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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: ChanteyLass Date: 20 Jan 14 - 09:22 PM Tinker, I'm glad Ben is okay but sorry for the accident. Wendy, how awful! I would be irate and anxious! What a nasty thing for anyone to do! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 21 Jan 14 - 01:39 AM adding to the love & hugs heading your way, Wendy Gidday, Tinker - welcome to the Rainbow. I hope you & Ben are feeling calmer by now love sandra |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 21 Jan 14 - 06:05 AM I'll ditto all that. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Janie Date: 21 Jan 14 - 06:23 AM missed your post yesterday, Tinker. Glad Ben is OK. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Nigel Paterson Date: 21 Jan 14 - 08:28 AM Welcome, Tinker. I echo the many post regarding Ben. Cars can be fixed or replaced...options for us Humans tend to be a bit more complicated! Wendy, I am horrified by your discovery. As has already been said, pay careful attention to your postings. My gut reaction is seek legal advice. Unspeakable that you have been subjected to this gross intrusion.I hope it's ok to say, on behalf of everyone, that you have the love & emotional protection of the whole Crew, With Love, Nigel & Ann xxxxxxxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: VirginiaTam Date: 21 Jan 14 - 02:25 PM Wendy... That is just awful. I shouldn't think it is wise to confront your brother, without first taking some professional advice. Maybe Citizen's Advice can help. I hope you find a resolution soon. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: ranger1 Date: 21 Jan 14 - 03:04 PM Oh, Wendy, that's just...reprehensible. Pete, so happy to hear the news about Tommy. Tam, glad you're feeling better. Tinker, we've already talked, but I'm glad Ben's OK and that you boarded the Rainbow. Now for a feel-good story: I belong to an online photo-a-day group, and another member is the mother of a six-year-old who happens to have autism. As a way to both connect with her daughter and to get Delilah to be more creative, Jennifer, the mom, started having Delilah decide how they were going to interpret the day's prompt and come up with the subject. Delilah has quickly stolen the hearts of everyone in the group, and we enjoy our daily glimpse into how she sees the world. Jennifer was hoping to have a camera for Delilah for Christmas, but a major vet bill happened (Delilah's dog Baxter needed surgery) and money is tight for them at the moment. I'd bought my mom a digital camera for her birthday a couple of years ago that she can't use due to tremors in her hands from her stroke, and we decided at Christmas that Delilah should have the camera. It arrived half-an-hour ago (thank you USPS tracking!) and I'm waiting excitedly to hear from them. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: billybob Date: 21 Jan 14 - 06:04 PM Bless you all, Have had a really horrid day, decided after a sleepless night to try and set my feelings of sadness and anger aside and have a cool head and think as clearly as possible. Firstly I am pretty much sure that this lovely safe haven is, indeed ,safe and my brother will not come here. but I think he may see my face book page, where I said I thought I had found a Dictaphone that might have belonged to my grandson. Then my son commented that I had found it two years ago and sent it back in the post, I then made a joke about MI5!!This all before BB and I managed to work out how to use the darn thing and then listened to the recording. We are positive that it was placed there by my brother, after a lot of rustling noise his is the first voice you hear and it was on Sunday evening, you hear him saying goodnight to mum and then the carer putting her to bed. It is voice activated and records for 72 hours. Back to today, I have seen the police, who would arrest him and question him if I make an official complaint! As if I can do that, the ramifications are horrible? The second option is for the family to confront him with: ok, we have found this, why would you do this? We are worried about you, we think you need help and we wish to facilitate this for you, if not we will have no option to go to the police and put it in their hands. My son and son in law are prepared to do this as we agree that Billy and I cannot do it. I have had to inform the care company as they have a duty of care for their employees and if they choose to take action that is out of my control! Tonight I had a phone call from him that was very out of character asking how I was and how Billy was, made me think he has seen my facebook page, normally he is not at all interested in our welfare, there has been a history of very irrational behaviour in the past. I am sure he will not read this,but if he did he would see how much hurt and distress he has caused. Rainbow crew, I love you all, thank you for being here and loving thoughts to you all, sorry to burden you with this stupid tale of woe, onward and upwards..... With much love Wendyxxxxxx ( mum is sleeping soundly with her carer by her side, that's all that matters) |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: ChanteyLass Date: 21 Jan 14 - 09:51 PM Hoping to see an update from Pete abpt Tommy soon. Wendy, good luck with Plan B. Ranger1, what a nice thing to do! I'm glad you thought of it! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 21 Jan 14 - 10:03 PM I echo all 3 points from Chantey Lass! Well said CL. Spaw |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: ranger1 Date: 21 Jan 14 - 10:57 PM I neglected to say in my post UP SPAW! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 22 Jan 14 - 12:46 AM once again I second ChantyLass - second both posts, I hasten to say sandra |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 22 Jan 14 - 12:48 AM second post was from Ranger1 & I second that, too! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 22 Jan 14 - 06:37 AM I reverberate Spaw's echo. "( mum is sleeping soundly with her carer by her side, that's all that matters)" Yup. That's the spirit. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Janie Date: 22 Jan 14 - 11:17 PM Wendy, rocky coastline. You have the helm here with all crew on board. No foolproof course when it comes to all the complicated currents. Just know you are not sailing alone. VT, I love how when a day, week, or even an evening bubbles up as an opportunity to celebrate, you do so. Also love your honesty when it is hard. Radical acceptance, eh? Tommy home? Nigel and Anne, slogging through gray waters and heavy swells, keep rowing. Keep sailing. You are not sailing alone even though your journey is your own. Darlin' Sinsull - Wise Woman - Be strong as you need to be for yourself, and also come below whenever you like and feel comfortable doing so. Tea, coffee, a shot of scotch, or a good, ribald, sarcastic, a simple silly circle of love and laughter, or/and a serious and heartfelt touching of hearts. Whatever you need here awaits you. This is a ship where there is a little magic - magic happens when hearts are open. This boat or flotilla has the wisdom and collective heart of many and offers what we need - connection and empathy. Not sympathy. Not being told how we ought to feel or think, not judged or admonished. Just a simple acknowledgment that life is full.... That a full life includes pain, fear, suffering, loss and confusion, nothing remarkable about that except that in each case, it is our own lives and the lives, fear, and decline and deaths of those we love, personally and up close. Sometime shocking, and sometimes not. But what all of us desire and strive for are full lives, and this ship - this flotilla, celebrates the fullness of life. All the resilient ways we find to accept and embrace what it means to live and to die. To love and rejoice and to suffer and fear. To just keep sailing on, knowing we are not alone. Awesome! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: billybob Date: 23 Jan 14 - 04:25 AM Awesome? Oh Janie that is you, thank you. Wendy xxxxxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link Date: 23 Jan 14 - 10:51 AM just got our internet fixed this afternoon and came here first. wendy, I was flabberghasted to read of your sinister discovery. I don't suppose he was worried about your mums care at times you might be absent? , after some of the care home stories. sounds a bit of a stretch , but possible. but as he has been worried about his inheritance ,it seems unlikely. wishing you wisdom. we bought tommy home on Monday, and we thought he might have to go back when sats readings went low and we had to suction mucus plugs out of him, but today he is on his feet, bright and awake all day so far. yesterday he slept most of the day, perhaps understandable after being so low for so long .the trend seems to be up. blessings all pete. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 23 Jan 14 - 01:23 PM "but today he is on his feet, bright and awake all day so far." YEAH BABY! GO GO GO! UP UP UP! ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL TO HEAR!!!!!! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 23 Jan 14 - 08:47 PM YAH, Tommy. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: ChanteyLass Date: 24 Jan 14 - 12:06 AM Oh, good for Tommy! I hope he can keep on improving! Great post, Janie! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Nigel Paterson Date: 24 Jan 14 - 06:17 AM Hugs & Kisses & big Smiles for Tommy & Pete. Much Love to you both, Nigel & Ann xxxxxxxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Janie Date: 24 Jan 14 - 03:21 PM Day by day. Rest well Tommy, and restore and rejuvenate. Same wishes for you and his mom, Pete. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 24 Jan 14 - 10:35 PM Take it easy Tommy and don't overdo. After a long illness and all the time in the hospital, it is way too easy to overdo. Lots of happy folks here on the Rainbow. Continue getting better. Spaw |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link Date: 25 Jan 14 - 03:48 AM YES, still seems to be steadily recovering, thankyou friends. hope, wendy ,your present worry is resolving best as can do. UP SPAW. BLESSINGS ALL pete. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Nigel Paterson Date: 25 Jan 14 - 07:45 AM Life's unexpected surprises (of the pleasant kind), can really give one a boost. A niece who I had lost touch with over twenty five years ago, has tracked me down, courtesy of the internet. I'm having lunch with her & her Family in a couple of weeks time. The last time we were together, she was still at school. Now, she's married with a son & daughter at high school. I think it will be one emotionally charged lunch! With Love, Nigel. xxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 25 Jan 14 - 09:12 AM How wonderful Nigel! One of the things I have enjoyed lately is catching up with school friends on a site about my hometown here on FB. There is also a downside. One of my best friends in high school and for a few years after. I previously knew had died. I wasn't around and didn't hear about it til years later. We had drifted apart as our lives changed. He'd married another mutual friend, had kids, and all that normal family thing. So I run down his wife on this site I found and sent her a note. She wrote a nice note back and we agreed to stay in touch. I ran across another friend the next day and she had lost her husband last year and they were very close. We chatted back and forth and I mentioned talking to "Jenny" the day before. She tells me what a strong support she had been for her AND that "Rich" had committed suicids