, Janie."

Peace. Out.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 13 Nov 17 - 12:46 AM

some people leave a great hole when they die.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Nov 17 - 09:35 PM

My daughter-in-law's stepfather, whom I wrote about on Nov. 3, came home for a few days and died last Sunday. The memorial service was today. Since my son married my daughter-in-law 8 years ago, I have spent most major holidays with her mother, stepfather, and the rest of her family, and I was invited to enter the church and sit with the family for the mamorial service. After that, there was a collation in the church hall, and then the family invited me to join them for dinner at a nearby restaurant. The family, including his wife, is bearing up well. I will miss this kind, caring man; his family and friends will miss him more.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Nov 17 - 07:17 PM

Nigel, hope you are in less pain these days.

Janie, you asked for us to support you while you supported those who most needed you.
Still keeping you in my heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Nov 17 - 09:55 AM

well done kids! & well done parents who raised them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Stilly River Sage
Date: 08 Nov 17 - 09:38 PM

For the good news portion of this thread - today was my daughter's first day as a full-time librarian in a job with benefits. She was in a local museum librarian fellowship (2 years) and they liked her, so after 8 months in that job they let her know a librarian position was open. She applied, and it was hers within hours.

My heart if full and my job is done - both kids are employed with benefits and are debt free because their father helped them with the costs at the university. They did the work, but met our mutual goal.

6000. Good thread, Janie.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 08 Nov 17 - 09:23 PM

It sounds like a lovely and meaningful service, Pete, well worth adding to your memories of Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Nov 17 - 12:03 PM

Thanks keberoxu. Though obviously sad , the service lived up to being a celebration of tommys life . It was conducted by a man who's been at the church longer than we have ( from our youth ) , so knew tommy and us . He made it very personal , with stories of tommy doing things like going over to the flowers to touch and smell . Becky bravely delivered a lovely tribute, on auto pilot , she said , but which failed her at the committal .tributes also from his head teacher , and a nurse involved for most of his life . The worship section included songs he seemed to most enjoy at church and school .his favourite song we are sure was my song ' monkey biz' was played with photos projected on the screen . The church was packed , and the ladies provided abundant refreshments. Though it was a hard day , and we have an aching hole in our lives , it was comforting that so many people turned out for him, and us . Thanks again for your all your thought and prayers for us          Blessings    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 07 Nov 17 - 02:38 PM

Check in with everybody when you're good and ready,
Pete from seven stars,
and not one instant before.
This cannot have been easy or painless for you and your family.

The rest of us hold you as we are able,
with wordless empathy,
with respect and admiration.