Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Nov 15 - 09:39 PM

Oh, my! If I'd realized my post moments ago was going to be #4800, I would have tried to come up with something profound.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 10 Nov 15 - 08:39 AM

It's the simple things that are the most profound.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Nov 15 - 01:53 PM

You mean me?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Maeve, away from home
Date: 10 Nov 15 - 02:42 PM

Simple you are not, friend gnu. Profound, yes. Simple, no.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 09:21 AM

Off to New Jersey on Thursday, first time for 12 years. Have to admit Billy and I are emotionally and mentally drained, the past month has been the most difficult. Mother has had 2 falls, a choking incident and a suspected TIA, all needing paramedics to come out ( thanks to our wonderful NHS, they were fantastic)

We have organised 24 hour care and my daughter will be popping in every day.

So looking forward to spending Thanksgiving with Billy's four sisters and their families, and maybe a visit to Cape May?

with love to all the crew

Wendy xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 10:25 AM

Safe travels, Wendy!
Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 01:39 PM

Enjoy your travels.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 04:34 PM

Have a wonderful time in New Jersey, Wendy...you & BB deserve it so much.
Travel safely...enjoy every moment,
                                                         With Love,
                                                                         Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 13 Nov 15 - 09:12 PM

Happy trails to you!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 14 Nov 15 - 04:43 AM

Have a great trip Wendy!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 15 Nov 15 - 05:11 AM

I have been experiencing upload problems over the last few weeks...i.e., the upload doesn't 'take'. I am Mac based & recently installed OS X 'El Capitan'...anyone know if there could be conflict between my OS & the Mudcat servers?

I wanted to say this recently:
                                              "Perhaps we could describe gnu as 'simply profound'

Wishing everyone a 'calm sea & a prosperous voyage' (with apologies to Mendelssohn)
                                                With Love,
                                                                Nigel xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 15 Nov 15 - 07:21 AM

I'll take that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 06:48 AM

Nigel- Maybe ask Joe Offer via email?

How's Wendy's trip going, I wonder.

Lisa, I think of you daily. Please know that you and your son are in our hearts.

Tam, I wonder what you found when you arrived in the States for your family visit. Have you managed to sort the worst of the worrisome issues? I do hope you remember to take good care of yourself too.

gnu- simply profound sounds about right. You're a fine shipmate.

Janie- Sending you patience and fortitude as you recover a more active life. You had both a-plenty so you should be filled to the brim even when daily challenges seem too much to bear.

Bobert- Missing you here. Courage, laughter, and music are yours.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:22 AM

Been trying to find the words to share this on The Rainbow. My grandmother is slowly fading away. My mother, who has selflessly been her caregiver for the past eight years, is burned out due to other family members who live nearby being unwilling to provide even a five day respite every other month. I don't get down as often as I should, but the stress of being in a situation with so many feuding parties always ends up making me physically ill after every visit.

Hospice had been set up at home, but my mum just can't do it anymore. Her health is fragile, as well, so my gramma may end up in a nursing home. Which of course makes Mum feel guilty. She's deflected a lot of family criticism away from me, because apparently certain family members feel I should drop everything in my life and go down and take over nursing duties. I am not a caregiver. I have many talents, but that is not one of them. Replace the leaking showerhead, reglaze the windows, yes. Administer insulin injections, cook, and clean, not so much.

Anyway, just feeling like I need a hug today.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:26 AM

Tami,

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Hugs!}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:30 AM

Thank you, Janie. I needed that.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:43 AM

Similar health issues here Tami, and many hugs going your way (((Tami)))

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:55 AM

r1 and m... hugs. It's tough.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 10:43 AM

Thanks, g. You know.

(((g)))

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 06:02 PM

My dad was just getting used to the idea of going into a home of some sort before he died, and we (becky and I ) went to see one place the day before. Maybe grandma. Would be ok with it. Your mum would certainly have no need to feel guilty, as I expect she would visit often. I used to see my dad most days but my brother found it difficult, but he handled the practical jobs side, which would have been challenging for me. We do what we can , and there is no value in feeling bad about what we cannot manage.   Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 17 Nov 15 - 09:08 PM

Tami, many hugs from me, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 18 Nov 15 - 01:06 AM

Huge hugs Tami and her mother, and lovely Maeve. The best words of advice I had was from Admiral Nurses "don't feel guilty" Tami I couldn't mend anything unless it involved sewing. Mouse's would never be gently caught and sent back to the woods! In fact I should be sleeping now but a tiny spider just caused me to shreek and wake up BB who is now making tea!! We all do our best to share the worries in the best way we can.We are off to Heathrow this afternoon and I am feeling guilty for leaving mother,but will think of that Admiral Nurse and her wise words!
New Jersey here I come!
With love and hugs
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 18 Nov 15 - 09:02 AM

Thank you all so much!

Wendy, safe journeys.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 20 Nov 15 - 07:03 AM

Good morning from NJ,arrived last night and overwhelmed with love from Bills family. We both had the best night sleep in ages! Keep the Rainbow safe in calm waters,as for BB and me let the adventure begin.
With love
Wendy xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST
Date: 20 Nov 15 - 05:19 PM

Hope you have a blast on "shore leave", Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 20 Nov 15 - 07:42 PM

Welcome back to the US, Wendy! Enjoy your stay!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 21 Nov 15 - 01:21 PM

Glad to here it, Wendy. Enjoy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 23 Nov 15 - 10:40 PM

Lifting the Rainbow to the top . . .

