Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 02 Apr 12 - 03:28 PM

Laughter and calm water --- GOOD!

Still here. Perhaps others would like to join me in Lighting A Candle. I made a "Mudca" group on the Gratefullness site (it wouldn't allow enough letters for the "t")which anyone may light a candle at and also leave a message. Just click on one of the unlit candles.

With you all in mind, Nigel, Ann, and Jane,

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 02 Apr 12 - 05:49 PM

Hi, Nigel. I spent the day with my mother...because she's here now and the farm chores will always be waiting for me. Thanks for the glowing report regarding Jane spending time with Ann.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 06:38 AM

Hi -still about and just checking in.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 06:39 AM

We set sail on January 12th...it's now 3rd april & we've crested 400 posts. Truly amazing. Truly amazing too, that Ann & I have been allowed to garner so many loyal & compassionate Friends. I'm feeling somewhat over-emotional as I type...had one of my own doctor's appointments this morning (muscle stuff that is annoying/irritating, but NOT life-threatening). Jane's situation came into the conversation & I broke down in the consulting room. My Doctor allowed me to sit there & take all the time I needed to settle myself. She sat there, calm & steady, not saying much, but what she did say was absolutely appropriate...kind, gentle words that calmed me. We over ran the allotted time considerably, but at no time did I get the feeling that my Doctor wanted me out. I could leave when I felt ok to do so. It's been quite a morning!
                                                    With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann.
                                                                   xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 03:54 PM

Hi, Nigel. I will be gone for a week, but I will be thinking of you all. Just so's ya know.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 09:32 PM

Nigel, I love how all of you are focused as much as practical on celebrating the Now. Now is the most powerful place to live our lives, always.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Apr 12 - 10:44 PM

I'm still here and still praying and pleased to read your posts since Jane returned. I am reading your posts every day but my life is going to be more hectic than usual for several weeks as it does at least twice a year with some good stuff, so I have less time to write. But I always have time to pray. Even if at some point I don't get to Mudcat, your family will remain in my thoughts and prayers. (How hectic is my life? Well, yesterday I got my hair cut so I will spend less time in the shower!)

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Apr 12 - 11:26 AM

Bruce, have a good time & travel safely, my Dear Friend.

Janie, I agree, 'Now' is where everything happens. I would want to add to that: "Reflect on the past, it's a treasure trove of experience. Be prepared for a future, on the assumption that there will be one, even if it's only tomorrow"

ChanteyLass, pace yourself...get done what needs to be done & make sure there's always some time remaining, just for yourself (in or out of the shower!)
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 05 Apr 12 - 02:23 PM

freeresh

On accounta we are still here.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 05 Apr 12 - 10:11 PM

What gnu said.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 06 Apr 12 - 04:08 AM

Wishing You all a very Happy Easter. Let's drop anchor here in Respite Cove. If the weather holds, maybe some of you could go ashore & see the sights. We set sail this coming Tuesday at first light. Ann & I will stay aboard & take turns with the watch.
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 06 Apr 12 - 03:18 PM

wishing you settled seas   pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 07 Apr 12 - 12:02 AM

Ah...the calm and peace is nice. Still keeping watch.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 07 Apr 12 - 03:31 PM

Right back atchya, Nigel.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 09 Apr 12 - 04:49 AM

It's raining, but the sea is calm & I do believe the glass is rising. Don't forget, we set sail at first light, Tuesday morning. Until then, go easy on the grog!
                With Love,
                               Nigel & Ann
                               xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Apr 12 - 09:38 PM

I'm ready to board.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 10:49 AM

Welcome back on board, ChanteyLass.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 01:20 PM

Spinning or fly rod... both?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 01:30 PM

I'm no expert at fishing gnu, so bring both. Fresh fish on the table for supper...sounds wonderful, providing you can remove ALL the bones!
       Hope you've all got your sou'westers handy...I think there could be some squalls before too long.
             With Love,
                            Nigel & Ann
                            xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 03:10 PM

How's Jane doing, Nigel?

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 10 Apr 12 - 10:22 PM

May you dwell in your hearts.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 11 Apr 12 - 04:48 AM

Welcome back Bruce...I trust You & your Good Lady are fit 'n' fine. Jane is doing remarkably well, all things considered. She is allowed to drive, so she can get out & about a bit. Over the Easter weekend, we were all able to take a short walk in the countryside...weather was good & the views were great. Ann & I are off into Central London today to see one of Jane's friends who is taking a break from Dubai. A nice lunch together in Covent Garden.
                                  With Love,
                                                 Nigel & Ann
                                                 xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Apr 12 - 06:57 PM

glad to hear she is doing so well.God bless you all.which bit of countryside did you go to?. pete

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 11 Apr 12 - 11:05 PM

me too

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 12 Apr 12 - 08:10 PM

And I hope your lunch in Covent Garden was delicious.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Apr 12 - 04:56 AM

Pete, Surrey is the countryside through which we drove...plenty to see & do.

Hello Sandra...Jane really has 'grasped the nettle'. Her PMA has touched us all in a positive way...brave girl.

