Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 05 Nov 17 - 07:14 PM

Thinking of Pete and his family
as they get ready for what Pete called, above,
"thanksgiving for Tommy's life."

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 07:31 PM

On a more serious note:

A week ago a woman I've known and sung with (strictly for fun) that I met two years ago had survived Stage 2 breast cancer a few years before we met. At least that's what she thought. Last year she couldn't get out of bed one morning and was rushed to the hospital--actually three hospitals because the first two weren't equipped to treat her. The third hospital is affiliated with a prestigious university. The staff there diagnosed her with Stage 4 cancer. Wth treatment she has done surprisingly well but told me last week she has decided to halt treatment. I was startled because it seemed like she was having few side effects especially when compared to what she said she'd experienced with Stage 2.

My daughter-in-law's stepfather has also decided to come home from a hospital and get hospice care. I had no idea his situation was so serious. A few weeks ago I'd asked my daughter-in-law how her mother and stepfather were. She'd said that her mom was well but her stepfather was having some health problems that were slowing him down. She didn't elaborate, and I didn't pry. I knew her dad had become insulin-dependent and a little more than a year ago had had a serious back problem. Two weeks ago I sent him a birthday card and his wife emailed that he'd been in the hospital for five weeks and my card had brought a smile to his face. Again I didn't press for details. I thought the hospital staff was trying to balance his insulin, pain meds for his back, and other meds but couldn't get the balance right, that he was having side effects or something. Then last night his wife posted on Facebook that in spite of chemo (which I didn't know about) and dialysis (which I didn't know about) his condition was deteriorating more rapidly than expected. That's why he's decided to come home and get hospice care.

Of course I respect their decisions, but I was unprepared for this news from either of them, so I'm stunned.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 07:00 PM

Laughter is the best medicine--unless you laugh so hard it hurts.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 11:03 AM

Dean - cellar!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 03 Nov 17 - 12:33 AM

Tami, are you sure you're not just pullin' our chain ?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 05:43 PM

Yay, ranger1! Dance away!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 12:11 PM

I dunno if I danced, but I did cackle gleefully as I flushed the toilet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 08:18 AM

& happy dance?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 02 Nov 17 - 08:09 AM

Water working this AM. Oh, happy day!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Nov 17 - 10:38 PM

And when I got home from Jason's, my landlady's house was lit up. Ah! Still no running water, hoping the pressure switch didn't get blown by the power surge and brown out around midnight on Sunday.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 01 Nov 17 - 10:06 PM

Ranger1, I used to live in a house that lost power and water for days at a time, and I didn't have a generator. I did have a fireplace and an outhouse, though. It was no fun, and at my age I'm glad I no longer live there. Stay warm, dry, and safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Nov 17 - 07:42 PM

And now on day three of storm-caused power outage. My neighborhood isn't scheduled to be restored until Friday night. No lights, no heat, no water. One tree down blocking me into the driveway, it tore the phone lines off my landlady's house, but no other property damage. And we've got the generator hooked up and running the refrigerators for the two properties, so all our food won't spoil. Could be a lot worse. I have drinking water, it's not too cold outside, and the biggest inconvenience is having to hike through the woods to the pond with a couple of gallon jugs to haul water to flush the toilet.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 26 Oct 17 - 09:23 PM

It was a long process, but she's at peace now. Thanks for the thoughts

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 25 Oct 17 - 02:44 PM

Thinking of Rapparee / Rapaire and his whole family
as the first-year anniversary approaches
of the difficult passing-away of one of his siblings.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 23 Oct 17 - 06:27 PM

Yes , a fitting and evocative piece .                            We are in the aching void in between time now . Tommys thanksgiving for his life is not till 7 November . We have had lots of people visiting and we expect a lot to the service at our church. It will be hard , but we are comforted by there being so many who thought so much of him. Thanks for your support and expressions of love and sympathy too.                Blessings.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 22 Oct 17 - 11:18 AM

That is beautiful, Tami. Thank you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 22 Oct 17 - 12:36 AM

Leaving this here, because it's a beautiful song and may offer some comfort. Come the Wind

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Oct 17 - 11:07 PM

So do I !!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 21 Oct 17 - 08:35 PM

Keberoxu, I hope you find comfort.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 21 Oct 17 - 06:16 PM

Some losses take a long, long time for the ache to ease.

Thinking of everyone who has reason to ache with loss today,
while aching with memories, myself,
of losses from a while ago.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 19 Oct 17 - 08:38 PM

I've been away and am trying to catch up. I'm glad to read some good news.
Wendy, I'm delighted to hear that Billy is doing so well.
Nigel, it's good to have you back aboard.
Janie, while you care for your friend, I hope you can care for yourself, too.
Pete, I'm distressed to read the sad news about Tommy. I wish I could think of something to ease your sorrow. You and Becky took such good care of him. He was blessed to receive so much love.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Rapparee
Date: 19 Oct 17 - 08:25 PM

I have no words to add to what has been said, Pete. Remember though that he is now at rest, all troubles over.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 18 Oct 17 - 07:28 PM

What Janie said. I still have no words of my own.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 18 Oct 17 - 07:05 PM

Pete, I've been reflecting on all that you have shared over the past several years regarding the journey of Tommy and the rest of your family.

