Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 12 Jun 14 - 07:28 PM

Not such good news today. Ian rang me an hour ago - John died at 7am this morning. I'm feeling slightly dazed right now.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 12 Jun 14 - 05:44 AM

Yah! Wendy, & good news from Jennie, too

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 09:41 PM

Good for Billy! Good for John!

I'm going away for a few days, so if I don't post, I'll still be sending prayers, healing energy, etc.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 06:37 PM

That good to hear, Wendy!

My brother John is holding his own, as the saying goes (I wonder where it came from? note to self: check saying), and my SIL told me that their daughters have both gone home as the immediate danger seems to have passed. They were waiting for a talk with his oncologist to see what happens next. We're geographically scattered; my brother and SIL live about four hours north of here but the hospital is a few hours further away again in Brisbane, our other brother lives in Sydney (six hours south-east from here), one of John's daughters also lives in Sydney, the other lives in Melbourne.   Just as well we have planes, isn't it?

Thank you, everyone, for your good thoughts and wishes, and I am sending lots more back!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 05:23 PM

what a boost, great !
trust the concerns regarding your mum and her care are resolved as best for her and yourselves.
thoughts and prayers still for jenny.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 07:01 AM

Wonderful news!!!!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 11 Jun 14 - 06:59 AM

Whoo hoo !!!!

Billy just texted from the hospital, perfect blood counts, next appointment four months time. I can uncross my fingers now, not the best way to do aromatherapy massage!! Whoot

love to all

Wendy xxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 09:22 PM

At a girl, Wendy! You are a woman of action! And of course Billy is in my thoughts!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 06:01 AM

Hope ALL goes well, Wendy... et al.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 05:37 AM

Well, after a weekend of non sleep, I gave myself a strong talking too and decided to stop being a wooze and take control. Phoned the social worker and said I felt bullied and requested another meeting for next week then I phoned the MD of the care company and he recommended a solicitor who has a division that deals with my sort of problem. Phoned them and a delightful young lady listened to my concerns and she is coming to see me next week with a lady who deals with finance. Mum still owns her bungalow and it is rented out to bring in a small income, I prefer not to sell it as the funds will start to deplete paying for her care , but we have run out of savings so we have to raise some money asap! Feel so much better and will wait and see what advice they can give me. The only fly in the ointment is my brother, who sees the bungalow as his " inheritance" nuff said on that !!

Billy goes to see his consultant tomorrow, fingers crossed for the blood count, it is eighteen months since he finished chemo, hold him in your thoughts please?

With love to all this beautiful crew, sailing on , the sea is blue as is the sky and the sun is beaming down here in sunny Frinton.

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 10 Jun 14 - 04:55 AM

love to JennieG & all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 09 Jun 14 - 09:25 PM

What, no posts yet today? Sending good thoughts to everyone! Refresh!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 05:35 PM

we are reflecting in empathy with you jenny.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: frogprince
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 11:18 AM

Keepin' Wendy, JennieG, and all the crew in heart.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 07:49 AM

Jenny, I think I can imagine all the reflecting you are engaged in now, the wondering and even anxiety, and the remembering. Holding you, your brother and your entire family in my thoughts.

Oh, you lovely crew! I'm grateful for your company.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 08 Jun 14 - 12:12 AM

Thank you all.....yours are very comforting. There's no news yet, but every time the phone rings I am thinking "is this the call".....

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 08:11 PM

JennieG, that must be tough.

Wendy, good for you. Stand up for your mum and for yourself.

And Nigel, tell Ann I said welcome home.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: KT
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 07:25 PM

Hi all. I'm around these parts infrequently these days, but when I am, I always check in here, and though I don't often post, I do hold all of you in heart and mind.

Wendy, you said, "That is who my mother IS!!" I love that!! You are SO right! As a former Recreation Therapist at our local home, I know that to be true, and it can't be emphasized enough! She is all that is evident in that photo, and SO much more! All the best to you as you continue this journey.

And the best to everyone else, too. You are all dear folks, and I'm grateful to know you, even if only virtually. Just checking in here is comforting...just knowing you're all out there.