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 24 Nov 15 - 03:26 AM

best wishes to all

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 24 Nov 15 - 02:13 PM

My eldest granddaughter re established contact with her birth father after he had disowned her most of her life and never paying maintenance. Now she thinks it's all wonderful. We hope she don't end up a mess all this. Her mum ain't doing too well with the stress of it all.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 24 Nov 15 - 09:32 PM

Pete, I hope the birth father has reformed. If I were the mum, I'd be stressed, too.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,SPB at work
Date: 26 Nov 15 - 09:15 AM

On Wednesday, my partner's mother died. As she lives in Prague and I in London, I feel I cannot do enough to help apart form being available on the phone every evening.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 26 Nov 15 - 10:21 AM

Thanks, today, for this whole supportive crew. We'll be taking off in a bit to get the father-in-law and take him to his (unfortunately now deceased) girlfriend's granddaughter's home for today's people-stuffing observance.

          Dean

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 26 Nov 15 - 12:58 PM

Wishing my Family in America & my loyal & true American Friends a very Happy Thanksgiving. The World feels restless...I hope you all find peace within the bosom of your Family as you gather around the dinner table.
                                                   With Love,
                                                                   Nigel & Ann xxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 27 Nov 15 - 06:40 AM

SPB- "I feel I cannot do enough to help apart from being available on the phone every evening." But you are doing what you can do, and that's important to your partner. Losing a loved parent is hard. My condolences.

That's a part of what has made this favorite thread function successfully. We have tried to be consistently available for one another. I'm thankful we are here together.

Maeve

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 28 Nov 15 - 06:24 AM

Agreed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 28 Nov 15 - 03:57 PM

SPB, I'm sending hugs to your partner and you. That's all I can do.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 30 Nov 15 - 02:03 PM

On a day when I desperately needed a laugh, UPS delivered an anonymous package from Amazon.

I've been live trapping deer mice for the last month or so and had been having fun with it on Facebook, posting little mouse mugshots, naming them, and detailing their personalities. I even started a "guess how many mice Tami catches" game with my friends. Someone with a sense of humor sent me a field mouse finger puppet. I had a suspect in mind, and with a little detective work, I confirmed my suspicions.

I give thanks for friends who know when I need a pick-me-up, and how to do it.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 02:17 AM

Lovely anecdote of a lovely thought, ranger 1.    Blessings all.       Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 06:49 AM

Enjoyed all the game and all the posts at FB, r1.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 12:36 PM

My cousin Sean and I are going to try to do a Storycorps-style interview with my grandmother before she passes. I've sent out messages to the other grandkids asking for questions/stories they'd like to find out about. So far, everyone's on board. We'll try for on camera, but if Gramma's not up to it, we'll just go for voice recording.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Dec 15 - 08:43 PM

That is a great idea, Tami. Wish my grandparents would have allowed that. We tried, but all Pawpaw would consent to be recorded was him praying for us for 45 minutes. That was not what we were seeking, but still a precious recording.

Ahhh, SPB. Thank you for inviting the crew to add wind to the sails of your love, care and concern to speed it across the land and sea to those you hold dear and to offer what solace we can.

Turned 64 a few days ago. Instead of losing hair, I am gaining hair. And healthier hair. From what folks say, the enforced rest and attention to better nutrition as the result of the accident has been good for my appearance, and presumably, my health. Having more dreams of being two legged again. Start serious outpatient physical therapy tomorrow. Rarely need pain meds, and even then, only occasionally at night.

I'll paraphrase something I posted on Facebook - Was annoyed to bite into a seeded grape at breakfast, having not paid close attention to the signs in the produce section. Then felt grateful that my life is such that biting into a seeded grape is something about which to feel annoyed.

My life is, and always has been, so incredibly rich. Part of that richness is owed to Mudcat and in particular, this stalwart crew.

To echo Frogprince. Thankful for all of you.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 02 Dec 15 - 10:51 AM

Sending love to all the above, flying home late Thursday. We have had THE most amazing two weeks with Billys wonderful family, had too buy two extra bags for all the gifts!Even the weather has been kind,sitting on the beach at Cape May last Saturday. Going home stronger and happier than we both can remember,
Love you USA
With love to all the crew
Wendy and Billy
Xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Dec 15 - 05:34 AM

Glad to hear the good news, Janie and Wendy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Peter from seven stars link
Date: 03 Dec 15 - 12:26 PM

Good to hear Wendy. And well deserved,.      Susan(wysiwyg). Referenced Jamie in another thread relating to the recent shootings. Hope all is well for her and anyone she knows.       Blessings.    Pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 03 Dec 15 - 12:52 PM

Pete, the shootings were in California, and Janie lives in North Carolina. Janie is safe.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Dec 15 - 01:03 PM

thanks, maybe I misread the post.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ranger1
Date: 04 Dec 15 - 01:50 PM

No, the way the post was worded did make it sound that way. I just wanted you to know that our Janie is safe so you wouldn't worry about her.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 06 Dec 15 - 09:45 AM

refresh...

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 06 Dec 15 - 05:52 PM

very fresh!