I am grateful to you for that sharing - for allowing us in some way to share the journey also.

Tommy graced all of our lives through your unselfish sharing with us.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 10:16 PM

Pete, so sorry for your loss.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 05:55 PM

more tears.

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 04:20 PM

Pete.

That's all I have to say. I have no words... just tears.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 11:36 AM

Pete, bless you, and your Mrs., for all that loving care given.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 11:35 AM

Well done, indeed. Your Tommy has completed schooling and he is a graduate now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 11:14 AM

Pete- Well done, all of you. Living to the fullest, loving to the brim. Good night, Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 08:37 AM

I can't add much to what Wendy and Nigel have already expressed, Pete. Sending love. Janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 06:36 AM

Just sending love and prayers Pete. Such a long journey of amazing love you have shared here with us. Heartbreaking to hear of Tommy passing, but your strength over the years has been inspirational. God bless you.
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 06:13 AM

Pete, there is little I can say or do to comfort or aid you other than to send my Love. I am in awe of your dignity & compassion. May your Faith be your Rock,
                                                                                                 Nigel.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 16 Oct 17 - 04:23 AM

Tommy slipped away from us last night. We were with him , as we he passed, assuring him of our love and singling in his ear . We had a few precious times when he became bright , as though he were well, and a few time though when he struggled , but passed peacefully .       Don't know who wrote this : I know it from the Grateful Dead                   Sleep on beloved / sleep and take thy rest/ lay down thy head upon the saviours breast / we love you well, but Jesus loves you best / so we bid you goodnight .....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 15 Oct 17 - 06:36 AM

Sending prayers and holding your family in our thoughts Pete.

Wendy and Bill xxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 09:40 PM

Thinking of you, Tommy, and the rest of your family, Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 08:36 PM

Hard and precious times, Pete. Surrounding you and your's in light.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Donuel
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 05:26 PM

Pete you and your loved ones sound like you are being torn to pieces, which is certain. Please hold all those pieces together in tremendous hugs, surprise hugs, desperate hugs, thankful hugs.
extra love
Don.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 05:23 PM

A good song from the osarks janie

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 05:16 PM

Glad to see your good news Wendy : cause for thankfulness.   Tommy's doctors are sure it's the end approaching in days for him. Accordingly he is now on palliative care , rather than working for recovery. The assisted breathing machine is off , and moniter probes removed. But at present , tommy is not seeming to follow the programme , preferring to make excited sounds while watching his I pad. It's an emotional roller coaster , esp for Becky. We expect to lose him , but then get hopeful , remembering that the doctors said he would not pull through at the beginning of the year .                         With empathetic thoughts for Janie in her love and care for a friend       Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 13 Oct 17 - 04:39 PM

Thinking of Tommy and his caregivers ... over another weekend.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 12 Oct 17 - 10:44 PM

Pete, Tommy and Nigel, holding all of you especially close in my thoughts.

Thank you, maeve, for the update on Nigel.

My friend - he is more than a friend - is not doing well. I know what is coming. The downward spiral is starting to spin faster. Taking it a day at a time, each day a new 'normal.'    And each day a gift to be savored as best as can be.

It'll Shine When It Shines.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 12 Oct 17 - 08:07 PM

thinking reassuring thoughts for all thread participants
who need reassurance the most.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Oct 17 - 07:04 PM

what gnu said

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Oct 17 - 12:28 PM

Great to hear the good news. Just the opposite to hear about Tommy... virtual hugs are sent.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Oct 17 - 08:20 AM

sending love to Tommy and to you Pete, prayers for his recovery and for you to have extra strength, often the carers struggle on and thoughts for them are very important xxx.

Maeve thank you for keeping us up to date with Nigel's progress, give him all our love xxx.

More good news,yesterday Billy got the all clear from the skin cancer Consultant, 5 years on from a huge op, lymph nodes etc, he has been discharged whoop de doop.

so lots of love to everyone here, wishing you health and good news and hugs where needed,

much love Wendy xxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 10 Oct 17 - 03:40 AM

Thank you ,we almost lost him yesterday but is far better this morning, so hopefully he's pulling through again.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 09 Oct 17 - 07:28 PM

sending good wishes to Tommy & his family

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: keberoxu
Date: 09 Oct 17 - 07:04 PM

Septic pneumonia sounds as though it SMARTS.
Circle the wagons for Tommy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Oct 17 - 06:45 PM

Tommy had been doing well . Bucky had started doing blended diet and reducing the formulae milk food. This seemed to sort out his health for the better . However , it has not kept him out of hospital and he is back in today with septic pneumonia . So he is in danger yet again....