KT

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 05:52 PM

Wendy... hang tough and take time to mull things over carefully. You'll make the right choice... she's yer mum. And let them know that. I am sure they will understand. My prayers and thoughts are with you and yer mum.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 05:44 PM

paused to offer prayer for jenny and family.
and to wendy and her mum.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 07:35 AM

Sending love to Jennie G, this is the most wonderful place to come for comfort and share your feelings,Nigel,as usual, puts it so well xx

I had a meeting with mum's social worker yesterday, she brought a much younger lady with her who, I imagine is the team leader? I felt railroaded, didn't sleep at all last night. I feel they are pushing me in a direction I do not wish to go! I did have one moment of rebellion, I pointed out that it was 70 years since D day and that my mother had been in the Womens Royal Airforce throughout WW2 and on a day of giving thanks for all those brave people who were so young in 1944, I was beginning to feel that it was inconvenient living to 90!!
Don't know if it made them think but I felt better. I made a point of showing them mum's memory book and opened the page with a photo of a beautiful nineteen year old in her uniform. That is who my mother IS!!The frail , confused old lady still has the same beautiful smile and she is still the same inside.

Rant over, welcome home Ann, love to all the crew, I am off to the beach hut to have lunch with Billy in the rain!!

Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 06:29 AM

JennieG, I can only echo what Nigel has said. His words lead me to muse. This thread is a combination of many 'shoulders'... each broad and always here if and when you need them.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 07 Jun 14 - 06:17 AM

ChanteyLass & everyone, yes, Ann is safely back from Charlotte, NC. I met her at Heathrow yesterday morning...a red-eye special, courtesy of US Airways. She is currently sleeping off the jet lag. We both recover from the East-West flight much quicker than the West-East overnight return.

JennieG, you've come to the right place. Share what you need to share. There is wisdom, experience, love & support, right here. When Life's natural order is turned upside down, it IS odd...very odd. You are most welcome. The Crew of The Rainbow reaches out to you as only they know how.
                      With Love,
                                     Nigel & Ann
                                     xxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: JennieG
Date: 06 Jun 14 - 11:41 PM

I don't post often, but do read this thread. Never thought I might need it, though.

Yesterday morning my brother Ian (I have two younger brothers) rang to tell me that our brother John is in hospital and is not expected to last much longer. Last night my SIL said he was stable and as comfortable as could be expected, but it's now just a matter of time which could be as short as a few days, or as long as a few weeks.

We aren't, and never have been,a close family, but there is no animosity - just distance, both literally and figuratively. However it's still an odd sensation to outlive a younger sibling.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 06 Jun 14 - 08:13 PM

Nigel, did Ann make it home? And are you starting to feel any better?

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Janie
Date: 05 Jun 14 - 03:39 PM

Up!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 04 Jun 14 - 03:51 PM

wishing well for wendy, gnu and their mums.
my dads oddities seem mild by comparison.
"love is patient, love is kind...." I Corinthians 13v 4
or as the old version has it-
"charity suffereth long, and is kind...."
right on gnu!.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Sandra in Sydney
Date: 04 Jun 14 - 06:02 AM

adding my bit to the good wishes on the Rainbow

love to all

sandra

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 04 Jun 14 - 05:38 AM

Thank you Pete...just for the record (no pun intended), 'Mad Tom O'Bedlam' & the rest of The Halliard repertoire were written by Dave Moran & Nic Jones. Nic & I then arranged the instrumental parts to make the songs performable. Thinking of you & Tommy & trusting the bone scan comes back with encouraging news.

Wendy...I'm lost for words. Thank you seems totally inadequate. Through all your trials & tribulations, you find time for me & always raise my spirits. I've said this before, but from your tentative first posts, you've become a stalwart Crew member. You are loved, admired & respected in equal measure. The trite comments I make on FB are a 'smoke screen'. The real me appears only here. Wendy, your candour & willingness to share in such intimate detail has emboldened me to 'open up' & for that, I am truly grateful.

ChanteyLass...I'm hanging in, but it's a real finger tip job! Knowing that I sail in such distinguished company, firms up those old fingertips, so I won't be letting go any time soon.