ChanteyLass, aspects of the meal were delicious, but overall, I was somewhat underwhelmed! The restaurant is owned by a VERY well known celebrity chef. A case of 'Talking the talk', but not quite 'Walking the walk!' However, nine of us crammed round a table intended for eight made up for any food shortcomings!
                                                       With Love,
                                                                      Nigel & Ann
                                                                      xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 06:12 AM

Learning to live with (Jane's) cancer is similar in some respects to learning how to 'let go' as your Children work their way through school, go to college/uni & eventually 'fly the nest' to marry, seek work or just experience independence...stand on their own two feet.
         With the spread of Jane's cancer curtailed for the present, Ann & I have decided to 'take a step backwards' thereby giving Jane & her Family the independence to live their lives as they choose...we've been so closely involved (at times, probably too close) since January. Now is as good a time as any to 'take a back seat', whilst always waiting in the wings, so that we can respond quickly if anything 'unexpected' happens. We have discussed this with Jane & she feels too that it is the right course of action for all concerned. 'Lessons in Life'...you just never stop learning.
                   With Love,
                                  Nigel & Ann
                                  xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: banjoman
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 06:59 AM

Good to hear of your decision and wish you and Jane every happiness. I will keep watching this thread but will not contribute so often as I think you probably need some time for yourselves. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 10:21 AM

You all will continue in my thoughts.

Got a tree full of grackles, sparrows, starlings, a pigeon, three mourning doves (which have got to be the most laid-back birds I ever saw), chickadees, downy and hairy woodpeckers, nuthatch but no partridge, 'cause it ain't a pear tree. Both Canadian and snow geese are back, and the blue jay. The cardinals have disappeared--about six weeks back, sun's shining, river's flowing and the wind ain't doing much to speak of.

Later.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 12:30 PM

Bruce, your post would make a beautiful painting...or a song...or a poem...or a carefully executed piece of needlepoint. A sylvan scene to wonder at.
                        With Love,
                                       Nigel & Ann
                                       xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 12:56 PM

About that dinner: I once declined the opportunity to dine, at extra cost, at a celebrity chef's restaurant on a cruise ship. Many people in my tour group saw it as a once-in-a lifetime opportunity. I said I was very much enjoying the included meals in the regular dining room and didn't think the extra cost could possibly be justified. Or, as I put it, "Just how much better can the celebrity chef make a steak, lobster, or any other food taste?"

Nigel and Ann, I think you are wise to step back even though that must be hard to do. Jane must know that you love her and will be there whenever she needs you. And I'm sure the Mudcat community will be here for you whenever you need us. Continuing prayers.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 15 Apr 12 - 01:02 PM

Wise move, Nigel.

Continued Ts&Ps.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: catspaw49
Date: 16 Apr 12 - 11:28 AM

Its "tax day" here in the Colonies and I am thinking that your family have ALL been heavily taxed lately so getting a rebate right now is a good thing and I'm so glad to hear it! We'll all be here and still sending our best but for now just give us an occasional update and enjoy some of the living you've been missing.

Much Love,

Pat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 16 Apr 12 - 12:59 PM

What PatSpaw said.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 16 Apr 12 - 01:17 PM

I agree. Not that Spaw gives a rat's ass, of course.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 06:15 AM

Jane has the results of some more scans this week. If everything is ok & her Oncologist is happy, she will go to Dubai for about a month, after which, she will return to the UK for further monitoring. As & when I have news, I'll post immediately, but with these calmer waters, the sails set & the barometer rising, we have an opportunity to sit back & enjoy the view & savour the air,
                               With Love,
                                              Nigel & Ann
                                              xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: maeve
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 06:19 AM

Happy sails to you...

Maeve

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: katlaughing
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 10:35 AM

Deep sighs, here. A time to rest up, gather more energy, and enjoy the Spring? May all good things come to pass.

luvyakat

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: fat B****rd
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 02:40 PM

Still sending best thoughts from Dunfermline.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: VirginiaTam
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 03:30 PM

Just getting ready to shut down for the evening (to0 tired to do much surfing, reading of mudcat, facebooking) and thought I'd peek in here to see how things are.

What a lovely way to end my internetting after a long fractious week. Very happy for all of you.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: gnu
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 04:36 PM

Great news!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Apr 12 - 09:38 PM

Thank you for keeping us updated. I hope Jane gets to make her trip.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 01:30 PM

As ever, thank you All for your thoughtfulness & compassion. The results of Jane's tests were the best we could have had, under the circumstances. The tumours are still no larger & the cancer has not spread any further than the previous scans revealed. She is on a plane to Dubai as I type this, returning to the UK mid-May to continue with her Maintenance Programme. The Royal Marsden Hospital really are taking such good care of her. Jane & all of us have to live with the thought that the cancer could 'flare up' at any time, but, for the moment at least, we are all doing our level best to live our lives as normally as possible. Ann has a landmark birthday coming up soon which we will be celebrating in Dubai with all the Family...I know they're planning something special, but even I'm not privy to the details!
                                    Much Love to You All,
                                                                     Nigel & Ann
                                                                     xxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,999
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 01:39 PM

Extend to Ann a happy birthday from the gang, Nigel. We're still thinking of Jane and of course you and Ann. Best wishes, buddy.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 09:47 PM

Smiling!

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Janie
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 11:14 PM

I don't know where I heard this, Nigel, but I'll share it.

"The present is completely open, and we are living it, right now."

Ya'll are living the present well, mindful that the present is actually all we are ever guaranteed.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Apr 12 - 11:17 PM

Significant Birthdays are good! An excuse (not that one is needed) to celebrate.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: freda underhill
Date: 25 Apr 12 - 08:09 AM

I'm glad the latest tests have a good result Nigel and Ann. I've just been at a beautiful little folk festival in St Albans, a small historic town north of Sydney in a valley surrounded by low, tree covered mountains and the beautiful Macdonald river. What a peaceful weekend, with lots of folk music and a night sky full of so many stars, stars that I don't see living in the city.

I hope Ann enjoys her birthday!

best wishes to all

freda

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: jacqui.c
Date: 25 Apr 12 - 09:49 AM

So glad to hear that the latest tests are positive.

Many happy returns of the day to Anne.

Good thoughts still coming.

Subject: RE: Healing thoughts & prayers please (Nigel Paterson)
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 25 Apr 12 - 05:04 PM

likewise best wishes.