the day their divorce came through. He had also lost his longtime job and was depressed............I didn't let her know I didn't know that and am thankful I didn't say anything to his wife. "Phyllis" then tells me that "Betty's" husband, also a mutual friend and schoolmate, had died two years ago. Geeziz..........A suicde and two sort of shocking and sudden deaths..... I am taking a bit of a break from the site to absorb this....LOL.....I mean really......You gotta' laugh a bit here because I was so damn innocent and enjoying the old times so much I forgot we had all aged and that carries all the problems life has brought us. It is what it is and my eyes are open now and far more prepared to continue enjoying the reminiscing with a more realistic mindset. Realistic mindset....... Sometimes I forget one of my two core beliefs.....There is only what is. What should be never existed..... The world is ever so capable of delivering jabs, body shots, and upper cuts, in a powerful flurry. Gotta' keep your legs and know the truth that defeats it.....There is only what is...... And then, like Nigel, we can relish the joy of the rounds where we win. Much love to the crew of "Jane's Rainbow!" Spaw |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Nigel Paterson Date: 26 Jan 14 - 05:19 AM Great post, Spaw. Desperate, when one 'turns back the pages' of our personal histories, only to discover that some of those we knew & maybe even loved, are with us no more. To discover further that the circumstances were so excessively painful is an added twist that makes absorbing the news that much harder. Take all the time you need, my Dear Friend. You have quite a bundle of memories on which to ponder & reflect. Ann & I send our sincere condolences & Love. Tomorrow (Monday 27th), Ann & I will be attending Ralph Jordan's funeral. He was 'Ralphie' on MC. If you're up & about at 11:30 UK time, give thanks for a superb musician; a matchless sound engineer; an irrepressible supporter & friend of Nic Jones & a Gentle Man in every sense of the word. Ralph will be sorely missed by all those who knew & worked with him, myself included. With Love to You All, Nigel & Ann xxxxxxxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Janie Date: 26 Jan 14 - 07:36 PM Up, Up, Up! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 26 Jan 14 - 09:07 PM Many of us only knew Ralph here but I posted to his obit thread.....No harm in having it here either I suppose.......... ************************************************************* "Ralphie" was always a fine contributor here. He came to Mudcat in 2001 and always had knowledgeable and passionate comments PLUS could many times be counted on to have some funny things to add in the BS fray. Not long after he arrived he and I PM'ed a few times when I saw he might be getting a bit ...... I dunno' what but I'll use "overwrought" by some of our resident jackasses......er, uh, trolls. I think the following response showed everything I needed to know about him in a nutshell. Intelligence, self knowledge, and above all(for me)....humor.....wait, I'll make that humour just for him. Pat. I'm honoured!...Have had 6 messages so far. As a Brit, I find this whole forum, not only useful, but also fascinating. I've even got wound up meself over a couple of topics (Celtic Music?) Only because I hate to see injustice, of any kind. But, by and large, I feel very happy here...I'll even forgive you for being American....By the way...can we have our country back now? Best wishes from "Der Fatherland".... I hear you've not been well, so, GET BETTER!! Best Wishes and thanks for the welcome Ralphie Travel well Ralphie. It was a pleasure and an "honour" to have you here with us. ************************************************************* Spaw |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Pete Jennings Date: 27 Jan 14 - 01:07 PM Amen to that, Spaw. Just gone 5 past 6 (pm), so I'll raise a glass shortly. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Janie Date: 27 Jan 14 - 11:51 PM Time does, or at least can, heal. Kaye died 23 years ago this evening. She had just turned 42. Her boys were 8 and 9 years old. I was 39. Several times this month I have thought about the approaching anniversary, but today, it wasn't until I wrote the date down on some signature page at work that I realized the date and that today is that anniversary. The hole in my heart after all these years is not nearly as precious, nor as vivid as are the memories. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 28 Jan 14 - 06:02 AM "The hole in my heart after all these years is not nearly as precious, nor as vivid as are the memories." |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 28 Jan 14 - 07:16 AM I talked about something similar discussing the death of my best friend, mentor, big brother, Denny. It came to me in a strange enough way through the question of a 12 year old boy. I did the eulogy for Denny and I had the very large crowd laughing........... The funeral drew a huge crowd and when I spoke, I spent twenty minutes and got lots of laughs, because we had had many good laughs together over the years. But I ended with something that my nephew had asked. It was a good question and since he was there, it was a good place to answer it. Ricky said to his Mom (Connie), "What's it like when your best friend dies? Uncle Pat must have a big hole in his heart now." At the end of that eulogy cum comedy monologue, I told the crowd what Rick had asked and said: Great friends cannot leave a hole in your heart. They can only fill it with the memories of a lifetime. Maybe that's all our hearts really are.......A collection of wonderful memories and love for those we bless and who bless us with that most special status......True Friend. Spaw |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link Date: 28 Jan 14 - 04:28 PM I think perhaps, that another way of expressing it is, that a loss can break a heart ,but the positive memories can bring healing over time. tommy still steadily recovering, but the bi-pap machine does most of his breathing at night. otherwise, its generally up, so UP SPAW and blessings all pete. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 29 Jan 14 - 05:30 AM Good to hear, Pete. Spaw... wonderful words. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Nigel Paterson Date: 29 Jan 14 - 06:26 AM 'Inspirational' is not a word I use lightly or regularly, but this page IS just that. Much to read, much to think about. Wonderful words, written by some wonderful people. The accumulated knowledge, wisdom & experience written here is invaluable..."Words for Life". With Love to you All, Nigel. xxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 29 Jan 14 - 06:45 AM I'll second that sandra |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: VirginiaTam Date: 29 Jan 14 - 07:05 AM Too much death this week. After falling apart over the news re Pete Seeger Tuesday morning, I received more sad news this morning. One time friend and former colleague. She was early 40s young, vibrant, devestatingly funny, loved traditional music, art and history and was quite the liberal thinker. She fell ill with a brain tumour in September 2011. Had surgery and full compliment of chemo and radiation. Siezures left her unable to work. She and her partner had to move from the area and in with her parents. She was an only child. She took a turn for the worse last week and passed this Sunday while in hospital. This January is too sad. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 29 Jan 14 - 11:46 AM Best thoughts to you, her partner, and her parents. Much the same started this voyage.......... My Grandfather used to call this "Old Black January." Spaw |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 29 Jan 14 - 02:20 PM VT... my condolences. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: ChanteyLass Date: 29 Jan 14 - 09:13 PM Pete, thank goodness for the bi-pap machine. VirginiaTam, I wish I could write something to alleviate your grieving. Hmm, I haven't sent this message lately. UP, SPAW! |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Nigel Paterson Date: 30 Jan 14 - 06:38 AM VT, I can do no better than echo Spaw's words. Please accept my comforting thoughts, With Love, Nigel xxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: billybob Date: 30 Jan 14 - 08:30 AM My thoughts too VT, Why is January such a bad time? Too many people with sadness!! UP SPAW and Tommy! With love Wendy xxxxxxx |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Sandra in Sydney Date: 31 Jan 14 - 06:24 AM hugs to Tam & good wishes to all sandra |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: Bat Goddess Date: 31 Jan 14 - 01:21 PM My sister called last night to tell me my uncle in Kentucky died Wednesday. He was my mother's younger (80) brother. Pneumonia -- the older person's friend. He'd survived Korea and a couple tours in Vietnam with the 101st Airborne, but heart problems and pneumonia got him two months after Mom. Ach. For whatever reason, I'm not doing that well today. Took a clonazapam (anti-anxiety) early, but I'm not sure it helped much. I'm having a bit of trouble, too, coordinating Tom's memorial. I'd just like to wake up and have it all set to go... Maybe giving me a chance at some point to just curl up in the fetal position and suck my thumb. (Figuratively speaking.) I'm feeling a bit overextended...as if there are too many things still to do and I'm having trouble multi-tasking. Dealing with minor annoyances... NEVER give anyone a prepaid debit bank card. They are really more aggravation than they're worth. Of course it just might be the fact it's JANUARY. I'm heading over to Tangibles antique shop to see Cesar, whom Tom worked with for a long time, before I go to the Press Room session. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 31 Jan 14 - 02:12 PM Brave on, Linn. Gotta be rough for you but it's just what ya gotta do. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:26 PM Friday night. Let's just chill... relax... take a moment... don't do anything at all. |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:38 PM AND... at the risk of thread drift, check these guys out.They do covers of everything from you name it to rap and they do it well. Their musical abilities and comedic cover parodies are, in my opinion, unequaled. If you want a break from life, here it is. This is FAR from the best of their many cuts and vids but it follows my previous post. I am gonna post my fav next post but this one demonstrates some of what they do. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1lyuTsquH9Q&feature=fvwp&NR=1 |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: gnu Date: 31 Jan 14 - 05:53 PM I know this thread is about healing and caring and consoling. But... others have posted music so I wanna share sommat that has simply lifted my spirits in music and also comedically... these guys are a treasure and a comfort... a distraction when needed. If you enjoy their entertainment, I have posted well. If not, well, nothing venture... Here is the original... I like it... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cv6tuzHUuuk Here is the Bluegrass version... I like it a lot... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PS0P7w4YCDI |
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Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort From: catspaw49 Date: 31 Jan 14 - 07:28 PM Yeah gnu, but as you well know, sometimes you need to take a break and say, "What the fuck!"..........Thanks 3200 --- Lots of posts on the best thread Mudcat ever had! Spaw |
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