Gnu, what a meaningful sentence: "Patience IS love and that is what it is all about." I need to learn from that. I'm not renowned for my Patience.

I've left a message on Dan's thread. That he is on line & responding is very encouraging. I hope he visits us here when he is well enough so to do.

My final thoughts are reserved for Spaw. I hope you get to read this because after a little research, I discovered that 'Pat' (Patrick) means: "Scion of a noble family." It's not beyond the bounds of credibility that you could be descended from Scottish Royalty! Rise UP Sir Spaw!
       With Love to You All,
                                       Nigel.
                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 09:43 PM

Nigel, hang in there! Friday and Ann will both be here soon.
Wendy, gnu, hugs to you both and to your moms.
Pete, I'm glad Tommy's cast has been removed.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 09:16 PM

Dan posted!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 08:13 PM

Ts&Ps, Wendy. It's hard. I had a hell of a conversation with Mum today. And, after I took her out to the grocery, we had a conversation about paying bills by cash or by cheques. Yes, no, yes in just over a minute... and she got POd at herself. Similar happens pretty much every day. Just getting her to tell me if she did like the seafood chowder is a chore. She did like it... of course >;). Patience IS love and that is what it is all about. Love to you and yours. And to all the crew and beyond.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: billybob
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 05:29 PM

Reading through all the above posts, so difficult to send love to each and everyone by name..........so love to each and everyone, but very special thoughts and prayers to Nigel, without him the Rainbow would never have set sail and all these lovely people would be adrift on an ocean with no fellow sailors to hold them in their hearts.

Mother has been very ill again this last few days, chest condition worsening and the wrong antibiotics caused an upsetting tummy problem. But today she has bounced back although the Dementia has      gone down another level, very first time she was very angry and waved her fist at me. Pure frustration at our ability to not understand what she was trying to say!

Was really looking forward to going to Essex Girls bar b q on Sunday in London, but I really don't think we will be able to go, maybe I should organise another of our garden " House concerts"

Sailing on,

Love and peaceful thoughts
Wendy xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 12:28 PM

Hope all goes well, pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 11:31 AM

just been listening to most of the dan tracks gnu posted.
some nice tunes. nice fingerpicking.....be nice to be able to do that so well!
paused to offer a prayer for dan, big al and wife, and nigel.
hope you surface from your creative strangling depression soon. your bedlam song got another airing at singaround last night, and you done lots of great tunes since.
tommy finally had the cast removed today. tender and slowly slowly but otherwise healed up, we think, though we are up to London tomorrow checking bone density.
blessings all    pete.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Will Fly
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 06:13 AM

I located St Vincents Hospital in Erie yesterday, and sent an e-card to Dan. Heard last night, after getting home from a gig, that it had reached him.

It's odd, isn't it? I'm a fairly rational kind of guy - don't believe in second sight or ghosts or mystical things, and I'm pretty grounded most of the time. But I'd been musing on the good people who rarely post or don't post at all on Mudcat these days, and my thoughts turned, among others, to Dan. He'd recently sent me a wrist watch as a present and simultaneously arranged for an old WW2 military chronograph to be mended by our Amish friend Mahlon.

Then, for no reason whatsoever, I opened this thread - which I've never looked at before - out of curiosity. Lo and behold - there was the recent news of Dan! I'm still pretty rational and grounded - but a big thanks to Coincidence, in all its shapes and forms, for getting the news to me!

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 03 Jun 14 - 05:41 AM

Well put, Janie. I think I'm in the "... choppy white caps and dangerous shoals..." quadrant. With Ann away in NC, I'm not doing very well. An overwhelming depression has robbed me of any creative inclinations. It's now more than two months since I wrote a single note of Music. Ann returns this coming Friday. She'll find our house clean & tidy...I have managed to achieve that at least. Suffering from Diabetes & PMR, leaves me wasted & very debilitated. That's largely the genesis of the depression, in addition to which I feel guilty because I have not been able to offer the level of support several of our Crew members (and friends of Crew members) so desperately need. I should stop now...I'm in real danger of drowning in my own self-pity. Janie's last words above speak for me too: "Life. Eh? Glad to have all of you with whom to share the journey".
                                          With Love to You All,
                                                                         Nigel
                                                                         xxxx

PS Thanks to Max, Joe et al for getting the new server up & running.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 09:11 PM

Thanks for the heads-up re: Al's wife, gnu. I had stopped checking that thread.

On board ship, it seems, when one turns through a full 360 degrees, all manner of weather and seas - the gamut from sunny and blue and fair, to sweltering doldrums, to choppy white caps and dangerous shoals, to raging storms.

Life. Eh? Glad to have all of you with whom to share the journey.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: ChanteyLass
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 08:15 PM

I'm sending positive energy to Big Al's wife in addition to others.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Will Fly
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 10:40 AM

If anyone gets news of Dan, please post it here - as I'm sure someone will. He's been a wonderful friend to me, both with music and with our mutual love of old pocket watches and wristwatches. The "Old Pocket Watches" thread seems very empty without him - and England's a long way off from where he is.

And, yes, best wishes to Big Al and his wife as well.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 07:18 AM

Just a heads up (via Meagan L)... in part:

Subject: RE: Why Do Musicians Work For Nothing?
From: Big Al Whittle - PM
Date: 02 Jun 14 - 05:30 AM

... as for my wife - we are in crisis at the moment - bad reaction to an anti inflammatory. things are never less than iffy - this week they're in meltdown. I value your friendships.
******************************************************

A little Mudcat Mojo for Big Al's wife and for him is a good thing. He's one of the good ones.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 08:12 PM

Oh! Some may not know. My name is Gary Owens. Sorry about not explaining that part.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 08:04 PM

Dan? THE man. The guy goes out of his way to be nice to people he has never met in 3D. No shit. No flies. Just a great guy. I am primed to cheer for the Chicago Blackhawks so, maybe I shouldn't but I wanna let people know how good a man he is. He knew from my posts that I was a true New England Patriots fan (Yankee football... best 'foot'ball in the world) and then... this arrived in the mail.

https://www.flickr.com/photos/15565423@N05/8475316641/

Cool watch too if ya check out the other pics. It sure looks good when I pull it out of my vest pocket.

My fav song is Owens Appalachia.... obviously. Thanks, Dan. You da man.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,Pete from seven stars link
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 06:33 PM

Checking in with thoughts and prayers. Blessings all.    Pete

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 04:11 PM

I expect it will be awhile before Dan is up to attending, much less responding to posts. Hoping and expecting the surgery went well, but as Pat already noted, the recovery time is long and the anesthesia for this surgery is deep and can take quite a long time from which to recover.

Up Dan! Up Spaw!

I think I have finally found a bonafide starling/grackle proof suet feeder! I know they have to eat also, but they are such gluttons I can't afford it!

Doesn't take much to make me happy.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Nigel Paterson
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 01:07 PM

Thinking of Dan & Spaw & feeling greatly frustrated by the miles that separate us. The geography is daunting, but in no way is my love & compassion diminished.
                Sending Love, Hugs & Kisses to a loyal, trustworthy Crew,
                                                                                                       Nigel
                                                                                                       xxxx

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: gnu
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 10:20 AM

"Feels good and hopeful." Feels good to read that.

Thinking of Dan.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: maeve
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 10:19 AM

I've just send an e-card to Dan via the hospital's e-card service. Has anyone gotten an update- while preserving his privacy, of course. Spaw darlin'? (And how be ye, Spaw?)

Janie- Good for you. Growth does take time and energy, eh? Love to you.

Up ye all and joy to crew and visitors to this watery thread.
Maeve.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: Janie
Date: 01 Jun 14 - 12:32 AM

I'm finally beginning to embrace where I am now.

One can not embrace where one is now until one has grieved what one chose to leave. I knew that, but did not expect it to take so long.

Feels good and hopeful.

Subject: RE: Jane's Rainbow: for all needing support & comfort
From: GUEST,pete from seven stars link
Date: 31 May 14 - 05:04 PM

prayerful thoughts for spaw and dan, as well as the communal UP !